10 month old changing daycare?

Question

Okay my 10 month old dd is going to start a new daycare on Monday and she has been with the same lady in-home daycare since she was 3 months old. We have had some small issues with the lady, and just would like our dd to be with more kids her age and have a sort of schedule. I am so worried about how long she will cry. She has separation anxiety really bad even when a grandparent comes to babysit, she will cry and cry. Now there will be 8-9 other 12 month olds, and 1 other that is 1 month younger than her at the daycare with 2 teachers. the younger ones mom will be one of the teachers. Right now she is only around 3 other kids, which are 15 month old, 4 year old and a 2 year old, then the 10 year old grandson. I am just worried she might get overwhelmed at first. Has anyone else had this situation?? Do you think it might change her whole behavior cause right now she is a great, happy baby?

Did she have any issues with sleeping at night during this transition and/or did their behavior change at all?

Answer 1

If your daughter cries when she is separated from you and other people she is used to, it's a sign that she has formed healthy attachments (it's a developmental stage called Trust vs. Mistrust). I would be more worried if she didn't react with fear.

It's normal for her to cry. She might be upset for a couple of minutes, or for a few days. Either way, the change is not damaging for her. She'll likely be intrigued by the other children and want to observe them. It will probably overwhelm her at first, but it's nothing she won't easily get used to. As long as she is safely looked after (not getting bumped in the hustle and bustle of older kids) and paid plenty of adult attention, she will do very well.

Good luck and don't worry!

Answer 2

It would be ideal to ease her into the new surrounding slowly but we know that isn't always an option. Instead, start by preparing her the night before by talking (excitedly) about her new daycare. If she has a comfort toy or blanket it would be best to label that and have it on hand to provide her some security in your absense. Remind her on monday morning when she wakes up that she gets to play at the new daycare. Be positive and fairly brief when saying good-bye (never sneak out) and ensure a daycare worker has an activity on hand to distract her from the anxiety she may feel upon your leaving. Get to know and use the names of the workers so that she feels more acquainted with the new faces and become a little more secure. Get feedback from the staff upon picking her up and talk to her about the fun things she got to do. It will take time but all these techniques will make the adjustment a little easier on her.

Answer 3

Oh how sad. Read your previous question and see the problem with the in home day care. You need to just stay home with your child now. You see, having more than one babysitter in an infant's life is bad for them. Have you ever read the NICHD studies? More than 10 hours a week separation from mommy in the first year of life causes grave damage to a child's ability to trust, to bond, and to feel loved. More than 10 hours a week separation from mommy in the first three years continues to cause problems with school functioning through junior high at least, behavior problems, learning problems, physical problems, and family problems.

It's a really bad choice. She was a happy baby with the day care provider you feel you can no longer trust. No you will switch her to a center where life is very very bad for babies.

It really seems like being with her is the only right thing to do. Go into debt. Do what it takes, but don't subject your child to all this damage.

Answer 4

My son became around that age as quickly as I took him from domicile care to daycare. My suggestion would be to make some beyond universal time monday morning to get her there a sprint early. bypass in and introduce her to the instructor and tutor her round her room. locate toys or take a snack that she likes with you and notice if she'll sit down and the two play with the toys or consume her snack and which will make it a sprint less demanding to kiss her and with out postpone get out. Daycares are used to this and could certainly help, yet i did no longer like them attempting to pull the youngster removed from me and me leaving with him kicking and screaming, so for the 1st week i merely made beyond universal time to spend with him there (15 - 20 minutes tops).....and get their interest on some thing and characteristic different toddlers come play around your infant, while she sees you walk away she would commence crying yet at that ingredient merely save strolling and phone once you get to the place you are going to work out how long the extra healthful lasted. some days of her understanding that's now element of her recurring and knows that mommy will come back, she would manage to be high-quality!!!

Answer 5

She will have a hard time at first, then get over it. After a little while, especially after she realizes that all the other babies don't get upset about mommy leaving, she will fall right into the rhythm of it. It' a very rare child who doesn't - although it may take mere days or a lot of weeks, depending on the child. Be strong, it really does hurt you a lot more than her, lol.

Answer 6

We had that. We went from a one hour visit. To a half day. To a whole day. Took about a week to adjust - it tears at your heart. Now they dont want to go home - that tears at your heart too :)

Good luck.