Do you believe that the past is something we need to let go off, with its triumphs and heartaches or is it what makes us the person we are today?
2007-05-31 18:50:56 · 15 answers · asked by judles 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
LET GO OF THE PAST!!! Please trust me on that one. I've been reading a lot about letting the past go.... forget it... if you are looking at the past all you're doing is reliving the past. Depression starts to kick in and then you beat yourself up about stuff. What if this, what if that. You can't change the past, it is what it is. Sucks but true. Heartaches are a b.... but we all go through them. Things happen for a reasons and there are lessons that need to be learned. It's a sign from the person up above. All he is showing you is a lesson. I know all of this because I have to deal with my past as we speak. I've lost my marriage and thats because of stupid decisions I've made. Now I have to move forward and move on and some how forgive myself and that's what you need to do. If you don't it will just eat you away in side.... Stop thinking about it and move on. Good look you will be fine
2007-05-31 19:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One way I have found to let go is to write a story loosely around the facts using them to recreate different satisfying endings with resolution. The other is to do a serious letting go ritual with another person who also wants to let go - like tying yourself literally by the fingers with a long twine knotted to something llike the back of a chair and feel how you are tied in to those people that each strand denotes- and events; and what freedom might feel like - forgive yourself for letting it happen - then when you feel ready cut each tie with a pair of scissors. The idea behind it is that the unconscious works in dreamlike images and can be reprogrammed by a piece of work - like this - thereafter any tiem htose instances come inot the head for you to chew onthem just say to them - no! this is now in the past I have let go!
2016-05-18 02:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if we hold on to something in the past its like ur carring a heavy backpack everywhere you go and you cant be free. its a burden. you should let it go. its a combination of the both that makes us the people we are today. some have more heartaches than others. some have less.
2007-05-31 18:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by bevirtuousok 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to just let go of the past. You need to move on. Yes it helps us out better as we get older but dont keep the past in the back of your head it will make you go crazy just thinking about it all the time. Just let the past move on. Forget about it. Start fresh and open a new door for yourself.
2007-05-31 18:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by cari g 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not become a prisoner of your past because it will make make you sad and withdrawn. Freedom comes with understanding what was good and bad and choosing to learn from the past. Dwelling on the past can be hurtful because there is so much happiness to be had in this world.
2007-05-31 18:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BOTH!!! ABSOLUTELY BOTH!!!! The things that happen in the past kinda have a way of molding who we are today. Now there are things in the past that has to be let go... IE- i was raped 10 years ago. That is something that i had to let go of. and then again, friends that i had, men that i dated, fights with family members..... some of those i hold close to me and i carry them with me every day because everything teaches us lessons.. so really, u pick and choose what parts of the past needs to stay in the past and what parts of the past you carry with you and what parts you want to present to your future.
2007-05-31 18:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by who are you anyway?? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to let go of the past otherwise we can not move on in the future or present. Everything good and bad makes us who are become and are in life.
I hope this answered your question.
2007-05-31 19:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by tasha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you expect to move forward if you are always looking back. I believe we all learn from our past whether good or bad. I am thankful for all the things that I have done and have happened. I wouldn'e be who I am today if it wasn'tt for those experiences. My Mother always told me, "Forgive and Forget." Concentrate on moving forward in your life.
2007-05-31 19:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it should not be forgotten-it does make us who we are today. With that being said, do not hold on to it or have any regrets. Try to remember the happy times. Everyone makes mistakes. We are all human. We live and we learn.
2007-05-31 18:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by Serenity 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no u should not forget about the past its important to know what u did to get where u are today the good and the bad and learn
u could ot forget it eveb if u tried tis hard trust me i know i have tried
2007-05-31 18:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by im2h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋