Why is it that guys can't comprehend Anything a woman says, acts, or does to them???

Question

I'M BEING SERIOUS HERE PEOPLE, so please no brainless responses please...

I really would like to know why we buck heads constantly, and why guys can't seem to understand or comprehend that we are mostly Sensitive creatures that need Kind words spoken to us, not stupid things flying out of their months at a million miles and hour, that they can't ever Really take back. Why do they have to test us as much as they do and push us to our max! at all times??? Why can't they get the concept of sometimes you should just SHUT THE HELL UP!!!!!!!! and move on, and forget the argument, and instead have more fun times, not that important to fight about it, whatever it is t his time.. augh!, Why can women get past an argument quicker than a guy?, but at the same time, why do guys have to PUSH IT AND PUSH IT AND PUSH IT AND PUSH IT, Until we completely give us a Meltdown!!!!! ..... What is it that they Don't get? REALLY!??? ... Don't say women... Seriously, what is it???

I DO believe that in general that women DO think quicker than men, and that we can put things together more quickly and more rapidly than a man can... It's been Scientifcally proven that women use Both sides of their brains, while men only use one side at a time, which makes me wonder... Can we Ever get along.... without having to compromise for EVERYTHING! ..... And Constatly being the pleaser, the mother, the nurturer, the companion, the "understanding one", the compromiser, the one who is always trying to make things better by puttig your needs, which are NEver Met, I might add, aside, Again, for what??? ..... I guess I just don't see why they are like this, even still to this day... They think we do everything we can Against them, when it's the COMPLETE OPPOSITE!.. ahhh... any feedback, please!!! ........

NEED UNDERSTANDING!!! ..........................

Answer 1

You say you are being serious, but you are not being very fair or reasonable. You are perpetuating the stereotype that is much the cause of the problem: that a woman cannot say anything without getting all emotional about it, just as a man will find it hard to talk about emotions.

It is true that men are from Mars and women from Venus, but we are not talking about the planets here, but the god and goddess for whom those planets are named. Women tend to speak from the heart (metaphorically; ask a Tarot reader about the suit of cups, which became hearts in the playing card deck), while men tend speak from their gonads. Yes, they believe they speak from their heads, and they do when talking to one another, and to some extent when talking to women colleages in business or in educational institutions. But mostly, it's their hind brain. Just as it is with us.

The difference is that the hind brain (the most animal part) is dominated by the most animal side of our existence, which is in turn dominated by sexuality. And there, a man is programmed to dominate. And, whether you give in to it or not, a woman is programmed to submit. Think about what your cave-dwelling ancestors would do, and that's what your hind brain will be doing.

The trick is to try to bring these discussions to the forebrain, the most rational and morally responsible part. So when you realize that communications are breaking down, say something like, "Wait. Let's sit down and relax and talk this over reasonably. I promise I will try to control myself if you will." Then don't let yourself get hooked into arguing whether you have just called him unreasonable by making such a suggestion: say something like "I think we were both getting a little out of control."

Good luck! Some men are really not interested in being reasonable (just as some women, called "drama queens" these days, are not interested), and you just have to keep your distance from guys like that.

Answer 2

Lets see women exclude men in most if not all of their conversations so we both have a completely different vocabulary! Women are the great communicators* and they don't teach us how to communicate better! On the note of sensitivity thing it is worse to be ignored based on gender than to have arguments! Women always have to be right. We don't meet the expectations we hold for each other! I know for sure that women hold grudges for far longer than men so "the argument" is never over! We should be able to take things back but you wont let us and that is hurtful!! The reason we don't shut the h#!l up is that when we are sad the only way we can express ourselves is to act angry! Women have the luxury to cry but men are told that crying isn't the manly thing to do so showing anger is the only way of expressing that! You said "don't say women" but women are much more mature than men so the responsibility for the fight is 40%/60% fighting is the fault of both of the people! I know women have a hard time accepting responsibility for anything negative and are always saying "look what he did to me"! You did it to yourselves! I believe in Karma, what goes around comes around so just be more careful in the future. If you don't then the phrase female canine comes to mind for you!!

Answer 3

First of all I've felt like you do too sometimes. But maybe it's just your perception that the can't move on with life, maybe you feel upset about the way you acted, so you think he must still be upset. From my experience if you know you were wrong or right (doesn't matter) if you go to him and appologize sincerely he'll move on. I don't think he does it on purpose. Guys just don't think like women do they aren't made the same. Guys are more black and white whereas we tend to analize everything and take things more personal then we should. And they push it because it's a man's "job" to fix things. So him pushing you is just his way of trying to fix things. Granted it never works, maybe he never had a father to teach him any better. I guess to sum it all up, He's male, You're female, You're different. It doesn't make HIM wrong, just different. Love him anyway!

Answer 4

excuse me for being judgmental but you are too so it seems to me that you have just been in a fight or argument with someone you care about. And you are labeling every male with the judgment of the males you know maybe you associate with different guys but witch all have the same qualities i know that in my last 2 relationship i was the one saying the things you are saying now about all men. And it took me a while to realize it wasn't women that think weird and only care about themselves it just so happened that the 2 i got were like that so i am sorry that you have had a person that doesn't understand your feelings but there are males out there that will listen to you and talk to you and ignore fights trust me good luck and hop you live happy =D

Answer 5

The answer is really simple, boys and girls aren't socialied as a group growing up, they are divided and boys are taught from a very young age win, or succeed, there for it is the king of the playground syndrome, even if they are wrong, they insist on being right,
Girls on the other hand are brought up being compasionate and caring, to mend and to make things better and brighter.
When these two groups try and cohabitate at a mature age, we tend to fall back on life's lessons and what is known, and all too often people tend to stop learning after they leave high school. Its really simple.

Answer 6

I have to agree with "Scooby", we ladies do tend to hold on to the arguments and we do not put them to rest. Everytime we argue we bring all the old stuff back up. SO I think guys are getting the bad rap here. So we as ladies have to say okay argument over and lets forget. No there are somethings that cannot be forgiven or forgotten so we move on. Maybe you have the wrong person in your relationship and there is alot of work there that needs to be accomplished.

Answer 7

The male and female brains evolved to meet different demands. Often they will be using different logic for the same question. there is a book called "why men dont have a clue and women always need more shoes" that explains a lot of this. Best of luck!

Answer 8

Well, we can be sensitive at times. But remember that there are times that men are having some difficulty in expressing his emotions and sometimes we cannot get what you are saying, because sometimes you don't go direct to the point. You usually beat around the bush. I can also say that probably that guy wants to have you on the palm of his hands... You know he is not trying to resolve it. What you usually want is what you usually get. Maybe it might be because you are attracting the one that you are thinking of... Just think of that. ;-)

Answer 9

Somebody needs a hug!!
I have to disagree I think girls hold grudges a lot longer than guys. Your girls tend to bring things up over and over. I can get into fight say what I want to and move on. It seems to be a female thing to make it an all night event. So have a beer relax and tell your man what you want in a calm voice. We comprehend better then

Answer 10

men and women both comprehend the same over all.sounds to me you are mixed up with the wrong man.on the other hand some men don't want a woman they believe are smarter then them self as for myself i think smart woman are sexy.but either way no matter how smart or stupid a person(male or female)may be you can learn something from them!