i am considering terminating my pregancy because i recently found out my boyfriend of 6 yrs has a wife and 4 kids in his country and he lied to me about her being dead. iam so upset, he expects me to have his child when he is going to pakistan to sleep with his wife for 3 months, while iam here in the states pregant..thanks.
2007-06-01 04:41:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
listen friends, i have already 3 kids and iam a great mother, i also work full time, it is so hard for me. i have 14,13 &7 yr old.
2007-06-01 04:51:38 · update #1
iam not mad, sweet spicy, thanks for your opinion
2007-06-01 04:52:58 · update #2
he is married to someone for his paper already, he don't need me for that.
2007-06-01 05:07:09 · update #3
camer i agree with u, i told him that also,that if iam not good enough to be his baby's mother now, why should i be in the future.
2007-06-01 05:08:21 · update #4
I had an abortion and I regret it everyday!! I mean EVERYDAY!!! Afterwards, I was doped up and didnt know what was going on. I was fading in and out of sleep. I just felt like crap. I puked from the taste of the medicine running through me. It was horrible and I would never wish that on anybody (mother or child) Its horrible! Absolutely horrible! PLEASE RECONSIDER!!!
2007-06-01 04:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by curious_georgette 2 · 7⤊ 2⤋
I've never had one so I couldn't tell you. I can tell you that having a baby is the most amazing thing you could ever experience in life. You sound unsure, so I'd really suggest you think long and hard before you go through with this. It is not your baby's fault that it's father lied about having a family back home. He's obviously not someone you can trust since he's living a double life. Your baby is the most important thing here. I really hope that you'll give him or her a chance. Don't do something you'll regret later on.
Good luck!
2007-06-01 04:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by Chewie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with abortion, but it's also not me that's pregnant. I can understand how you would be considering it seeing as though your entire outlook has been changed by his lies. It's difficult raising children and you obviously know that since you have other kids. It's not the baby's fault his sperm donor is such a complete loser. You should do what is best for you and that baby!! If that decision means not keeping the baby then I ask that you really consider adoption. It's a much safer and better alternative. But one decision you have to make is break up with that b*stard IMMEDIATELY!!! Good luck!!
2007-06-01 05:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by angel32984 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have not had an abortion, but I can't imagone that it would be a good feeling. I have a 16mo and I have never really known love until he came along. Yes I love my parents,and my husband, but my son I would do anything for. It breaks my heart if he has to feel pain or even if he has a fever or has to get shots.
You don't have to be with this man to have his child. It is terrible that he lied. But ppl are having children everyday as single moms and loving it. It would be hard, but there would be no one to argue with you about how to raise the child.
Another alternative is adoption. Alot of couples that want children can't have them. I believe that adoption agencies may even pay for all your prenatal care and birthing expenses.
This is a huge decision, and if you do have an abortion, there is no going back. Please take some time to consider the other options.
2007-06-01 04:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by matthewsmommy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to hear about your story! I know it must be hard, but just give the baby up for adoption if you don't want to keep his kid. It's better than aborting it. I don't know how it feels like and never will know how it feels like to get an abortion. I'm just really against that. I have a friend that got an abortion and she was so devasted after aborting it. She regrets it and she seem to not gonna forget about it for as long as she lives.
2007-06-01 07:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Google information on it before you make a final decision...
I was a single mom for 4.5 years, and I can tell you that they were some of the BEST in my life - all because of the love I had from my daughter.
Leave his sorry ***... it's unfortunate that the child would be his, but hey... it's OK! Everything happens for a reason. I don't speak to my child's father at all, and I'm still the happiest person alive - and I don't regret at all that she's half his. In the end, she's all mine!
2007-06-01 04:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer D 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I've never had an abortion but I know friends who did. They still regret it, and some say they have nightmares and grieve each year when the baby's "due date" comes around. Many women argue that getting rid of the baby is a relief, but that doesn't make the abortion right.
But those issues aside, ask yourself this:
Should you punish this innocent child just because of what your boyfriend did? He is the one to blame, yet you are thinking of making your child pay for his sins?
No matter what the circumstances of the conception, every baby deserves a shot at life. It's nobody's "right" to deny him this, ESPECIALLY his own mother who is supposed to protect him.
I think you're focusing your anger and hurt (which are justified) on the wrong person, hon. If you feel you cannot be a good mother to the baby, please give it up for adoption. There are so many couples out there who pray every night for a baby. You could be the answer to a prayer!
2007-06-01 04:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by Veritas 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I've never had an abortion. I know people who have, and they say it was the right choice for them at the time. However, I think you're doing it for the wrong reasons. You have every right to be mad at your boyfriend. But ask yourself how you felt about this baby before you found out about your boyfriend's indiscretion. If you really wanted this baby, it shouldn't change now.
Just really think about it. It is a choice you will have to live with for the rest of your life. Make sure you make the right one for you. Hope everything turns out well.
2007-06-01 04:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by NYCLady 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sorry heard about this. But as a medical people i advice you that don't kill your baby. Why i'm said like this? Because this is one of the life that you created. If you kill it tou may having a sign and aymptom that no good to you. For example: you may having infection of vagina , imflammation of vaginal......... Even tou just feel pain for a while. Baby life is wonderful . I had saw the process of delivery it is very touchful how difficult the mother suffer the pain and just deliver a baby !!!
But your boyfriend you just inorge him only because he lied on you. I'm know what is your feeling now because i'm also having it before but now i having a good boyfriend that very carrying me .
Wish you good luck and don't think too much on the sad thing because it is not good for your baby!!!! ;)
2007-06-01 05:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal Anne 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No idea how if feels because I would never kill my child. If you want to leave him thats fine but keep the baby. Can't raise it alone? Give it up for adoption there are alot of couples who cannot have kids by are dying to raise one. Then there are people like you who abort their babies to make a guy realized he pissed you off. Is that all your babies life is worth??
~Sarah (Just my opinion, Don't get mad you asked the question)
2007-06-01 04:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by Saerah 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋