Depression and relationships?

Question

I have recently been diagnosed as having depression. I've been with my partner for three years and are scheduled to get married soon. Since my depression started I have been feeling differently towards her. I know she is for me and everyone tells me how lucky I'am. She is fantastic and i cant understand why i feel like this. Is depression the cause?

Answer 1

Yes, it's the depression. Please seek treatment before you marry because the stress of the ceremony and life after the honeymoon will only worsen your condition.

Answer 2

The medinice you are taking for depression takes about three weeks to reach their full benefit. And once there you are a different person because you are coming more in tune with being "normal" and your view on many subjects will change.

If you have not discovered it yet, you will soon, many anti-depression drugs affect the libio, you may need to get the little blue pill or similar product from your physican.

Because you mentioned marriage, here are some facts that you may find useful:

Years of research by psychologist have shown that most long-term marriages have some very common factors. Lack of any two or more of these factors indicates there is high probability the marriage will not last. (Long term –is defined as a marriage of more than 20 years)

1. Both parties married at age 25 or older.
2. Religious compatible (example: Jews + Hindu just do not work)
3. Common goals (someone likes a simple life, not chasing material wealth or career and some that is very goal minded for gaining as much material wealth as possible, together they do not make a lasting marriage. Another example, a conflict over having children).
4. Social economical compatible (poor + rich only works in the movies)
5. Financial responsible (debt is the number one cause of divorce)
6. Open Communications (agree that it is ok not to agree, tell each other your most hidden secrets, keeping the secrets from everyone, no name calling, and etc)
7. Both parties are very much alike (opposite may attract, but they do not make for a lasting marriage)
8. Sexual compatible (variety in sexual act + partner that finds some acts repulsive, does not make a lasting marriage.
9. Both individuals are not egoist. (a egoist believes that everyone would be happy by making them happy)

Answer 3

Depression can make a person feel moody, irretable, sad and even numb. Often times depression is the result of the body's chemistry being out of balance. It's nothing you did or can change without help. I would recommend that you get on some meds (it's doesn't have to be permanent) and go in for some counseling. Postpone making any major life changing decisions until you start to feel better. Ask your partner to be patient with you while you work through it. It's not uncommon to feel the way you do even towards someone you care about. Take care of you, my prayers are with you.

Answer 4

Most likely depression is the cause. My husband went through a very serious depression. When he did he was"not himself" he started an online affair and almost ended our marriage. As soon as he recovered from the depression he couldn't believe what he almost lost. Depression can affect the way you feel about things. It sounds likeyou already know this. Don't throw away a good relationship, get help and include your fiance in your treatment.

Answer 5

well its most likely because of the depression.. but i would first address these feelings either wid a therapist.. you dont want to start your new life with ur fiance feeling that way towards her... its better to deal with this now then after your married.. only because it may cause and lead to many other probs in the future...

feeling differently towards her depends on what is different.. if your feeling like your not in love with her no more.. or ur just confused.. talk to her.. or someone at least.. talkin bout it sometimes.. can make your mind think and resolve and understand y u may feel this way.. good luck

Answer 6

You owe it to yourself and her to be treated for your depression and offer her a mentally healthy person to marry. Till then, let the engagement carry on.

Are you in counseling? Hope so. Who diagnosed this for you. I hope it was someone in the mental field and not a General Practioner.
1. Get professional help now.
2. Self healing takes place when you know the root of your depression and deal with it.
3. Learn to love life: Breathing, eating, living and loving.
4. Make an active mental attitude, "I Choose To Be Happy" everyday.

Yes, in depression, it is normal to resent those who are 'happy' with life. IT IS PART OF THE ILLNESS. You need to realize that nothing has changed with you two, except your attitude has changed and it is up to you to get it back on track. YOU HAVE SOMEONE WHO IS WILLING TO STAND BY YOU, LOVE THEM ENOUGH TO SEEK HELP.

Answer 7

Depression changes how you feel about everything, including the people in your life. There are many things to help manage.

Answer 8

Depression is the symptom, not the cause. Maybe you are confused or feel hopeless about your purpose in life? Depression is the symptom that forces us to find the cure. I found my cure in finding my purpose in life... please read "A purpose driven life" by Rick Warren. This is a fabulous book to help you understand what on earth are we here for?

Answer 9

depression sucks, I HAVE CHRONIC DEPRESSION THE WAY YOU FEEL AND DO THINGS IN YOUR LIFE WILL BE DIFFERENT. i HOPE YOU FIND OUT WHAT YOU ARE DEPRESSED ABOUT BEFORE YO TIE THE KNOT. i HOPE THE BEST FOR YOU TWO NO MATTER WHAT THE OUTCOME

Answer 10

probably