Ok, i didnt know to phrase it in a short way so im going to try to explain here. Its not that i dont fit- i do. we spend hours on the phone and at school and everything. They are my BEST friends ( theres 6 of us) In primary school i totally felt weird, in secondary i feel more like myself but i REALLY cant wait till college, i like being around mature people, i guess i matured quickly. so when my friends go out, they want to sit in a park and stare at boys playing football or go and hang around on the street (with boys again) and chase after boys. If i like a boy we go out together on a date, i dont like sitting in parks gawping at random boys. I want to go to fancy clubs and hang out with different people, who i've never met before, do fun stuff that ISNT illegal but i'm not one of those girls who sits around in parks smoking and drinking. Thats not my idea of fun. Should i try to be more like them? Or just be myself and do what i like
2007-05-31 23:12:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well dats coz u was born 2 stand out x
2007-06-02 14:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by ¸.•*´`*♥ slender slim ♥*´`*•.¸ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What age are you ?. Around the 15 mark is when people "hang around" the corners and stuff and when you mature you see just how dull and dirty looking it is. Your friends will see that the boys that they meet when smoking and drinking aren't exactly the best of the bunch. My advice to you is if you don't want to then don't. There are many "unders" clubs and stuff, i assume your under 18. Although some girls get into the adult ones younger. I'd ask them to go out rather than stand about, soon the attention will be taken off standing around. If you've never been to any clubs, make sure you always keep your drink with you and figure out how your going to get home. Stay safe all the club go'ers. Your a mature person, your friends might be just a bit behind you is all.
2007-05-31 23:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi im exactly like that i dont want to drink or smoke my friend who use to be my best friend is always out drinking and is always trying to fit it we don't bother with each other anymore because she is completely different to me i've always felt like i don't fit it
advice: be yourself, i don't respect people who go out drinking just to be like everyone else just do what you want to do when you go to college you'll meet some like minded people, perhaps you're friends havn't matured yet but you have so don't be like them you're more likely to get some better friends by just being you it sounds like they have a lot of growing up yo do. Perhaps you could suggesst that you and you;re friends go to a club or do what you want to do and make it sound very cool and grown up, after all its more mature to go to a club than to sit around gawking at guys playing football which is kinda desperate. Good Luck and be yourself!:)
2007-05-31 23:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by jen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was that girl many moons ago and now i have nothign to do with "those girls"
be yourself and once you get to college you will meet new people and be bale to try the new things, the girls who i knew like that all have 1 or 3 kids and live off the state and get every benifit going.
i did my own thing and bullied and name called for it for a while, in my mind all i kept thinking is i am better than you, i will have a life, a good one!, let them smoke and drink and make fools of themselves, stay true to you and what makes you happy. it will be worth it in the end babe
2007-06-04 10:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by blue eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang out with them. You don't have to do what they do but you enjoy their company. With friends, SOMETIMES you have to do things they want to do, and they should do things you want to do. You don't want to stop hanging around with them. explain what you want to do and put it in a way which will attract them to the idea.
When you go to college you will find new friends however, at the moment you are in secondary school.
2007-06-01 08:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change who you are! You're an amazing person, and the more confidence you show in being yourself, the better off you are. Do what you want, be who YOU are. And I think you'll find, much to their disgust, that the boys will be chasing you anyways, they don't like getting chased, well, mostly anyways, haha!
2007-05-31 23:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more like yourself - it's never worth losing your own identity simply to fit into a crowd. After all it may be possible you've outgrown them - they say you lose more friends in a life time than you make, maybe this is just another example of it.
2007-05-31 23:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever makes you happy. if I were you, I would try confronting my friends and tell them about other things that you're interested in. You could ask them to join you and make it a much more fun experience. It's also a normal behavior if girls are looking at guys.
Hope I helped you.
2007-05-31 23:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by lyly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be what you want to be. Only independent individuals seek out what they want in life. It is definitely okay to be different, and have different opinions. That is what makes life so interesting. If everyone was the same, it would be an awful boring life!!
2007-05-31 23:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
It is up to you, but i suggest that you go your own way and make new friends. It sounds like your current friends are dodgy people and I would stay away from them, no offence.
Hope this helps
2007-05-31 23:19:22 · answer #10 · answered by Deaks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋