My husband is in his mid sixtys,had heart bypass ,authoritis and is a diabetic, and refuses to slow down. He is working on something all the time, and makes a garden, deer hunts and walks a lot more than he should.I simply cannot get him to slow down. He is more active than many young men and simply will not sit and relax. He has me worried to death. Is there anything I can do about this without nagging or putting undue pressure on him?I'm afraid he is going to kill himself.
2007-06-01 04:51:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
I am sorry to hear that. My father in law is the exact same way and age. What if you planned a relaxing trip together once in a while, then he would be forced to chill sometimes. Like a Bed & Brakfast in the country, or since he likes to hunt; maybe a fishing trip at a quiet lake? Thats all I can think of other than sneaking him some muscle relaxers or valume in his food, which sounds a little harsh but it would slow him down (may not be an option with a heart condition though). Best of wishes!
2007-06-01 05:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by Raise It! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with his doctor and get guidance from them first to see if what he is doing is really that bad for him. If he's had bypass surgery, he may feel better than he has in a while and is enjoying his new energy level. Sitting all the time would be harder on him than being active unless he's running, lifting very heavy items or not resting when he gets tired.
And sometimes you just can't get husbands to do what you want and nagging him would just add that much more stress so go easy, just be sure he knows you are concerned and why and always tell him how much you love him, especially each time you part.
2007-06-01 12:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does his physician(s) have a problem with his level of activity? If the doctor doesn't seen any reason for him to slow down, I think your concerns are an overreaction. I'm not saying they are not or should not be valid but consider the circumstances. Bypass surgeries are not life threatening but life extending. As a matter of fact, barring complications, increased activity is recommended. If your husband is clear medically, why not join him on his walks or ventures in the garden?
2007-06-01 12:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't be worried. The older you get, the more active you need to be. But certianly, it does sound like he needs to slow down a tad bit. But for the most part, staying busy for his age is really the best thing. As you age, your body's metabolism slows down to just about half the speed of a fart, so staying busy will help with cardiac health, respirtory health, and so much more!Just keep him on a healthy diet and bring him in once in a while for a nice snack (freshly cut apples or whatever).
2007-06-01 12:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by red311 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone, especially if his doctors aren't saying the same thing. Moderate exercise is a good thing even with the condition you're describing. Let him be happy -- you're nagging him isn't doing him any good at all. Now if he really did something to harm his health, like smoked or ate unhealthy foods, that would be a different story.
2007-06-01 12:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by Stephen L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my father has the exact same problems and is the totaly opposite! I would love for him to be more active! i realize that your husband being so active is a concern but on the other hand its great to see a man in that condition being so active! it will keep his mind sharp and is probably very cathartic for him. He is getting older and is realizing his mortality. these activites probably help him feel young and think young. he knows his limitations and i'm sure would not intentionally put himself in harms way. i wish my father was that active! maybe he'd have a keener mind!
2007-06-01 11:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by orange blossom honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be better off to leave him alone. that sounds a lot like my grand daddy. he has always worked on something and when he got to the point where he couldn't get around like he use to his health has really gone down hill. that activity is what may be keeping him as healthy as he is. it is tough to see sometimes,but it could be that working is the only "medicine" keeping him around.
2007-06-01 13:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by big D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it will kill him if he sits as watches TV
Until the Dr says slow down, let him do his thing
2007-06-01 12:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My father had quadruple bypass surgery several months ago and his doctor told him that he needed to get out and be active and get lots of excercize. Maybe what your husband is doing is helping him. You shouldn't worry so much.
2007-06-01 12:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by groki68 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want to slow him down after all?? You see, you should appreciate what he is doing. He is enjoying and living his life to his max. You should appreciate that. Would you like him to see, if he is bedridden??
Remember, "life should be big, and not mere long"!
2007-06-01 13:06:03 · answer #10 · answered by davinci_neo_leo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋