Before this guy I had been seeing 3 months left for vacation for two weeks he was acting kinda weird the last night and said I guess I'll see you when I get home. When he got back Monday night I talked to him a little then he basically ignored me at work yesterday. Last night he calls and says he has to talk to me. He said we should just be friends bc he went away for so long and now its weird but he doesnt want any hostility between us since we work together. My issue is he could have done this Monday or even before he left. I think the only reason it is weird is because he probaly thinks I'll ask if he did anything with any girls on vacation. I am more angry than upset....I really want a answer of where this came from because "its weird" is crap bc hes the one who made it weird not me. And he wants to be friends. Can I ask him for an explaination? The worst part is I still do like him and the whole if he did anything, it shouldnt matter bc I never got the idea we were exclusive.
2007-06-01 02:35:31 · 8 answers · asked by Kara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think hes guilty and thats why its weird...I mean I like him but dont know what the hell to do
2007-06-01 02:36:33 · update #1
he was on vacation in another country so he'll never see any girl there again
2007-06-01 02:39:55 · update #2
I think you need to talk to him if you still like him & explain that you arent bothered if he did anything with anyone, as you didnt think you were exclusive.
And that you like being with him & you didnt think it was weird, he made it weird.
Its kinda scary being confrontational like this, but you will feel better when you know where you stand. You might not like the answer tho.
The best advice I can give is be honest...I find it scary all the time, but I do it.
So have courage & I hope you get a good resolution :o)
2007-06-01 03:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by Vicky J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly speaking,maybe there is something wrong with the eye through which u r using to look at this whole situation,first of all you may like him but that doesnt give a guarantee whether you could trust him. there is a possibility he doent feel the same way about the way you feel about him so having noticed that you might be interested in taking the relationship to a deeper level he's trying to remove himself from a position of landing in a commiting relationship which he is not ready for or does not have the heart for it.Ok maybe he had shown some interest before,that could be because he wanted something from you and after getting it thats it.Maybe he doesnt want you to get hurt by being to close to him when he doesnt feel the same way so you are priviledged to still have a friendship.You realise also this will affect your performance at work so just know one thing-even though you like him most times our feelings mislead us dont make choices basing on your feelings but largely with the wisdom you have gained over the years and if its not enough to see you through here is the challenge-Forgive him for playing around with your feelings forgive yourself too get a grip on who you are and where you are aiming to reach in this short life leave him behind you and press on work hard and wait patiently for the right person to come along,you mght think that it might be hard to get over him but my friend,it all takes making up your mind not even he has the power to hold down your willpower you can do without him,realise and appreciate that before it destroys everything you hold dear.
2007-06-01 10:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jassy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do, you have every right to be hurt and confused. If he didnt want to date you anymore he should have told you right away. But as most humans go, he was avoiding confrontation before his big vacation. How can you enjoy a vacation after you just broke up and hurt someone? He was being selfish for his vacation. Dont ask him anything, as much as you want to, dont ask him a single thing. Cause it will only hurt you more believe me, and he doesnt care what you feel, if he did he wouldnt have been so uncaring to you. Just be curtious, but dont pretend to be his friend. IT will be hard I know but give yourself some respect. You have to work with him and you need to keep it as proffesional as possible. The pain goes away, Time does heal it. I know the curiosity will kill ya, and if you werent exculsive then its his buisness what happened on the vacation, go out tonight and have fun. Take your mind off it. ITS FRIDAY :)
2007-06-01 09:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by I luv Pets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he definitely may have done something on his trip. His excuse to you is a huge cop out because two weeks is not a long time and nothing would be "weird" if he didnt feel funny about something. Knowing that you really like him, it may be a hard guy to get over... but he seems content on ending your relationship. what a jerk. I would be mad too, because he is cowardly.
2007-06-01 09:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Fray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it he did something behind your back he does not want you to know. You probably will never get an answer. Be the better person ignore him, communicate if you have to work related only. There definelty more fish in the sea.
2007-06-01 09:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he more than likely saw someone over vacation and doesnt want to hurt you by telling you there was someone else...cut him out of your life...if you didnt work with him...he would have already cut you out of his life...he just doesnt want things to be awkward at work...leave him alone...whether you like him...you guys had fun together...but move on...its not worth it..
2007-06-01 09:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
affair, new love, or just wants to move on simple as that.
2007-06-01 09:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by avengress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think there is something up with him, And what i mean by that is there is something wrong, investigate see what is up
2007-06-01 09:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋