My son is a fourth grader and his behavior in class has always been a problem at each grade level. I'm concerned it will continue and possibly become a bigger problem. He is a GATE student so I don't think it would benefit him to repeat fourth grade. His birthday is Sept. 14 and he will begin 5th grade in August. I've been thinking about taking him out of school for a year so he can grow and mature. Even though he was mentally ready for kindergarten, I regret that I did not go ahead and wait a year before starting him in school. I was concerned if I had waited he would have been bored and getting into trouble. But now, I'm concerned he will always be more immature and smaller than his friends & peers. In addition to being a bright kid, he is also a natural born athelete. I'm concerned as he approached middle school and high school that his immature behavior and size will be a hinderance to him. So, is there anybody out there who has done what I'm thinking about doing? Thanks!!!
2007-05-31 23:53:27 · 8 answers · asked by Fe 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
The worse thing you can do is take him out of school. What will he do for a year? How will he relate to his peers when he returns? Home schooling will isolate him. I suggest counseling to discover the causes of his problems. Immaturity can not be the root cause. Discipline obviously is not helping. But he must live in this world. Isolation will only increase the problem. Please don't take him out of school, but speak with your doctor and your school administrators about special help. He may have a physical or emotional problem with which he is unable to cope.
2007-06-01 00:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure what pulling him out a year would accomplish. Are you talking about Homeschooling him? And I assume that is Gifted And Tale ted Education) there is not point in having him repeat.
If your plan is to instead of having him repeat 4th grade, home-school him for a year, then enroll him in 5th grade when he returns, it could work. He would essentially be repeating 4th grade, only doing it with you. But there could be huge costs.
The above poster is somewhat correct in that it does not necissarily address the problem. And although homeschooled kids don't have to be isolated, you are moving him around a lot which can be tough socially.
If you did this, I would enroll him in a new school for the next year. If he would return to his "old" school all of sudden he'll be a year behind his old friends and people would know it. I would probably have him go to private school when he "returned" to school.
But the negative side to this is that he is already "smarter" than a lot of his peers. A lot of behavior problems comes from boredom. He will still continue to grow academically and upon his return he will be that much more head of his peers. It could really create more behavior issues and social isolation.
If you plan is to homeschoool 5th grade and return him with his peers, then there is no purpose to that. He'll still be the youngest.
I think the best advice is to enroll him in something that instills discipline - like martial arts - at leave things as they are. You may even wish to consult a child therapist about the behavior. Behavior issuses can be quite common with gifted kids because they are "not like" the other kids.
Do not pull him out lighty or without complete research and consultation.
good luck
2007-06-01 00:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would consult a professional before taking him out of school.
I personally think you would be doing him more harm than good to pull him out for a year. He is not fully capable of understanding why you would do such a thing. It will make him feel different from his peers as if something was wrong with him. There would be nothing you could say or do that would change that because your actions would show that he IS different. The kids would question him about what happened making him feel even more alienated and different. What that will all end up doing is making him hate you for taking him our of school.
If he were my son, I would let him go. If his acting up in school is getting him into trouble you have no way of knowing if it's caused by his age or not. Perhaps you could get him into counseling to see what is troubling him?
I'm glad to see you are concerned about your son. Some parents could care less. But be very careful on how you handle this as you could do more harm than good.
2007-06-01 00:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him in school. If he is a natural born athlete have him participate in more sports.
Ensure that he has a minimum of one hour of physical activity per day - AFTER school. This will also help him to expend some of the energy that he has, which will help him to be more calm. Ensure that it is not just "playing" outside, but running, biking, swimming - or something that will help him with whatever sport he is in. Kick soccer ball with him, set up a volleyball net in your yard.
It is really amazing how much physical activity can calm a child down. I've had students that I have sent for a run around the school so that they can settle down during class time and it works very well. Maybe you can suggest that to your child's teacher - of course it depends on your school setting and if he is mature enough to do this unsupervised or not.
2007-06-01 03:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To compliment those that already posted, no...do not take you child out of school. If you have a child that has behavior issues, then the causes of them should be explored. If not to help alleviate the situation, but to avoid teaching your son that if he does not learn to control his behavior, then he can just take time off to cope and mature.
Please explain "GATE" in more detail. If you don't know already, Special Eduation applies for those whom are below the norm as well as those above the norm. Your child may need to be challenged to a higher level as he may be bored and disinterested and his only outlet is frustration through negative behavior. It is hard enough to place a student in a beneficial situation who is below typical functioning, I am sure that those above are similarly ignored.
You (and any other guardians for him) are his biggest advocates. These are the years of his life in which absorbing information is the easiest, therefore do what you can to encourage, but not force it to him...at minimal, keep him in school and advocate for the most appropriate and beneficial education for him.
2007-06-01 03:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Rugby Mania 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 18:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by blauser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I think in the US, it's illegal. You can't just take a child out of school. If you are thinking of homeschooling him for a year or two so he can "catch-up", I wouldn't recommend it. Homeschooling is a great alternative to public school, but it's hard to go back and forth. If anything, he needs to be in school so he can learn needed social skills. Taking him out, might only further delay that. Remember that all children develop at different speeds. That's true even of older children.
2007-06-01 00:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by LawComm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also agree with Elaine. . . get him involved in other areas, or perhaps tutoring for the summer months.
He just may need a little maturity gain, perhaps a one on one therapist?
This is a short term situation. Please do not hold him back from his class. That would be traumatic for him, forever.
good luck
2007-06-01 00:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋