I cant seem to live with or without my boyfriend and feel I am just stringing him along because I cant make my mind up. I know this is wrong but he has done some pretty bad things in the relationship. My family have all said if we cut off contact with each other for 2 months it will become clearer to both of us whether we want to stay together. Is this true, or will I still be just as confused in 2 months?
2007-06-01 01:44:25 · 5 answers · asked by monkeynuts 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ha ha I know I sound like a confused 14 year old, I feel like one sometimes, but I'm actually 27 and he is 31
2007-06-01 01:50:33 · update #1
Maybe. If you work to clear your mind, try to do other things, see what else is out there, keep yourself busy and try to take a step back and look at the whole picture, then yes, I think a break would help you.
Take some time to yourself...go for a walk. Then think to yourself, and ask yourself some serious questions.
Will I have a loving and fulfilling future with this man?
Can I see myself still with him in the next 5-10 years? 20 years?
Can I commit myself to him?
Can I respect his opinions?
Does he treat me with love and respect?
Do we both want the same things out of life?
Answer these questions to yourself logically, all emotions aside. Be honest with yourself. If you do this and you find that this relationship doesn't have what you want, then you probably should end it.
Good luck, either way.
2007-06-01 01:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time apart may make it clearer to you. Whether it's going to take 2 months or 1 year, is impossible to tell though.
2007-06-01 02:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I faced a real problem like this recently, but with a friend. I was ambivalent towards her, going back and forth, feeling scared to let the friendship go, and feeling sick of myself and her if I stayed.
Here's my advice, which I got from a good source: make a decision! Then, stick with it. Good or bad. If you decide to stay, take good with the bad. If you dump him, dump him, clean and easy.
Choose!
You will feel empowered, and it will be good for you.
2007-06-01 01:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by pola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age may be a factor in this: If teen to tween, I'd say one week is all its going to take for him to find someone else and you'll be maybe a side fling since you are so confused... be careful.
2007-06-01 01:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by avengress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals a broken heart. If seems you can't forgive him then let him go, its not fair to you or him. Time is a great healer and brings everything to perspective especially when you have time to think of what you really want.
2007-06-01 02:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋