Why is life so hard?

Question

I feel as though im going through the toughest time at the moment. moved to london on my own, im 19, no job cant get a job, living off benefits, sometimes i feel suicidal. all i have is a single room, feels more like a prison cell, so lonely. What can i do!?

Answer 1

Change you thinking, if you believe life is hard it is hard the reality is that life is simple , we just complicate it.

last year I was unemployed for 4 months lost my savings got to a point I couldn't buy food of pay the rent, I too was lonely miserable, felt trapped, and felt like life wasn't worth it.

Then I realised that my issue was me, I woke up one morning and thought the only person who can change this is me no one is going to give it to me I have to earn it. So I made a promise to myself I will keep a positive outlook and do what ever it takes to get through this. That day I started jogging every morning and when I got home I began looking for any job that would see me through - that was 8 months ago - now I have a full time position that pays me more than I could ever have hoped for I have a brand new 4x4 I travel regularly and all it took was me.

Answer 2

move back home; it's bloody expensive enough to live in london anyway let alone if you're on benefits. Why have you come to London unless it's for work? You say you can't find work; well then; at least you tried it, you came to London and gave it a shot!

If you are adamant on staying in London then take the opportunity of being on job seekers allowance to do some courses for free and better yourself. Then become more pro-active about finding a job; decide what it is you want to do in life and work towards that goal. You will also meet more people that way and you won't feel so lonely and suicidal.

You've done the hard part; you've spoken up and admitted you have a problem and can't cope. Now it's up to YOU to get yourself out of this rut, and show the world what you have to offer.

Good luck : ) and please try to keep smiling
It's only people who have visited the lowest valleys who can truly appreciate the highest mountains!

Answer 3

That doesn't sound like much fun - I'd be depressed too! What you need to do is to network a little. You need some friends and/or acquaintances. Check with a nearby church and ask if they have any groups where you can hook up with some people around your age - or at least point you in the right direction - if you explain your situation I'm sure they would be willing to help you - and/or check the local newspaper for the same. once you get a network of friends going they may be able to fill you in as to where you can find a job that you might enjoy and that you might not otherwise know about. I give you a lot of credit for stepping out on your own like this at a very young age. Try to stay positive and be determined to "make it!" Because - if you can do this, you can DO ANYTHING!

Answer 4

Where's your family? You are still terribly young to be on your own. I don't know about London, but America has lots of jobs for a 19 year old. Do you have a diploma? You can get a job doing retail, flipping burgers, merchandising etc. They are not glamorous, but it's an income and you will be out in the public, with other folks. Go to a local church or employment agency. They might be of some help.

Answer 5

Is there a reason it shouldn't be hard? No. It's amazing we live at all, given the harsh environment and competition from not only the other humans on this planet, but even the other flora and fauna. Just the smallest virus can defeat the huskiest strongman.

What you need to do is drop the attitude of self-entitlement. Instead, try to be happy that the situation you are in isn't worse. No matter where you are in life, there are good things about it. Life, itself, is for experiencing, and all things good and bad that happen to you add to your experience of life.

If you are in a rut, you have to set some goals and pursue them. I find that most hardships are temporary and can be overcome by persistence. If you keep pushing on a wall, eventually it will fall over.

Answer 6

Get out of your room. Decide that you will look for work as hard as you can until 4 pm each day and then stop. Get a Harry Potter book. See if they have free mental health help. They don't have a Starbucks there?

Everyone struggles at 19. Better days are coming.

Answer 7

There is so much you can do! I do empathize with you - I have been there many myself. I found that getting out and doing some charity work is so good for the soul, mind and spirit and you also meet many people who may have leads on jobs for you. Life can be tough but when you get thru the dark times you will be so much stronger and happier and a survivor! Hang in there!

Answer 8

The reason why you are saying it, is because you do not recognize that you are being put through a test.

It is obvious that you need Christ in your life, for only He can take control of your obvious scrambled life at the moment.
New Life in Christ
(2 Cor 13:5) Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you - unless, of course, you fail the test?

The great stabilizing factor in the Christian life is the fact that Christ lives in us. It doesn't depend on how you feel and what you do, on your opinions or your emotions. Jesus Christ is in the hearts of those who acknowledge His lordship, who love Him with al their might and who serve Him to the best of their abilities.

The glorious truth that Christ loves in you should revolutionize your life. Remember the Devil comes to steal, rob and destroy, while Jesus said "I have come to give you life and life more abundantly. You will see other people in a new lights, as kindred spirits involved in the great adventure of living. When Christ lives in you, your view of life is enriched. This creates a broader vision and a spiritual depth and perception that help you to understand more about the world and God.

Christ not only gives a fresh approach to life, but also supplies you with the inner strenght that enables you to live victoriusly. He give you all you need for an inspired, goal directed, satifsying life. Because Christ live in you, your whole life becomes a new, exiting and satisfying experience.
Ask him in today and He will take charge of your life and your situation will change, I know for mine has chaned.

Answer 9

i guess living in london can make you feel really lonely with so many people there

but this is good as well as bad

with so many people there, you should be able to find friends who like the same things as you

what do you like to do? sports? gigs? nightclubs?

maybe you could do some volunteering work? its very good for your wellbeing and you never know who you might meet there? maybe your future wife!

try this website - theres lots of others though

http://www.timebank.org.uk/

good luck!

Answer 10

oh sweetheart life is so hard and unfair at times...you have at least gotten the benefit of being taken care of and out of the cold or heat...it can feel lonely and depressing...i would try to get out and meet people...not for anything romantic...just to meet people...show them a smile and treat them well...seems when i do that...i feel at least better about myself...sometimes just doing things like walking in the park and petting others dogs (with permission) helps...and talking to old people just sitting there with no one to talk to...i hope this helps...really i do...