and she thinks you work as a night watchman. but you've been making about five hundred dollars a night and have been saving the money to buy her a new house.
2007-06-01 01:27:27 · 26 answers · asked by Gary M 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
VERY CAREFULLY
2007-06-01 01:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by mercedesofladies36 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey hun, how about we go out tonight?
*At club* "Be right back..."
Announcer/DJ: "Ok ladies...herrrrreeeeess...."
If your wife is open minded that is...
Other than that, expect your clothes on the sidewalk the next morning. Hey women are selfish... (Don't worry ladies, men are too) Besides if she is open minded about it, you may have to accept her doing it next.
It wont matter if you are buying her a mansion if she cant see past the fact that what is hers has been displayed, handled, and groped all throughout the club ESPECIALLY if someone she knows frequents there and you told them not to tell you...
DOOMED!
If she doesnt do that, It'll take one late night HBO show about male strippers to make her think about whether she needs to endure this anymore.
But, in a way you answered it already. You lied about where you were and what you were doing. Trust is now an issue...
Its a lose lose situation and she will find out... sorry. Unless she has the lowest self-esteem and thinks you are the greatest thing since sliced bread, she's outta there. Or unless shes the vengeful kind, then she let you buy her the house, in her name, then divorce you while shes doing something that she knows that you'll despise. But you know her best...sounds like a disaster to me though.
2007-06-01 08:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by avengress 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont tell her until the new house is bought! ... if you tell her at all. When you do tell her make sure you have a dozen roses in your hand. Maybe even two.
i cant really tell you how to tell her. YOu should have talked to her about the situation before you made that choice considering she is your wife and if i was a wife i wouldnt want my husband stripping for people, 500 dollars a night or not.
2007-06-01 08:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would definately wait until you have at least half the money to show her. Then I guess being a woman myself that i would want you to invite me to the club without telling me that you have been dancing there and surprise me with a dance.She is probably going to wonder why you kept it a secret from her you have to make her a part of this somehow. For she is sure to feel left out . Thats why I would want to see alot of the money for the house. Thats your proof for why you were doing it. If you dont have it ....your screwed
2007-06-01 08:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by ღOMGღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably tell her before she accidentally finds out, that wouldn't be a big hit, I'm sure! Maybe she'll be ok with it, if you are only doing it to make good money in a short time. Maybe she'll freak out about it! But communication is key in a marriage and you should definitely talk to her about it. Another thing to think about, how would you feel if the situation were reversed?
2007-06-01 08:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by Megs 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Very gentle! Come clean before you buy the house or you could lose it all for lying to her! Explain it with the best words you can find and make sure she knows you love her and havn't been cheating while stripping! make sure you are going to give it up soon after you tell her or take her to work for a while. Thats a tough one!
2007-06-01 08:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by ricegirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would buy the house and then tell her..lol. But seriously, shes your wife, going around lying about things arent going to make the situation any better. It will just get worst the longer you keep it from her. Im surprised she hasnt found out yet..
2007-06-01 08:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by courtney_825 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Okay if it were me....I would be upset. Because I would start questioing your real intentions for stripping. if it were for really \saving up for your dream home with your spouse, then this iks something you should have told her. But since you didn't, ask yourself truthfully why you didn't. You may say, I couldn't tell her she wouldn't understand. Then you should have never gone behind her back...how would you feel if the shoe were on the other foot.
I also agree with Cee....tell her later....you just might end living alone, and stripping for quite some time.
2007-06-01 08:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sit her down and just tell her what you have been doing. The longer you keep this secret from her the worse it will be. Explain to her why you are doing it. No matter what the outcome you really need to be honest with her. If it were the other way around wouldn't you want her to tell you the truth?..Good luck..
2007-06-01 08:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by Worldtraveler 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I assume that working the night shift, stripping at a bar - you were stripping the floors -- removing old floor wax, and preparing the floors for a new coat of wax. There is nothing dishonorable about that. Just tell her.
2007-06-01 08:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
first of all how does she feel about it as far as others go? secondly just sit her down and tell her, explain why you were doing it etc. if she is understanding she will get over it, may take a few but in the long run i think it will be okay. if all else fails dance for her lol gl
2007-06-01 08:31:07 · answer #11 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋