Need opinions on what to do about neighbors kids???

Question

We just moved into this neighborhood a month ago. Just this past week our daughters made friends with these kids down the street. Thats all fine and dandy, but the one little girl, she just won't go away. She is only 4 years old and her brother is 6 and they just run up and down the street all day long. Both of my daughters weren't feeling well yesterday so I made them stay in. This little girl, I promise was down here at least 20 times asking if they could play. Each time telling her, no, they are sick, you can come back tomorrow. Eventually the mom comes down to see if they can play and I tell the mom the same thing. Well the girl comes down 3 more times. Today they were down here almost all day long, I tell her she needs to go home for about an hour so they can eat, and she is back every 15 minutes to see if they can play. It is really getting on my nerves bad, summer is just starting and I don't want these kids down here everyday. How do I tell the mom they cant be here everyday?

Thank you to all that have replied. As far as not answering the door, I have a 4 year old and she knows it's her "friend" at the door. It is really sad, but I do think that I'm going to have to call CPS. When I do allow the kids to go out and play this little girl is always telling me, "I'm thirsty, I'm hungry" I give her kool-aid sometimes and other times I'm like go home then. I know that there is no way that she is even watching them a bit, because every once in awhile I will see her walk outside and look down here, then walk back in her house. She came down here with them 1 night last week and she was talking to me. She tells me that her neighbor reported her to the office and that the office told her that she needs to watch her kids, and she was mad about it. It's just a crazy situation and I'm trying not to be mean.

Answer 1

Tell her she needs to tell them they can't come over all the time and that they need to listen to you and stay away when you say your kids can't play...thats very wierd that they are outside all day...especially at that age....what are the parents doing letting them run around the street...hell if it really became a problem i would tell the lady that im going to call child services on her for neglecting her kids...that should work

Answer 2

WHEW
sounds like a mess.
There is no nice way to tell the mother without her being pissed.

But this might help:
get the mother's phone number.
When the girl comes again and you dont want company, tell the girl NO they cant play today (or whatever) then call the mother and say, 'hi this is so and so and I just wanted to tell you that your daughter is on the way home, my daughters couldnt play today and with all the child nappers running around, I didnt feel comfortable with her walking home alone if you thought she was here">
It is obvious that the mother is probably telling the little girl to come down to your house at least half of that time....it is unreasonable to think that a 4 year old could leave the house that many times without some direction from the mother.
Your house is probably the only refuge that that little girl has.
SAD, SAD, SAD

Answer 3

I definitely understand what you mean. When I was younger I had friends from school in one neighborhood and they would be at the door every 10 seconds. I could be sick as a dog and no difference. You need to tell the Mom that her kids are not listening to you. You could phrase it in a nice way, like: "I really like that our children are friends and I am happy that they get along so well. The only problem is that when your daughter comes to see if they can play, the answer is sometimes no. I understand that she is just trying to see her friends, but when they cant play and I tell her this, I prefer that she would accept this and not try again repeatedly. You have to understand where I am coming from, as much as I like your kids, knocking on the door every 15 minutes can become aggravating."

Hope this helps!

Answer 4

Without being rude, I believe you should speak to the children
Mother quite frankly. I think to say our children have become constant friends, however: I feel too much time together would be a conflict in their behalf. Could we arrange a playtime once a week for an hour or so and see how that works out. Explain that your children have busy lives and you want to offer playtime but it isn't possible on a day to day basis. I recall the same situation and it is very touchy. But it can be resolved. Good luck.

Answer 5

O.K. If you can handle it set up a specific play date once or twice a week with the mother. It is not up to you to raise her kids along with yours. If you don't set limits with this Mom your are going to be taken advantage of all week.

Now, if you do this and it continues you need to contact child protection in your area. No 4 year old should be walking any street in any neighborhood in this world alone. This mother needs a wake up call.

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Politely tell the mother next time she comes around that things are going to be hectic , as it is approaching summer. Ask if there is a specific day she wants to schedule for a play date for the kids. They will get the hint, and if not it means they are really dense.

Answer 7

I think that you need to really sit down with the mother down the street and explain to her why you don't want her kids banging on your frickin' door all day. If your kids are sick, then the mother should probably keep her kids at home if she doesn't want them or herself to get sick. If you have the mother's number, give her a call.

Answer 8

Don't take this as advise...Just a true story along similar lines. We use to have this kid about six years old down the street and he would ring our doorbell about a dozen times a day and want my kid to go out and play with. My kid was older and did not really want to hang with this pest. This kid would then ask me if I had anything to eat. Drove me crazy and I know what I did was mean but it dam n sure worked. I finally told him to go home and get his mommy and point to my house and ask her if she is sleeping with me...... I never heard from that kid again. That was about ten years ago and I smile every time I think about it. I know, Shame on me.

Answer 9

Pinching and hitting, maybe some hair pulling tends to do the trick. If that does not seem to be a suitable then maybe talking to the childs mother may do the trick, if not my previous advice may be called into play with dealing with the childs mother. Good luck.

Answer 10

How annoying!! I feel for you!!! LOL
Go and tell her mother that you are restricting ur kids to two or three days a week to play outside. Tell her that you want them to do productive things like read and write. Tell her that you don't want them to be interrupted during these times, and that IF they finish, you will send YOUR daughter over to see if she can play!! If that doesn't work, then u will have to be blunt!