Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now off and on but we got back together about 5 months ago and he seems a diiferent person. Hes 22 and im his 1st g/f and he didnt know how to treat me at the start. He just used to go out and do his own thing but now he involves me more. I know this is a good thing but when we split up he met a girl. He said nothing happened & I believed but now this girl has split up with her b/f im afraid he will run back to her because she is sucha flirt and every1 fancies her. Ive talked 2 him about this and he said he is happy being with me and weve booked a hoilday he cant wait til we get away together. Ive been hurt in the past by a few men and im scared he will do the same. The one thing that makes me think like this is because when he goes out with his mates they always end up at a house party & im scared incase shes there and one thing leads 2 another.
Am I just being paranoid?
2007-05-31 21:35:33 · 16 answers · asked by Jules 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, you are insecure due to being hurt in the past so you have two choices here, trust him completely (sounds like he is really into you!) or spend your relationship being paranoid and wondering where he is, who he is with and when he is coming back to you. I was very jealous when I first met my fiance but he works with some women, lives on an RAF base where 50% of the rooms are filled with women so I knew that if I did not trust him then I would be worrying the whole time and not enjoying the relationship. We are still together four years later and I can sleep at night knowing he is faithful. Turst me, once you begin to relax and enjoy yourself and being with him, you will wonder what you were worrying about! x
2007-05-31 22:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you are being paranoid but if you have been hurt in the past this may lead to you thinking that this man will do the same try not to be too gelous as this will lead to him leaving you as he will get fed up with you not trusting him if he has been faithful to you however he may be telling the truth and you just have to trust him talk to him tell him how you feel and he may just give you reasurance that he does only have eyes for you and to be quite honest if he had feelings for some one else he wouldnt want to take you any where or go on holiday i think you should try to stop being worried about what he is going to do as this will only make you think the worse.
good luck and have a nice holiday..
2007-06-01 04:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by Playhuni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must try and trust your b/f, if you dont then maybe you should think why your with him, trust is the worst, it will eat away at you until your relationship is gone, trust me i know.
If your b/f says he is happy being with you, you must believe him.....
I would get any opportunity to show this other girl and everyone else that you are together, and very happy, and not she or anyone is going to come between you.
Dont trust this girl, but do trust you b/f....
Good luck.
2007-06-01 04:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the girl could have just given him soon sound advice. don't let this ruin your relationship. you say you have been hurt in the past, let it go! your man sounds like a nice bloke who has spoken to someone who he could talk to and she has told him where he had gone wrong.
go to the house parties with him if your that bothered he will go off, but you do need to loosen the reigns once in a while
enjoy your holiday and have fun X
2007-06-01 05:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this paranoia is a little gremlin eating away at you talking you down
now to raise your self esteem you have to write doown things which only you think you are good at
and your bf appreciates in you
If he's already had the opportunity to be with her and not taken it then why do you think he will
You have to get some help to build your self up or your inner demons will prevail and you will end up becoming clingy and that is the demise of any relationship
2007-06-01 05:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its difficult but you cant judge him because of your past relationships. Its natural to worry but trust him - you have booked a holiday together and go out on your own and let him worry about what you aregetting up to too!
2007-06-01 05:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by cottontail 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not paranoid, just aware. On a different note, how long have you been apart? If he has had you on his mind without being with you, I think he knows what he wants :).Nothing wrong with looking out for yourself, if somethings up, your gut will tell you.
2007-06-01 04:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by zail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MAYBE A BIT PARANOID BUT YOU HAVE BEEN HURT IN THE PAST SO YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE, BUT BEHIND IT ALL YOU HAVE TO GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THAT SO DO-NT BE WORRYING YOURSELF ABOUT IT, LOOK HES BEEN THERE DONE IT TYPE OF THING AND HE PREFER-ES TO BE WITH YOU SO ENJOY YOUR TIME TOGETHER STOP WORRYING.
2007-06-01 08:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by dareena q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're being paranoid, and if you're not careful youwill drive him away.
He has given you no reason to doubt what he says.
You have to trust that he will be faithful to you.
If you can't trust him, then you have more problems than the one you brought here.
2007-06-01 04:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
but it this wya there are three basis to a relationship for it to surivive! trust honesty and communication! and it seems you dont have any of hose three! get out abbes! you'll find someone better! somone where you shouldnt have to wonder or worry about them!
2007-06-01 04:41:18 · answer #10 · answered by Kylie M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋