respect morals and what not..but...im a really "liberal" kind of person and im so over this christian idea of marrying early and being traditional. i dont think i'll be one of the girls who are in a hurry to get married. i KNOW im not getting married in my 20s thats 4 sure. the career path that i want is more important than having a family, for me.
i used to want kids but for like the past few years - ive been like HELL NO. mind you im 17..but i have a couple friends that graduated from college 2 years ago and they agree. i hope to god im one of those ppl..wait im getting side tracked lol
OKAY: ive come close to having sex but the word "no" does exist...im not saving myself for marriage. (just not ready 2 b a teenage mommy.) it isnt sacred to me considering that up until recently over half the population was divorced..n e way. my mom hates that im that way - but id rather have sex with bfs in my 20s than get married, pop out kids, and live a dull empty life....or join a convent
2007-06-01 07:09:19 · 23 answers · asked by Gone, Gone, Gone. 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
My dear, that ship has sailed.
And it sailed a lot. Back and forth. Whew, a wet, rocky ride indeed. As a matter of fact, a new voyage sets sail this afternoon!
2007-06-01 07:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by Get Smart™ 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
17 is still young enough to not have had sex, on the other hand, 30 is rather old. As overrated as sex may be, it is still part of life and sticking to that vow may be hard, let alone pointless. Keep in mind that at some point (around 25) most if not all your peers will have had sex and that will, to some extent, be an important part of their lives and relationships. So your decision to "save yourself for marriage" may lead you to skip out the chance to know, relate with and even marry the most interesting people around. However, it is my feeling that as you age, your views will also mature and, hopefully, you will make a thoughtful decision. Meanwhile, "saving" it is a good place to be and don't allow people to bully you into doing something you're not ready or don't feel like doing.
On the other hand, once you do find someone you view as a possible life partner, you might still be too young to marry (career wise and others) but, by not allowing the relation to develop to a natural step (i,e. sex) you might (a) loose it; (b) precipitate the decision to marry because your hormones are pumping; (c) miss the chance to see how inappropriate that partner is and how much better the next one in line would have been.
My best wishes.
2007-06-01 07:32:44 · answer #2 · answered by Dull 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I'm not but I have no intention of ever getting married because I lack the personality and character of someone who could make a marriage work but I do believe in keeping safe and before making the decision to have sex really think about the possibilities and be sure that whatever happens afterward (as much as you can possibly plan for) you won't regret your decision because it is not something you can take back and there is almost no likelihood of forgetting the first person you are with.
2007-06-05 02:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive done it like 3 or 4 times but I stopped that and Iam not having sex again until Im married. Having sex is not worth it and is meaning less if you are not married. I dont want to get married until maybe 5 years from now and I dont want any kids. Todays world is too messed up to raise children in.
2007-06-01 07:13:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't, but I did marry the guy. I think sex in highschool is a bad idea, but if you use protection and don't sleep around like crazy, there is no need to "save" yourself. Its really not that big of a deal.
anyway- I guess your plan sounds good. I always say - only have sex if you're prepared to care for the kid- because even with protection, accidents can happen.
2007-06-01 07:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by kermit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-18 05:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever, you decide just make sure you be safe and make the choice right for you. I' am a 21 year old virgin and I' am not sure what I want to do, basically I' am waiting for the right guy. But I do agree with some of your points.
2007-06-01 07:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL hell No!! I enjoy sex, but when its doone, I take caution to be responsible. I think it is a really bad idea to be a teen mom...you have no life, and no time to get your education completed. I also dont wat kids now...not until I am in my late 20's, maybe around 28 or 29? By then I will be done with my Masters in Nursing.
2007-06-01 09:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forty plus years ago, I waited and I am glad that I did. Keep the thought! My daughter didn't start her family until mid thirties after getting her career path well established! Good luck!
2007-06-01 07:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt save myself for marraige.
My first time was when I was 14....(im 22 now)
I don't regret it. I've had a lot of practice and when I get married (probably to my current b/f of two years.) it'll be an awesomely bangin' night.
2007-06-01 07:17:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I'd like to consider myself my husband's wedding present. Just because some people make poor decisions in marriage doesn't mean that yours or mine will end up in divorce. You must fight for what you want in order for things to work. Marrying with the wrong intentions or before it's time is marital suicide.
2007-06-01 07:15:06 · answer #11 · answered by Honesty 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋