there family dont know they take these drugs at all
2007-05-31 21:51:26 · 27 answers · asked by Edel F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Now and again is a hard thing to deal with he has some will power or it would be all the time and everyone would know it, maybe he is dealing with things he thinks he has no one to talk to about it, seat him down tell him you like him and are willing to listen to him about anything and everthing and maybe this will steer him away from the drugs, enjoy life we only have one chance at it so make it count and always go for what it is you want no matter what anyone says or thinks.
2007-05-31 22:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by jacki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Stop "really liking them" friends to addicts become one of two things a) enablers or b) co-dependent. Sorry but people who take drugs usually don't stop until they hit bottom and even then, only 50 percent stop. The only way a friend can help someone who takes drugs is to stay away and sever the connection. By being a friend you only help them dig a deeper hole.
2) Don't interfere and tell the family. They already know. People who take drugs or who are alcoholics need people who are enablers or co-dependents to continue with their habit.
Sorry but the most helpful thing you can do is not to help them or associate with them. The habit always comes first and no matter how well intentioned "friends" help the person dig a deeper hole for addict.
2007-06-01 05:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are best off distancing yourself from this person. For one thing, you cannot save them or make them stop. A relationship with an active drug addict is incredibly draining, physically, financially, and emotionally. I know because I was with one for almost a year. She stole from me, borrowed my car (I had to let the insurance go on it, couldn't afford it and she had no license). I also gave her money to buy drugs believing every time would be the last time. I was so busy taking care of her and her needs that I completely forgot my own. I had problems on my job and shut out my family and friends. I felt like I was in prison.
Be her friend but keep a safe distance. If she wants to get off drugs, she needs to do it for her. Not you nor her family.
2007-06-01 05:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by snackfairy06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this. Are you ready for a relationship with someone who could have drug abuse problems? Can you handle his/her drugged moments and sustain his/her habit?
I don't think any person should have to. Let your friend go. Be there and be a friend but make your stand. If not, you'll end up bearing your friend's drug problem with your own set of problems.
If your friend actually changes, good on ya.
If not, don't be fooled by the "I can stop anytime I want" thing. Let the person go. Give him/her over to the habit and pray that he/she realizes what he/she is doing. Unless your friend wants help, chances are he/she'll reject any offers anyway.
2007-06-01 05:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Studier Alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in and still sort of am in the same position as you right now. unfortunately, at the time i didn't really know what i was getting to so i didn't have a heads up like you do.
my boyfriend dealt with problems with coke and still does other drugs although he's quit coke....i hate judging other people, especially when it involves feelings, but your best bet is definitely to avoid this situation unless you are prepared to deal with the stress and emotional turmoil that comes with dating a drug user.
there will be times when he'll choose drugs over you. realize that you can't get mad at him because he won't respond to that, and worst of all he may start lying to you about using. if you do choose to proceed with them, try to be as understanding as possible, but be firm about your position about them using drugs.
2007-06-01 05:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by jaded_trader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know for a fact that this person is using drugs, you should let their family know. You might also consider leaving this person alone. It's not a good idea getting involved with someone who's using. I'm sure you can find someone better suited for you.
2007-06-01 04:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by beautifulmynd64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kinds of drugs are we talking about.?
A little dope... hate to tell you mate but most people do... like they drink so you will end up lonley if you think you can find someone sober.
Bit of E or mushrooms popular too
And its the nice ones too.
however if we are talking meth, crack, pcp, tamazepam, solvents, heroin etc then thats a whole different matter and to be avoided like the plague
Likewise alcoholics
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2007-06-01 05:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave well alone, you could end up dabbling in drugs also. it's really not worth it. As for the family not knowing they may not believe you and you will end up walking away wondering why you bothered.
Find someone else nice X
2007-06-01 05:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get stuck in the martyr role with a drug user. If its controlling their life, only they can take the control back. It's a pretty vague question so I'm basing my answer on assumption.
2007-06-01 04:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by zail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them they shouldnt(nicely) and help them stop if its only now and again it shouldnt be as hard as normal or if they dont know you know they take drugs stay with them for a week or 2 and they wont be abke to infont of you. good luck 1 day the answer will come to you wait until the time is right.
2007-06-01 04:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by woohootoodles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋