My son is only ten months old but he has learned to arch his back and scream if I tell him no no or If he gets ahold of something that he shouldnt have and I take it, he will fall to the floor and cry like he is being beat! I dont use a mean voice or scold him I just give a firm no no...so i'm not sure if he gets his feelings hurt or what but He is my first baby but I feel like its too early for him to be behaving this way!! How do I handle a tantrum? Do I tell him no when he throws a fit even though thats what started the whole tantrum in the first place???
2007-05-31 19:29:44 · 7 answers · asked by Cruzie's Mama 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
What I do is put them down and let them throw their fit. If they are getting attention for it, then they know what they can do to get that attention that they want the next time. There isn't really anything else you can do except just let him throw the fit. He's stillf very young so any discipline will probably be lost on him. Good luck
2007-05-31 19:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is almost 10 months old and she has been throwing tantrums for the last month or two. I also thought it seemed early to be experiencing tantrums, so I'm glad to hear someone else going through the same thing. I can't even go down a toy aisle anymore because she gets upset when she can't get her hands on all the toys. My approach to the tantrums is firmness (don't give in, it just makes it worse next time...for instance my daughter has an obsession with the telephone, and at first we would let her play with it until she was so preoccupied with it that she started throwing tantrums every time she saw the phone and couldn't have it, such as someone else talking on the phone...now she is not allowed to play with the phone at all and the tantrums have lessened). In addition to firmness and consistency, patience is probably the most important ingredient...a few tears aren't the end of the world and baby will be okay...life is all about learning, and learning limitations and boundaries can be frustrating but none the less important. Lastly, redirect. Find a different activity that baby is allowed to do, or an object that is safer for them to play with. Get their attention by doing something different, like looking into the mirror, turning the water taps on or looking at the birds outside the window...quickly they forget what they were tantruming about. At this age they still don't really understand the meaning of "no", so redirecting them is a great strategy to deal with tantruming...consequences aren't all that affective at such a young age. This is my approach to the pre-toddlerhood tantrums...hope it is helpful
2007-06-01 02:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. My youngest son will be 1 year old on saturday. What your son is doing is normal. The best thing to do is ignore him. At this age the tantrum don't even last long. Instead of always saying no, just take the object away from him and give him something to play with. Good Luck and just enjoy being a mom. The fun part is the terrible 2's. They start that around 1 1/2 years.
2007-06-01 02:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by pammi716 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, a tantrum is completely normal at this age and as a matter of fact if not dealt with properly I can introduce you to my mother in law who throws them at 68.
My son is 2 1/2 and had his first tantrum at around 10 months. He would throw himself on the floor and cry like he had been beaten or something. One time around a year he stopped looked up to see if Daddy was watching and then cried even louder. He has about one tantrum a month now and this is what we do.
We ignore him, completely. I make sure that there is nothing on the floor around him that he could get hurt with if he rolls and I ignore him until he stops. When he stops I let him come to me. He usually comes to us and places his head in our lap or against our leg. We tell him that he is a good boy for calming down and lets play something else.
We pick our battles with him, I removed all the Cd's from the entertainment center and display his planes (Jay Jay) instead but he is never allowed to touch the remotes and we just keep them higher than before.
The more we ignored his tantrums the less he had.
All we can really do is love them.
Good luck!!!!!!!!
2007-06-01 02:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tantrums, actually happen at all stages of life... :)
so it's pretty natural. i wouldn't say no to many times, because for babies everything is basically no. so try calming him down, distracting him with a favorite toy, or a food that he likes. Also, if he just won't stop, just start acting like it's no big deal. say things like, okay, go ahead and cry, ill just stand here while you cry. go ahead. that's what my mother used with me, and it usually made me stop. it's sort of reverse phcycology. but i think it works! good luck!
2007-06-01 02:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by harlee.babe7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The minute he begins throwing the fit i would lightly tap his thigh or hand, tell him no and promptly put him in his crib or a pack 'n play and walk away. If he is in the crib he can't get hurt and is not getting his way. The first time you give in you have taught him that the tantrums work.
2007-06-01 02:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Quit saying "no" so much. You really have to pick your battles. At ten months, the only thing you should do is redirect him to something that is okay for him to be doing. Go to a new toy, or get out a new book, go to a new room, etc. If you constantly say "no" or other forms of it, it will backfire. He will learn to zone you out in no time. And there's really not that many reasons to be saying "no" that often. At most, you should use that word once or twice a day. Any other situations need to be dealt with before they become that serious- babyproof your house, or at least the rooms he is in most often. Then whatever he gets into should be acceptable. Redirecting is the only effective method of dealing with this, he's not old enough to know why you're not letting him play with things, and if you want "no" to mean something when it really needs to, such as him touching the hot stove or running out into the street, then you need to use it appropriately now. This worked with my daughter well before 10 months, by 12 months, she'd look to her daddy or I for approval when she thought something might not be okay, and with just a look from us, she'd shake her head and walk away... Good luck~
2007-06-01 02:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋