Girls... when you go out and people stare?

Question

I have this problem, I consider myself to be a good looking girl, I weigh 102 I am 5'3 or 4, black hair, tan skin, nice curves for my weight. but i have this problem where I get really nervous when I am by myself going places I feel like EVERY ONE is watching me! It bothers so much that i get scared to get off in gas stations, or find my car in a large parking lot. I hate to go out and eat alone or in a small group of 2, again i feel like there are hawks watching my every move... I dont mean to sound rediculas, but I really catch people starring and it really bothers me (on a regular day) Any woman out there go through the same thing? If so, how do you comfort yourself?

I am married, and he notices, but he learned to ignor it unless some one disrespects me.

Brian.. I have confidence I just feel like I have no privacy.

Answer 1

i believe that you are a little conceded. get over yourself

Answer 2

How do you dress? How do you walk, how do you carry yourself?

Walk with purpose, not uncertainty. Hold your head high, your shoulders proud. Look around you in observing the environment, not in fear of picking out a would-be attacker.

Dress in a manner in which you don't reveal every body part that is legal. Wearing short skirts and shorts paired with midriff-showing tight tiny tees will definately catch every eye - men AND women. You can be fashionable while wearing sensible clothing.

Then, if someone stares, it is because you are beautiful, self-confident, and worthy of the attention. People with bad intentions can tell if someone is self-confident, strong, with good self-esteem and they know they cannot affect someone like this.

I really think that you just sound very self-conscious and unsure of yourself to the point of being slightly paranoid. You realize this and you feel vulnerable. Bad people can tell the difference.

If you find yourself having a hard time believing yourself and it is interfering with your daily life then you should get some counseling. It would be helpful to help you develop a better sense of security.

Even though you should always keep aware of your surroundings and on the lookout for potential danger, you should be able to go out alone and not be in fear of the unmentioned.

I am concerned that you are 5'3" and only 102 lbs. That's pretty thin. I hope you are eating well and just happen to be naturally thin. When I think about it, that makes me feel really fat at 5'1 and 135 lbs (it's all in my butt and thighs - i swear!)

Answer 3

I use to feel like that, then I started smiling and staring back. No, I did not stop to talk to those people, but I did unnerve some who meant to make me nervous. After that I decided that I would just act at being someone else so if anyone asked my name I would give them a different one every time, plus I bought a "wedding band" and began wearing that! You would not believe how many men were happy that I was "Taken" and so quit acting like jerks and predators! Now that I am married, I still act as if I were someone else (invented a character who was more sure of themselves and a bit aggressive, yet still helpful if needed) and I find that I no longer have to act the part, but am that confident person and am no longer afraid to be on my own!

Good luck!

Answer 4

Yes I hate it I go out on those days where im feeling I dont want to be noticed i wear big shades so they do make so much eye contact and that they are dark the don't know if your looking or not so they don't stare so much oh and some times a baseball cap lol when i go to clubs ill wear light shades but reflective mirror so I can still see !! Feel better-I hate it too Im a homebody......

Answer 5

First, think about whether the way you dress or act calls attention to you. Like it or not, if you're wearing really sexy clothes or are loud and crazy, people will look. Think about changing these things first.

If the above is not the problem, then perhaps a therapist or psychiatrist can help with an anxiety issues you may have.

Answer 6

Giiiirrrrrrrl, I feel the SAME way!

It's like, I'll get all cute, and feel good about myself, and I'll go to the mall and feel like Everyone is looking at me.

Then I start thinking, "Am I walking funny?" or "do I have something in my hair" or "Are my clothes fitting funny?"

Then when I get home and look in the mirror, I see that I looked damn good!
Why was I trippen? I should have been strutting my stuff!

It happens at Starbucks, at the book stores, food places. Yea I can relate.

What helps me is to just walk with my head up, walk with confidence, sometimes I'll pretend I'm a celebrity, and people are going to stare.

People stare at beautiful people. When you see a beautiful person don't you just want to look at them? Just to see what makes them look so special. You're probably gorgeous and people want to look at you. Hold your head up, and enjoy the attention! : )

Answer 7

hello

I think alot of it maybe to do with confidence.
Everyone looks at everyone, its just something that people do. I bet you look at people without even thinking about it do you??!
Some people like yourself do worry that people are and they aren't they are just going about their normal day to day things. Why would they look at you, you sound as if your just a regular person so why would anyonme stare at you?!
Sometimes you see people stare at people with disabilites this is because sometimes when we see something that we are not used to seeing we look out of curiosity , whoever this isnt the case with you as you are just an average person.
Try not to let it worry you i think everyone feels like that at some point i know i have and i have delt with it by just blocking it out and throwing myself into whatever it siim doing.
Try not to let it bother you, it doesnt mean anything.

Hope this helps

Not sure how old you are but maybe you will grow out of this problem.

I'm nearly 20 by the way incase that helps too!

xxxxx

Answer 8

I kinda go through the same thing cause even wen i put a mean face on it seems like it gets worse. But jus brush it off and jus smile on the inside cause u kno their lookin for a good reason. Or jus get a bf like me cause that TRULY works or if not get a guy friend.

Answer 9

Yes, I understand how you feel. It's really a mix of things. For me at least, I feel like in the past men especially have made glances and stares that made me quite uncomfortable. I go out by myself and feel like there are eyes glued to me as I walk by. I don't mean to sound conceited, but you feel very self cautious..

Answer 10

I dont feel that way on a regular basis but when we go to a party or club i always feel like the other girls are giving me the evil eye. sometimes i cant even be myself.

i usually just tell myself they are jealous (to make me feel better) then give the looks right back. its only like 1 in 100 girls who will step up and actually say something. then just nock them out and keep on partying

Answer 11

I have the same problem. I can get very paranoid. What I do is just tell myself that no one is watching me. It works sometimes if you tell your self enough. If it's really noticable and makes me really uncomfortable, I give them a dirty look and they stop every time. I hope this helps:)♥