everyone has all these expectations of me. yes i do want to meet them, not only for their sake but for mine too. but it's driving me insane. it's too hard. i don't even think i can keep doing it coz i know i'm not the little miss perfect everyone expects me to be, so what do i do? how do i do it? why don't i know?
2007-05-31 23:08:34 · 6 answers · asked by shudang! 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
I can relate to you completely. Be yourself, but remember you want the best for yourself as well. So work hard. Perfection is something to strive for but never to be reached.
2007-06-01 07:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by Music Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an adult now coming from a family whose academic expectations were set above normal expectations, let me dispense this advice to you.
Throughout your life you will always have someone breathing down your neck. When you are young it is your parents, and when you move out and get a job, it is your boss and eventually it will be a spouse.
Your youth always feels like an eternity, but looking back on life I can say that it goes by incredibly fast. Where you are at right now cannot and will not last forever. Can you imagine your parents driving you to work at age 35? In as much as you may want your autonomy so do your parents. They don't want to see you fail and be that 35 year old who sits at home and does nothing but watch Maury Povich. Any reasonable adult or parent knows perfectly well that nobody can be absolutely perfect at everything. Perhaps they do project this idea that you can be perfect, but that is only because you are their child, and it is hard for parents to accept the humanness of their children, that being that nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes.
Anyhow as long as your parents aren't becoming mentally or physically abusive towards you, just go with the ride, day by day as you get older it gets faster and faster and soon this period in your life will be over, and if you feel the need for revenge, enroll in art school and pay for it yourself through grants and loans...just kidding dont do that, it is more torture to yourself than to them.
2007-06-01 06:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by wackywallwalker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, where's the pressure coming from? Do you by any chance have an older sibling who was very successful and you feel as if you're getting messages that you'll never be as good as him/her? That's a tough one, and you'd be perfectly OK to remind yourself that actually you're younger, and different, and maybe have a different set of skills and preferences ... and hey folks, give me some time and space here?
Is it the case that whoever's pressuring you is quicker to spot your faults than to praise your successes? In which case you might politely point out to them that you'd probably do better if they gave you more praise and less criticism.
Then I'd try to adopt some study habits where you ration your time between doing the things you like and are good at (there are bound to be some) and slip in a few that you don't like. I don't know whether this helps, but when I was a kid I was always pressured to clean my plate at meal-times, and so it was a question of do I eat the things I don't like first and save the best bits till later, or do I spread them out, or leave them to the end? For me, eating the things I didn't like first worked, but I noticed that other people had different strategies that worked for them ... if the comparison makes any sense to you, can you do the same with your studies?
And try to make sure that you've got a hobby or non-school (therefore non-evaluated) activity that you're good at and enjoy doing.
I hope that helps. And, by the way, nobody's perfect.
Lots of love.
2007-06-01 06:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by mrsgavanrossem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do your best to reach that level! You must be in a young grade still, year 6,7? Well I will tell you this, when you are in year 10, there is NO time to rest! Everyday you are packed with homework, and have to meet deadlines or you will instantly be marked with a zero which hurts your grade extremely. In my school we are expected to write assignments very similar to university ones. The only times I get to rest are on Fridays and 1 hour on Saturday, that’s if I want to succeed, and I do. Your very lucky to have your parents and family encouraging you and pushing you like this, because from my experience my primary school offered little to no education what so ever. I had to earn it myself and of course my mum helped me, however I had to work very hard. It is difficult when you don’t start early, and that’s why your parents are encouraging you so much, so deal with it. Study hard now and it will be a heck lot easier when you reach year 10+ and are doing exams.
2007-06-01 06:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your situation. I used to to be so pressured. What most of them don't know is that our fingers are not the same length and the thumb even faces the opposite side. But it is also very important to the other fingers in doing certain things like writing with pen. In other words, we are all different and have different strengths, qualities, failings etc. One should not be forced to perform exactly like others. One may have certain unique potential to succeed elsewhere and contribute equally well to human society. Of course a student should work harder at school but my reservation is the pressure put on a student to either out-do others or be condemned as being a failure in life. Certain talents may be hindered by such condemnation.Next time they pressurize you, show them your hand and use the finger-length argument.
2007-06-01 06:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by ari-pup 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do your best and leave it at that. Don't worry about what others think. You may not understand it right now but all of these other people in your life are temporary.
Soon they will just be memories.
Love and blessings Don
2007-06-01 06:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋