In February my close friend got pregnant with her first child after being with her husband for 3 years.. we were happy for her!
A month later another of my friends got pregnant with her 2nd child after getting off b/c just a month prior to that.. we were.. happy for her!
Then, this week I find out that my brother's wife is also pregnant after being off of b/c for 2 months. THEN today, she went to the doctor and found out she was having TWINS.
We were..... PISSED OFF.
We've been having unprotected, timed sex for 4 years now with NO LUCK AT ALL. We've wanted kids so badly since we first got together and its so heartbreaking to see that everyone you know is pregnant but you. Im just so sad anymore about it :(
And I havent had my period since March 17 and Ive taken like 452345 pregnancy test and all negative!
I think Im goin crazy :(
2007-05-31 20:11:28 · 21 answers · asked by Starlight*Angel 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Sorry if I sound so hateful and depressing. I guess I just need to vent to someone :)
2007-05-31 20:13:14 · update #1
Honey, I can relate!
I am infertile and take medications to make me ovulate. Anytime somebody tells me about them being pg I have mixed feelings: why is that so easy for some couples and so hard for others?
I hope you have already searched medical advice to find out what's wrong. If not, do it: the sooner the better.
in order to cope with your feeling, just know they are natural. I am active in 2 Y!groups and we have very often situations like you describe: we all feel bad about it and try to help each other to accept that a bit of envy is a normal reaction.
If you feel like join us:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ttc_number1/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Trying_To_Conceive/
There are some good books that helped me a lot:
A few good eggs
Conquering infertility
The Infertility Survival Guide
You can have also a look at the web site of RESOLVE.org and locate a support group in your city.
Take care and, if you feel like, drop me a line: my e-mail address is activated in my profile.
2007-05-31 21:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by laura c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awh I'm sorry hon. I'll sprinkle some baby dust on you!
I have been trying to conceive for only 14 months but I know how depressing it can be. When I wlak through the mall and I see a pregnant lady the first word that pops into my head is B****, however, that is hateful and afterwards I feel bad and tell myself that I don't mean it. Keep trying. It'll happen.
They told us that there was less than a 2% chance my husband could have kids. We decided hope and love would bring our baby into this world. I got pregnant early this year, however, I miscarried May 3rd. I find it so exciting just the fact that we got pregnant. You didn't say if either of you guys have infertility but if one of you do there is still a chance! We are trying again = )
~Sarah
2007-05-31 20:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by Saerah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sooo sorry to hear that you are going through all that! I know how difficult it can be to just see everyone around you being pregnant and having babies. And I know how it feels to have to put on that smile when inside all you want to do is scream and cry and ask "why not me"? I sympathize with you deeply.Dosent it seem like when having a baby is on your mind that everywhere you go that's all you see? Either a pregnant woman or a cute little baby? It kind of consumes your every thought (or it does for me at least)
Have you been to a specialist? That may be an option, at least to figure out what is going on with your body I would say for your husband to get checked out too if he hasn't already.Its never hurts to go and just see what they say and it may give you some insight on what is happening with your bodies. Also you said that you haven't had AF since March 17? Have you had a blood test done? or were they all hpt's? if they were all hpt's you may just not yet be producing enough hcg.(I'm sure you already know all this but just thought i might throw that in there)
Anyway like I said I sympathize with you and your time will come hang in there there's always a plan for everyone:):):)XXXXX LOADS OF BABY DUST TO YOU!!!xxxxxxxx
good luck
2007-05-31 20:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by M&M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's totally understandable! I would be pissed off if I were you too. My hubby and I tried for 6 years before I fell pregnant with his baby (I already had a son from a previous relationship). I had every test imaginable and the doctors finally told us they would put us on the list for IVF...when suddenly I fell pregnant! Apparently the stress of constantly worrying about it and trying for it all the time had done something psychological to me and as soon as I realised we needed help and stopped worrying...I fell pregnant on my own. I have had another baby since then and am no0w pregnant with my 4th child. Once I had one...my body is suddenly able to have a whole heap of babies.
Oh and I tried for over 2 years to have my first son and was told I would never have kids at that stage of my life either...sure proved 'them' wrong!!
I would suggest going to the doctors and asking for tests...there could be something simple happening that is fixable or it could just be down to stress. And if you haven't had a period in that long....you are either pregnant and it isn't showing up or you need to be checked out asap.
Best of luck to you.
2007-05-31 20:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by West Aussie Chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever gone that long without getting your period? To find out for sure, go see your doctor to get a blood test. I too went through what you are going through. It's totally human to feel what you feel. Rest assure, there will be an answer to your prayer. You and your husband should go get some tests done to see if there's anything the med. world can do to help. Either way, I know stress will NOT help. It's hard, but you must find a way to relax. Good luck!
2007-05-31 21:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by L F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
I understand your frustration...
I would be like that too!
Have you had a blood test from the doctor because alot of women won't register a HPT until they are over 12weeks pregnant. I think you need to go get one!
Maybe{if you haven't already} need to see a doctor who can run some tests and see whats going on with both of yous.
Have you thought about maybe going on Clomid?
Maybe you just need a helping hand...
I feel for you I really do.
I don't know how you've lasted that long!
I was trying for my son for 7months and they were the longest 7months of my life!
I admire your courage to pick yourself up each day and move on and keep trying!
You seem like a really good person and I hope God finally drops that little bundle into your belly very very soon!
Good Luck
Cassie xxx
2007-05-31 20:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same everywhere I went there was happy, smiling mommies either with big tummies or babies. Then I fell pregnant. Since you have been trying for 4 years and nothing maybe you should go and see your doctor - because maybe there is a problem. I don't mean to upset you but 4 years is too long.
Good luck and loads of baby dust to you.
2007-05-31 20:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Skye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear that you are having so much trouble. This may not help, but maybe it will. I have a friend who has had fertility problems for years. I have a problem in the opposite direction, we get pregnant despite proper birth control use. I always wish that I could just get through the pregnancy and never have to tell her, never have to see her. I feel bad. I'm sure that your friends and family feel awkward about it and would love for you to get pregnant. It probably doesn't help, but in case it does just a little I thought I would tell you that its pretty tough for us to see you suffer too.
Best wishes and good luck
2007-05-31 20:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do human beings LIE? hi??? in case you’re heartbroken and somebody who broke your heart is calling you in case you're all precise. tell them the certainty. "No, this is not that i'm." the only persons that ask," how are you ", are persons that care approximately you. basically understand that what replaced into, heavily isn't returned. remember the variations you had and why the relationship broke. Then look deep interior and sweetness. “Am I lacking the romance or is it the friendship that when replaced into there.” basically because of the fact you're over romantically. perhaps there's a friendship? (If the relationship led to turmoil or undesirable blood then the different person could care much less on “the form you have been”)
2016-10-09 05:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend went through the same thing after trying for approx. 3 years, she finally did get pregnant with baby #2 and lost it. The has polycystic ovarian disease.
Have you been tested for anything like that? I'm sure you have, but GOOD LUCK!
2007-05-31 20:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by NA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋