My girfriend, her female friend, and some guy decided to play strip poker last night and she lost. Long story short she ended up getting naked infront of some guy (big nono in my book). I had no idea that the game even took place untill she called me crying about how bad she feelt about it afterwards. Should I feel like my trust was betrayed? What should I do in a situation like this?
2007-06-01 03:24:59 · 54 answers · asked by joaquinkitfox 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, yes and no and yes and no.
Yes, it's cheating - it's like does the light in the refrigerator really go out when the door's closed?
No, she didn't mean for it to happen.
Yes, you should feel hurt and betrayed - by her bad choices.
No, you shouldn't hold this against her - because you are a loving and forgiving man who adores his girlfriend - who is contrite and sorry for her bad choice. PLUS - she had the guts to admit it to you herself - rather than you hearing it second-hand. That took courage. I'm sure she felt you were going to leave her.
Instead, have a long sincere and CALM talk with her about your feelings about this entire situation. Tell her how hurt you are - and that you even can't understand what in the world she was thinking. However, that doesn't mean you want to break up with her - and you hope she learned something valuable from this (unspoken: that she needs to really weigh her choices - and that you are indeed a wonderful man.)
Now then, it need not be conveyed as a father-child scolding - but she really needs to know how hurt you are.
And don't go saying "If you ever do that again we're through." That goes without saying.
But forgive her. At least she found the strength of character to tell you herself.
2007-06-01 03:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hmmm, depends on the situation. Who's this "Some guy" and how well do you know her friend? Is she a bit of a skank or a decent gal? Drugs or Alcohol and where were they? And what the hell is she doing playing STRIP poker of all games? Wot about snap, fish or even just your regular poker?
If it was all innocent fun, then she wouldn't have been crying would she? I don't see the need for her to play STRIP poker with her friend and some bloke, unless it was a either a 'sneaky' way for her friend to get in with the guy (why didn't ur GF stop playing then??) or she was keen for the end result IE naked mischief (Is she any good at poker anyways???)
You need to ask for more details before you can decide if this was just purely innocent fun, something she was forced to do (???) or she actually insinuated the whole thing .
If you wanna get really paranoid, I would investigate further e.g. phone msg's, emails, casually bring it up with friend....
2007-06-01 03:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say any time a person in a relationship is naked in front of someone he or she isn't dating, and the other person doesn't know, there's a problem. She obviously has no trouble stripping in front of anyone, any time, at all. The whole situation seems fishy, really.
She betrayed your trust, absolutely. If you think she can ever do anything for you to trust her again, give it a shot. If you can't get over it, then break up and move on. Seems like a girlfriend naked in front of people other than you is a good enough reason for a break up.
2007-06-01 03:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey you cant look at it as cheating she was out with the girls having fun she lost but if she had won and it was the other who had to get naked and not her. You also got to look at it this way 1 Your 'girlfriend made a bet and back it up 2 I'm sure she felt just as bad doing it knowing she was going to tell you anyway 3 This was just a situation that she never saw coming also was there any other losers is your girl friend a poker player and are her friends. Also you might just have to consider if she might been set by him or them look at all the aspects. He might got take a look at the menue but he never had a chance to order none.But still its a no no and she new it
2007-06-01 03:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sam the man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-01 09:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 22:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you 2 been dating? that really does constitute what you should do. I've have many girlfriends who did a lot of stupid stuff within the first couple weeks of dating, probably because we had only been dating a couple of weeks. I have been dating my current girlfriend for 4 years and we are both in college now. If she were to do something like that, it would be a huge issue, whereas if she were to do it in the first couple weeks/months, it wouldn't hit me as hard. If you have been in a relationship for awhile with her, i would say this is an outcry for something new or exciting. If your relationship is relatively new, than i would do 1 of 2 things.
1: Explain to her how it made you feel. See if she responds with any kind of sympathy, and if so, give her ONE more chance.
2: Keep your pimp hand strong and find someone else.
Hope this helps.
2007-06-01 03:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Crying cause she lost her cloths playing strip poker huh? That don't even make sense she knew that she could loose her cloths come on man!! The real reason she was crying is because her and her friends had a threesome... At least she felt bad about her infidelity but she is still a liar... remember this women only tell half truths like when you catch them cheating there favorite line is "we only had sex one time" don't buy her line of bullshit she is a liar and a cheater and can't be trusted.. Best of luck to you with this one...
2007-06-01 03:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi there,
Tell her to put the boot on the other foot "would she like you to play " ( strip poker ) if she weren"t there?
The crying thing is also in my opinion is not on because she is diverting your attention from the issue at hand by using "emotional balckmail" ask her if she where crying when she stripped in front of this other guy?.
And also when she called you "full of remorse" ( was she telling you before anybody else could ? ) as it makes no sense buddy. '
Everybody makes mistakes and they need understanding and forgiveness when they are geniune about themselves it's up to you to decide whether to forgive her or not..
good luck buddy..
2007-06-01 18:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by Adrian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it cheating but it was definitely wrong on her part and it seems like she knows it. I do agree that she should lose a lot of your trust on this one. It's not grounds for a break up but she has a lot of work to do to regain your trust. If she's worth it, she'll learn from this mistake and prove to you that she's sorry. If I were you, I'd be stand-offish for a while until I calmed down. By the time I completely calmed down and started to move on (which could be a couple of months), I'd know if she were worth me sticking around for.
PS - If that is the whole story (and it might not be, she could be only telling you half of what happened to read your reaction) give her a second chance. If not, I'd move on ( 1] for lying, 2] for doing something she felt she had to hide from you). If she cheated on you now, next time will be easier.
2007-06-01 03:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋