i have approached him and he says it didnt matter its all in the past i cant stand him anymore i need to get out to make matters worse we have a guest visiting us and i cant keep up with the act of looking like things are going on well she leaves in three weeks how can i cope for these three weeks help please i am so angry i have all this anger in me i feel like hurting this man i have been through so much **** i will leave but i need to let him know what he has done to me i feel so betrayed
2007-06-01 02:43:33 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are serious about leaving him.Cook a nice dinner have everyone there.Then right in the middle of it, just bring up the fact your husband cheated on you.This will put him in his place, and you will have another woman there to help you rake him over the coals. Believe me the longer you wait to get it out into the open the longer you will miss the opportunity to give him the butt chewing he deserves.
2007-06-01 04:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by pete63daddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know who the guest is but I am assuming it is someone from his side. This is a tough one sort-of, but why do you have to hide anything from her. You have done nothing wrong and so what if she overhears what a creap he is. Sure Jan. is the past but not that far, and that kind of past when he was in someone else's pants always matters.
Do not hurt him of course is a pig and not worth it. Why do you have to leave though? He should leave!!!! Kick him to the curb, tell him to get out or go on the couch until the guest is gone. Hopefully, if she hears any of this she will give him a pillow and blanket for you until she goes home or maybe she'll try to make other arrangements. Good luck to you, you have been soooooo betrayed and you do need to let him know what he has done to you.
2007-06-01 02:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it doesn't seem like you're going to be able to get through his thick head. I think it's time to sit your guest down and tell them what is going on. Maybe this guest can help talk you through this. You also need to find a good counselor who will help you with your anger. I had a cheating spouse once and I understand the pain you are in. It's the most painful thing you can experience. It's time for you to expose the truth. I think a couple of days in a hotel room - take your friend along - might do you and your "it doesn't matter" husband some good, but please see a counselor! You won't ever regret it.
2007-06-01 02:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that your guest knows that something is not right. I would not live like that guest or no guest. Tell your no good cheating husband that you have to leave and that he is the reason for it, so he can deal with the house guest. Go to your family or a friend and get your head together. Don't let him keep controlling you. Good luck.
2007-06-01 02:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by irishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably HORMONAL and need to grow the hell up...nomatter who you are with there will be times that you don't love your partner,can't stand your partner,etc...RELATIONSHIPS take WORK;go to a book store and READ Marriage For Dummies to get an incite into what your relationship problems are.I'll bet you are having money problems.If you love someone then you want them to be HAPPY in life,not a SLAVE,you do not own your Spouse,although the US Culture is that a MAN is a SLAVE to be SUED for Alimony,Child Support,Etc,Etc.. when all a man really wants is a little sex now and then...I'd bet money that you were being very mean to him and caused him to cheat on you and then use the excuse that he cheated on you for being the reason that you were mad at him...like you saw the future and punished him for it before it happened which is impossible.Men need sex like any other bodily function,and all marriages someone cheats eventually;GET OVER IT and stay away from these idiots that want to make money off of breaking up marriages like "counselors",attorneys,"anti man support groups";since the 60's there has been an attack on the American Family Structure because by destroying the family structure you destroy the Country.Children need Fathers or we will wind up in a third world Country....GROW UP...and look at it this way,if you do not look at your own actions you will simply relive the same fighting with your next partner...People do not change,but hormones do...
2007-06-01 03:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to let him know anything because he will get his sooner are later its call karma and it is real. You are angry and need to do the physcial legal part first. Start focusing on you and the kis if any not him. Forgive him and go on with your life for you stress and anger can really make you very sick literally. the other person is not sitting wondering why did I do that to her? is she hurt? He probably is wondering when can I get some more and why is this ***** nagging me. Find and love yourself through this madness you you can find happiness. Get around positive people, keep busy until legal matters are done.Do things you like that make you laugh. It will get your mind off of this if you take my advice. Lose weight if needed pamper yourself, take long baths and rides with good music you love. Don't let your husband and a b---- steal your joy God gave it to you so don't let no one else take it away
2007-06-01 02:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living well is the best revenge. Your choice and decisions have been made... you fail to mention who's guest this is? yours his? relative? People aren't idiots... I'm sure your guest has already percieved the emotional storm they've entered. What you really need to do is a day or two to yourself... to put it into perspective, I am absolutely not suggesting you betray your own judgement. Just that... lashing out... is a natural instinct to sudden pain... If nothing else... contact your support network, (good friend, family member, spiritual advisor) and let them help you unload... have them sit with you while you dive into a good Merlot... heck even a cheap bottle of Tequila is good... so you can hear yourself ranting and raging against the betrayal your feeling.
afterwards... with a good hangover under your belt...and the emotional release...spend your time constructvely... making the necessary preparations for your exit.
The pending separation isn't going to be a secret for long... and even so... who's rep is it tarnishing? certainly not yours...
My sincerest apologies... good luck :o)
2007-06-01 02:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First call your guest and tell them they cannot come due to a family emergency (Dont need to go into details). By what your tellingme your husband feels its in the past to forget about it. It happen while you were married not before you married. If your heart is telling you you cannot forgive then you know what to do. You should find a place to move in, pack your things and move them out. Wait until he gets home sit down and give him a peace of your mind litteraly and walk out. If thats the way he feels about the betrayal he will do it again for sure.
2007-06-01 02:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should inform your guest that there is a serious problem and they should either go home or find another place to stay. You need to let your husband know that he can't have his cake and eat it too. How many times has he cheated on you......don't wait until your guest leaves you need to act on this now and follow your instincts. Good luck.
2007-06-01 03:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by cutiepie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait til the guest leaves, then let the **** hit the fan, but I'd just go my own way. I know you feel betrayed. If he does not seem to think its a big deal then just let him go. Good luck
2007-06-01 02:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by missy j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋