thanks for your opinion!!!
2007-06-01 02:22:51 · 20 answers · asked by cintiapm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You must respect each other's differences. There has to be infinite trust. Communicate clearly with each other, don't leave anything to chance because people hear the same words differently. Give each other lots of space. Be honest about splitting family duties, finances and annoyances before they turn into problems. Realize that passion doesn't stay forever, but love and respect and companionship do.
I've been successfully married for 23 years, with him for 25 and I wouldn't trade him in a second. It hasn't all been easy; in fact a lot of it has been hard, but he's my soul mate and it's worth the fight. Good luck!
2007-06-01 02:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by cherylincanada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to able to communicate and have open honest talk with each other- or at least an understanding.
You should know how much debt you have before marriage. If you have like $10,000 in Student loans you might want to tell him that. And vise Verse. It will come up at one time when you try to buy a house or even a car together.
Also, my hubby and i have separate checking accounts and that works for us, but only cause we talk alot about what bill each other pays. and it varies every month so its not like i always pay the light bill and he always pays the phone. It goes on how much we have when its due.
Ultimately be prepared to share each others burdens, mental, monetary, and physical. Once you can do that then, the good things of marriage, the love the sex and the support will be over abundant.
2007-06-01 09:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by artist9120 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect, communication, honesty with tact, being willing to talk through things and not give the cold shoulder, and to be not only each other's spouse, but to also be each other's best friend. Also, you have to be working towards similar goals (like where you want to eventually live, how many children you want, where you want to be spirtually, what you think success is). Plus, you have to be willing to compromise with each other. In everything, you both must give 100%.
2007-06-01 09:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by pocketful_of_sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are a LOT of things that BOTH people must have individually in order for the marriage between them to work together.
If I had to make a list of things that you should have... honesty, the ability to forgive, patience, trust in each other, integrity, dedication to the relationship, compassion for each other, commitment to your vows, love, faith in God, the ability to lead, the ability to also follow, strength, and willpower.
These are just a few things I thought of that immediately came to mind!
2007-06-01 10:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk a lot, but more importantly, you NEED TO LISTEN. When you spouse is telling you something, be considerate and really listen to what they are saying. And above all open honest relationship. Do not hide anything from each other. Your spouse should also be your best friend. Someone that you can share everything with.
2007-06-01 09:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by elb366 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Open Communication
2. Even after having kids, take time to be alone
3. Intimacy and Sex (have it often) - make a date
4. Set a side time to be alone (his time; her time), even if it means she goes away on a 2 day (all girls) trip or he goes on a 2 day fishing weekend with friends. Its important to have your own time. And,,,,do NOT get jealous.
5. Sleep in the same bed and keep the kids in their own beds.
6. Set rules in the house. Regardless if one works and one stays at home - you share the responsibilities around the house.
7. Compliment each other. Flirt -- it leads to wonderful things later in the day/night
2007-06-01 09:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some body asked Milton Bearle since he was married for about 40 years at that time. He said you have to be funny in bed.
2007-06-01 15:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the things listed above, plus just be happy and have a good time together. Make each other laugh and smile often.
2007-06-01 10:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a one thing.. LOVE. If you have love, all things happens between the two of the partners.. or else its duty and than one day it can blast on any mismatch on that..
2007-06-05 07:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by m_cyberfriend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have said this so many times - I guess the best formula would be trust, respect and love.
2007-06-01 09:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by Azil-em 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋