ok so my husband is in Iraq and i have two kids a boy and a girl. they are 2 and 4. they always ask me mommy when will daddy come home and i then just breakdown and cry. IDK what to tell them. what should i say. Will they understand? IDK i just need your help
2007-05-31 19:46:38 · 9 answers · asked by Michelle S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you know a time line of arrival from over seas put it on the calender like say it is december and now it is june put certain things on the calender for them to due a count down like a half of an x for them to complete as the days goes by, the 2 year old will not under stand this but the 4 year old should and the old saying goes if the older sibling is okay with the situation the rest will fall in line and except it. Just what ever you do don't be a day off put it at the last possible day so it is a surprise when he does come home early. Or do the chain type thing like kids do a chrismas and take one away each day that passes for them to see that time is getting closer and closer sometimes if it more then 30 days or so this is the best thing to do...... I did this with my kids when my husband was on six month deployments in the service, it worked great!
2007-05-31 20:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by jacki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth that daddy is fighting for our freedom and is keeping us safe. Tell them that he loves them very much and wishes he can be at home with all of you but it is what daddy does to make money and thats why we have the things that we want and need. keep plenty of pictures around the house of him and put your favorite one in a night stand or somewhere that you can look at it when you feel lonely and want to have some alone time. Try to make it a happy time that your kids can remember so it doesn't bother them. He will come home safely and I wish you the best my husband was in the same situation and I am glad that we don't have kids yet in case he goes back. I broke down all the time and couldn't concentrate at my work sometimes and it will never change but I made sure that when I needed that time I was able to go somewhere alone. To me you are like my sister us wives have the hardest job ever I give you all the credit in the world and I hope you will find this helpfull.
2007-06-01 02:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Michelle, there are family support groups for those whose spouses are overseas in the military. Consult your local recruiting office, the VA or local social services hot line. Ask for help. Also, you are not the first nor the last person to have this experience. I hear the pain you have. There are no great answers. You might consider seeing a counselor yourself. There may be groups that meet regularly, perhaps near military bases. Also, if you really feel the children are having a problem there are child therapists who are available and charge according to the ability to pay (in other words, they are very inexpensive). Good luck and I will pray for you.
2007-06-01 02:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell them their father is off doing a very important job right now. And very soon when he is finished, he will be home. You know when they get to missing him, you can have them draw him letters with paper and crayons. You can write on the back the children are saying to him. I am sure your husband would deeply appreciate the letters from his children. And it would help them tell him how they miss him in there own words.
2007-06-01 03:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is in iraq and while i dont have any kids i have a young brother who is very attatched to my husband and the way i explain it to him is everyone in the military has to take a turn in Iraq right now but he will be home soon. i'm not sure if kids so young will understand but its worth a try. hang in there honey, if u ever need to talk feel free to email.
2007-06-01 02:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them daddy is away, i guess telling them that daddy is coming back soon is not so good either. what about the military doesn't it provide support help groups for this type of situations that are happening to hundreds of military families that have loves in in Irag. sorry my friend i not much help. wish you the best.
2007-06-01 02:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anakin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Daddy is always here in our hearts and prayers and he will be home as soon as he's done protecting us. No matter where he is - he is always thinking of us and loves us.
how's that?
2007-06-01 02:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by christie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them daddy's away on a business trip and he'll come back as soon as his boss man lets him:( sorry and good luck
2007-06-01 02:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by twiggy_vienna_love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tell the kids that your husband has gone to get some great gifts for them... and once he finds it he will come back.
2007-06-01 02:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by Aditya K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋