Love your partner to bits but can't stand their snoring, wriggling, sleep-talking and bed-hogging? Join the club.
According to a 2006 survey conducted by The National Sleep Foundation in the U.S, 23 percent of couples - or one in five - sleep apart, ostensibly because of snoring and other sleep-related problems.
But is sleeping seperately good for your relationship or is it a sign of intimacy issues and a relationship on the rocks?
2007-05-31 23:10:17 · 20 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband and I have been sleeping in separate bedrooms for a few years now, and I can tell you, it has been REALLY good for our relationship. My husband snores so badly that he often wakes himself up! I like to sleep in a cool place, with very little bedding, he likes a lot of heavy bedding, and a warm place. Before the children left the home, there was simply no room for us to have separate rooms, and it was sometimes HELL being so tired every morning. Sleeping apart does not mean we don't still spend time together on an intimate level however. We spend a lot of time in my bedroom, and my husband simply goes to his room to sleep. I know there are a lot of couples who use the snoring etc simply as an excuse, but I am sure there are many, like me and my husband, who both simply get a better nights sleep now. Our sex life has, in fact, improved a lot since we have been sleeping apart, since we are now both more rested.
2007-05-31 23:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moving in together kinda tells you how things are going to work if you make your relationship more permanent. Some people are great friends but simply cannot live together. All the quirks, habits and the "real you" come out and you can't hide behind the facade you put up throughout your relationship because when you live with someone, everything is out in the open. Good luck to you. I don't know you so I don't know what to say about your relationship. But now you know that more than likely you can't live together. I'm sure both of you love each other very much which is what makes this all confusing. Its up to the two of you. Do you want to fight all the time, or brave a new relationship that might turn out to be even better? Lots of luck!
2016-04-01 08:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been living with my bf for 4 years and sometimes I love cuddling up to him in bed but then there are times when I wish I had my own bed....there are times when his snoring really bugs me or his sweating, or the fact that he always wants the wall side or uses my pillows and steals all the covers.
We are moving into a new flat together which has 2 rooms - he doesn't know yet but I am claiming my own room!!!! I hope it goes down well...I guess it is like having your own bathroom - loads of couples have that.
As long as our sex life doesn't decline I don't see why having your own bedroom is a bad thing?
H.x
2007-05-31 23:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by harriette 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Part of being in a loving marriage means you give up some things, and compromise is part of the package! My husband is a horrid snorer, whereas I have insomnia - not a decent sleep match at ALL! However, there is NO way in heck we would sleep apart. A couple needs the intimacy and specialness of being in one bed together, and not necessarily just for the sex. There's just something about waking up entwined in one another's limbs! And unlike most couples who go for a bed being the bigger the better - to at least queens, or sometimes king size, we have stubbornly held on to our double bed, because it limits the space between us!
Sleeping apart might 'solve' the sleep problem, but I really think it would lead to other concerns.
2007-06-01 01:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband is an over the road truck driver and is only home on the weekends. He is used to sleeping by himself and I am used to sleeping alone. When he comes home we will start off in the same bed but he likes the bedroom really warm while I prefer it a lot cooler. Plus I tend to steal the blankets from him. Plus he tends to be a bed hog. So I usually end up moving to the couch or the spare bedroom so I can sleep better.
2007-05-31 23:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by Red 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love me love my dog, nothing is problem for true lovers, my husband has all .. snoring, sleep-talking, but we always sleep together, so I think sleeping seperately is a sign of intimacy issues and a relationship on the rocks..!!
2007-05-31 23:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know, I think it can be very sexy to have your partner come to visit you for intimacy. It can become a whole other ballgame that way. Think of the good and turn it around. A lot of times, it can really add to an intimate relationship, sleeping together or not.
2007-05-31 23:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by jojof2004 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love overcome all situation.
However at due to medical problem, 4 the sake of their love one. sleep separately.
Problem now can be rectify by surgery intervention for those with sleep apnea and snoring
2007-05-31 23:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by jason w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I trust science haha. My other half snores, not too loud - but I'm a light sleeper. I've come close to getting ear plugs, but I just put up with it. I couldn't stand to sleep apart from my man. I love waking up next to him and his cuddles.
2007-05-31 23:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with sleeping apart. I'd rather sleep alone compared to having someone snore and keep me awake all night.
2007-06-01 00:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋