I am married and been with my husband for more then a year now. A male friend of mine who is married too but far from his wife did seek my help to accompany him to process his passport in a government office.
I didn't seek my husband's approval. I just told him that he need not pick me up from work bec I had to help our friend and we have to drive to city. He didn't seem to mind at all.
On my part, I don't feel comfortable now being alone with the opposite sex other then my husband.
Is it still appropriate for me to be in that situation. I wonder what other husbands would feel in this situation.
2007-05-31 19:26:46 · 22 answers · asked by LIA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well...since your own instincts are telling you something, I would go with that. You're obviously have some issues with this. I would trust your own judgement. Get you hubby to go with you. Make an excuse to go have lunch w/ your hubby or something.
As far as being alone w/ another man for something like that....I personnally wouldn't like it. I would hope the could find someone other guy to go w/ him. And b/c I'm extremely jealous (sorry) and don't like the idea of another guy being around my woman. Not that I don't trust her, it's just I don't like it.
If your being upfront w/ your husband AND you don't have a problem w/ it, I would say, it's not a problem. But since you don't feel comfortable, I would say tell the guy to get someother guy to go w/ him. But I don't know it all, it's just my opinion.
2007-06-01 04:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Lia,
After a long time i m writing an answer to you. I hope you must have made up your mind by now as the people have covered most of the things in their answer.
As for as I understand that you are quite honest in writing what you are feeling. Any body can not make you feel what he wants you to feel. You are not comforable in being with the opposite sex so you need not to get into it without the company of your husband.
If you feel comfortable then only you may accompany that friend. Because I understand, not comfortable means, not capable of controlling your feelings or emotions, if some thing happenes. None of the friends can take any advantage of being you alone with him unless you want it. But what I understand from you have written is that you are yourself not sure about your feelings.
So it would be better not to expose yourself in such a situation, which you do not know, how to tackle.
2007-06-01 00:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by akela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to be honest, I'm a little confused personally about what "situation" you're referring to. It doesn't sound to me like you did anything wrong; it doesn't even sound like there's a "situation" to be worried about. Unless you have left some details out, but that's a different story. If all you did was go down to the passport office with a friend, I don't believe you should need to seek your husband's approval (or anyone else's, for that matter) before going. As long as your friend didn't make any kind of move or advance that made you feel uncomfortable, then I don't think you have anything at all to feel badly about.
2007-05-31 19:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by Squiddy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It should be left up to the parents unless the parents want it taught to their children. It should be an optional class. It should be the basics. It is up to the parents to tell their kids about protection or abstinance. ______________________________________... Should it be taught on a yearly basis? It should be taught to kids going through puberty, not 5 year olds. Should it be coed or broken into sexes? Broken into sexes. What should be covered and at what ages should it be covered? How it happens and it should be for ages 13+ Should slang language be included? No What age? 13+ What about issues like at risk behavior, self esteem, good touch bad touch, body safety, etc? This should be the parent's department. How should they be addressed and at what age? Again 13+ and it should be optional and up to the parents to decide. Should a male teach males and a female teach females? Yes. Should there be an option to sit out for some ages? Yes Should it be mandatory for some ages? No Should there be information sent home to the parents? Yes. The parents need to know what is being taught to their kids. Again all age groups or just some? Just some. Permission slips? YES!
2016-05-18 02:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband is the kind that doesn't mind if I am with another friend of the opposite sex but I am not the same way I think that as long as both of you trust each other and know you won't do anything behind the other ones back that it is fine.
2007-05-31 19:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a happily married woman, my opinion on this is that it's okay. I don't expect my husband to drop his female friends, nor will I drop my male friends. As for being alone with the opposite sex, on a drive to a public place, this shouldn't be an issue... Now, if it's a hotel room, that's another story!
2007-05-31 19:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by Snoopy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are just trying to help out a friend. You are both hopefully married. Just being in the same place at the same time is no reason to believe that you are going to get up to something naughty. Now, there might be cultural issues that you have not mentioned here, but seems like nothing to worry about.
2007-05-31 19:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never had a problem with my wife doing something like that. You have to trust your spouse in that situation. You have to be secure in your relationship and as long as it is someone that you trust (that will not try anything and you are safe with) then it shouldn't be an issue. If a man is insecure then he might feel threatened. As long as your husband and you are fine with the situation then I see no problem with it.
2007-05-31 19:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by jian9007 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, do you find him attractive?? do you love your husbandd?? its seems like guilt...when ever you do something you know is wrong and you do it any ways...it sits in the back of your mind, should i be doing this...You should have told your husban first, then it wouldn't have been so bad...as for you feeling uncomfortable with the opposite sex, did the guy hit on you, did he make you feel uncomfortable??or maybe did he say something to make you feel that way, some times words or action make people feel that way...i think y'all get over it in time..
2007-05-31 19:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by Robert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not ok. A simple call to your husband would have prevented the confrontation. What would you do if you saw your husband with another woman and he had not told you??
2007-05-31 23:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋