How do you improve self esteem?

Question

its hard for me to not be self consious about my looks when you see these Beautiful gurls in magizines and stuff && I dont look anywhere near that! I dont wanna feel this way since its summer and i wanna enjoy goin to the lake with out the stress of how i look (&& my BF gets frustrated cause i dont have self esteem!) how do i feel better bout myself?
PLZ help me =)
thnx bunches!! <3

Answer 1

Beauty is a state of mind. Its not cliche. When you change your mind about yourself, and how you look, others TAKE NOTICE. If you feel beautiful(truly), others will perceive you as beautiful. TOOK ME FOREVER to realize this, esp when I was a teen. You have to really have that confidence, no matter what you look like. I know beautiful girls who have really no self esteem, and its sad really, because they could be so much more beautiful if they believed they were.

Answer 2

One of my favorite quotes is from Elenor Roosevelt -- she said "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission."

Let's face it -- not everyone is beautiful. But look at it this way -- when you see someone who isn't drop-dead gorgeous, do you put them down inside your head? Of course not. So other people aren't putting you down either.
And if they ARE so shallow and narrow minded, well, why on Earth would you care what they think?

As I see it, there are a few ways to improve your self-esteem. First, go out and do GOOD things. Get really good grades, if that's your strong point. Or do some volunteer work, really get involved. Do something GOOD and you will feel good about yourself.

Aother way to get self-confidence is to ACT self-confident. It seems really hard at first, but the more you ACT as if you feel pretty and confident, the more confident -- and pretty! -- you will become.

One other thing -- you say your boyfriend gets frustrated because of your low self-esteem. He probably is tired of always having to 'build you up.' Try building HIM up for a change. Try thinking about something, someone, other than yourself. If you stop caring so much about what others think of you and start to think about what you can do for someone else, you will feel better.

I hope you can enjoy the lake and your boyfriend!

Answer 3

Try not to focus so much on how you look, but what you do. If you think magazine images are bringing you down, stop looking at them. Do things that make you feel good. Do you like sports? Writing? Art? Get involved more in those things, and as you develop a skill you enjoy, your self esteem will grow.

Answer 4

One way is to get to the root of the problem. In this case, you say you feel less beautiful then the girls in magazines. Well let me let you in on a little secret, those magazines want you to feel less then those models. Thats what makes you buy the magazine. You feel less then perfect so you want to buy the magazine to learn how to "fix" your problems. And there it goes, you purchased the product and BOOM, the company made money off of your insecurities.

The way I began to feel better about myself was when I realized that the media is trying to trick me like this. I then learned i was smarter then that to fall for their tricks. My self esteem began to rise from there.

I also want to recommend an awesome, fun to read, book. Its called, "can't buy my love" by Jean Kilbourne. The book is sweet as all hell and really helps you learn about this stuff!

You seem like a bright girl, I think you can overcome this!

Answer 5

having self esteem is necessary for you to become happy..all you need to do is to be a little more confident of yourself. All those pretty girls you see in magazines aren't at all perfect, they too, have insecurities of their own. Nobody's perfect. And here's the best part, guys don't like girls who look almost perfect to be their girlfriends, yes-they like the way they're pretty and all, but that's it. I'm sure your BF wants you to know that you're pretty and he loves you just the way you are.

by the way..why not check this webpage..it might be of help!=p

http://www.more-selfesteem.com/self_confidence_tips.htm

Answer 6

If you have a boyfriend that loves you, obviously he loves you no matter what, so you don't need to freak out about your looks. Ask yourself why he loves you; it's because you're special from every other girl. Besides, most of the girls in the magazines have eating problems, and that's bad.

Answer 7

just look in the mirror and tell yourself I'M HOT!
do it with a smile and make sure you mean it....even if you kind of dont think so.

try to pull yourself away from the magazines try not to compare yourself to them because they make everyone look bad... i'm NO where near what they look like and i tell myself everyday that i look hot (in the mirror) and it boosts my confidence... and i usually get compliments through out the day. at least make and effort to give yourself a compliment each day..no matter if you tell yourself (wow, you're having a GREAT hair day or these clothes TOTALLY look great on you!!) just something...

just make yourself look your best always and there is nothing more you can do!!

you look beautiful ... no matter what those super models look like.

hope i helped!
and REMEMBER COMPLIMENTTSS!! :D :D :D

Answer 8

ok dont listen the jerk with the first answer that person has been a jerk to others. the reason you don't look like the girls in magazines is because they are airbushed to look perfect. don't worry so much. your boyfriend probably get frustrated because he knows you are beautiful and he wants you to see that.

Answer 9

just have faith in yourself and who you are!
images mean nothing darling.
remember that.
and your boy friend is attracted to you yes?
then DONT worry about it.
most of those girls in those silly magazines aren't happy with themselves or with their life.
just think about all the good things in your life, and how you didn't need to look like a stick or super model to get them.
whats important is that you believe in yourself and try to see your own unique beauty. don't worry about what everyone else looks like or even thinks. its what YOU think and feel that matters.
Good Luck Darling.
Find yourself.
xoxo

Answer 10

honey, look around in the shops and other places in this world. the majority of the girls walking around out there look nothing like those pictures, take pride in being whom you are. Don't listen or pay any attention to anyone who tells you you are not beautiful. Every one in this world is beautiful in their own way. those mags and pictures are superficial and those girls are always in the hospital because of their unhealthy weight.....