Ive been with my fiance for about 2 1/2 years but sometimes ill dream about having sex with my ex's. I dont know why because most of them i hate or dispise one of them in particuarly. And one really really grosses me out but i still have dreams about him. is this wrong? Why does this happen?
2007-06-01 01:52:06 · 17 answers · asked by PookieAceves 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i meant to say husband. I said fiance because ive only been married for three months. so i wanted to show that ive been with him for 2-1/2 years but not married for 2-1/2 years. Dont take it so likely that i have issues about being married and stuff.
2007-06-01 02:08:56 · update #1
It happens because where fire burned ashes will stay!! hahaha
Don´t feel bad about it!!, you cannot control your dreams, they were part of your life and is normal that you remember them, is not that you want to be with them again...there are memories...that´s it
2007-06-01 02:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by staytrue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married or not? Admit the truth. Nothing to lose here. We don't know you.
Assuming you are married or engaged (living together) for 2.5 yrs, dreaming about having sex with ex's is normal. I still do and I'm married 12 yrs with two kids. Its human. Wait till your together longer and start dreaming of co-workers or other men you meet in life, then your life will really "spice" up. I think its good to dream/fantasize.
2007-06-01 02:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to have dream about your old ex's. Just hope you don't talk or make noises about your dream. You are getting married sooner or later, maybe you are getting scared. There might be unfinished business that you think you have not completed yet. Think you have to truely forget about the past and look into the present and the future. Good luck!
2007-06-01 02:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jamezy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you're married, but refer to him as your fiance.
You dream about your ex maybe because you're still a single girl.
Added: OK I understand that you have been with him for 2-1/2 years, but are newly married.
This is what happens. When you are married, you are faced with the harsh realities of everyday life like paying bills, not enough money, house cleaning, cooking, the list goes on and on. Also there is the reality of living with someone and seeing them when they are not at their very best. You know what I mean I'm sure.
So you start fantasizing about your ex and in your fantasy you don't have all the harsh realities of everyday life. You don't fantasize about seeing them at their worst, say for instance in your fantasy your ex isn't going to hock a luggie on the sidewalk, or fart in front of you or anything like that.
That is why married people get caught up in affairs. It is fantasyland. That is why you are dreaming about your ex. It is pretty normal, especially since you are newly married, but please don't act on it. I'm sure in your heart, you know you love your husband to pieces.
2007-06-01 01:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by Schwinn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im only 16 (turning 17) and in a almost-4 year relationship with my boyfriend and sometimes i dream about certain "people" whom i often wonder what would happen if i end up with them, like those that i had flings with, or went out a couple of times then there was nothing..it's normal, though, because we both have those kind of dreams..dont sweat it out, because you're in love (as you say) and that it grosses you out. it doesnt really mean you still have feelings towards your ex.
when your mind relaxes, it conjures up thoughts that make up the dreams, sometimes the very last thought you've thought about before you fall asleep. so it's probably that.
2007-06-01 01:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by I'm his Winona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easier times then?
Less responsibilities then?
Younger then?
Denial about how you really feel about them and what you are saying here?
The list can go on.
Want them to stop? Tell your husband about them. Talking openly and communicating will stop it.
Other than that, go to dream web sites regarding ex's sometimes there some stress or concern that represents ex's in dreams.
2007-06-01 01:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by avengress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely wrong and the reason your dreaming about sex with guys that you already had sex with is because you are not in Love!
You can say, Oh yes I am, over and over again, but again, YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE.
If you were smart you would not have gotten married, you weren't ready.
2007-06-01 02:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Married or not? Why do you say "fiance"? Being you are calling your former boyfriends "ex's" proves that you don't know the difference between reality and fantasy.
2007-06-01 01:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams could either be innocent or a reflection of a wish/fear. Seek counselling or try hypnosis to forget about them.
2007-06-01 02:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because your think about maybe this person the one your going to marry may not be the one for you but if you love him and would do anything for him than he is the one for you.
2007-06-01 01:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by daytona_girl18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋