What would you do if you found out your newlywed looked at dirty pictures on the net while you were away/?

Answer 1

You must have missed it on the news, Recent research was disclosed last month on the major networks that a study of men discovered that over 83% of them has some form of porn "stached" either at work or home. So what he is doing appears to be the norm.
It has nothing to do nothing to do with how he feels about you.
As your relationship develops and he feels more comfortable with trusting you, he may tell you some of most hidden sexual fanasties. You can close this line of communication by telling someone else his secret or calling him names.

I wish you well.

Answer 2

Ugh! Been there! Once I was supposed to be in bed asleep, he stayed up, I couldn't sleep and went to see what he was doing and walked in on him looking at a porn clip... It wouldn't have been so bad if I felt secure in our relationship, but we weren't. You just have to talk about it. (you'll learn to share all feelings and discuss any scenario, present or future). The protocol needs to be established. You two talk about what you two will feel comfortable with and set down guidelines. It may feel awkward, but what's worse- fights over dirty pics or a convo about eachothers expectations. I see masturbation and porn semi-normal for men but only to a point. You have to decide what your level of comfort is. Others have a point- it may be something you can do together so you can enjoy the fun and it won't feel so much like a "mistress". Marriage should open up more sexual relaxation, so get to know eachothers wants and needs but don't forget to keep an open mind and don't forget that you don't have to do anything you feel uncomfortable with.

Answer 3

I'd join them when I was there so we could share the experience. No joke. If this is a part of their life then I won't judge it, but I would want to explore it with them. Getting to know each others interests is part of what being a newlywed is about.

Answer 4

OK your newly weds first don't make him promise not to look at them if you do your setting yourself up for some ache if he does it will be a promise that he won't keep guys look at porn or in your words"dirty pictures" its the way we are made we men are visual creatures and that doesn't change just because we get married.i guarantee you that he was looking at them before you got married and the reason he does it while your gone is because he is afraid of how you would react to it and well i don't think he was wrong in is assumption your not reacting to it very well. hes being a human male as long as he is not expecting you to be a porn star don't worry and maybe you ought to watch them with him. me and my wife watched porn on our honeymoon what a blast loosen up and relax and unless he's making unreasonable demands on you or is choosing to watch or look at them over looking at or doing you that you have to worry.until then relax or you can look at it this way and this will probably not sit well with some people who read it but here it it is any way its strictly a insensitive males point of view ,"don't worry about where he gets his appetite as long as he eats at home"

Answer 5

I used to feel hurt and disrespected. I am a newly- wed too.
But then the more I felt bad about that, the more I became indifferent towrds my husband and all the more that it tore us apart.

I just started with just letting him his own thing, whatever he wants. i stopped tracking the history of internet activities in the computer and i stopped checking phone calls made while i was away.

It relieved me of pain and mistrust and doubt. I just make it a point that I lake my hubby realize how much I love him and that i trust him.

Answer 6

I personally would be hurt...because I have a hard time with all of that... i know everyone has their own opinion on it...but this is mine...I think when you have commited yourself to someone it is disrespectful to so something like that...it makes the woman you are with (for some) feel like they aren't good enough, or beautiful enough and that you have to look at other women....if it bothers you, its definately ok to sit down with them and talk about it....

Answer 7

I really don't think it should be a big deal. If you want to know the truth, I've looked at porn when my husband wasn't home. All the people who say it is wrong for married people to look at porn have obviously not progressed to the 21st century. I mean...he's obviously not going to have sex with them, so you have nothing to worry about.

Answer 8

it depends...if he was looking at porn...it is normal, as long as it is not overdone....but if he was looking just at pictures of naked women, then there is a problem..he is totally disrespecting you in that way....
talk to him...it is up to you....
it can be hurtful like everyone said, but if you don't mind it....
do the same with him...see how he reacts....look for some pic of naked men, and let him find out..I bet he wouldnt like it...

Answer 9

sounds like you married to soon and you really didn't know the man you married. It is NOT OK for a married man to dishonor his wife! Make sure to track the activity for at least 6 months before confrontation or making him aware of you knowing. He may have had a momentary laps, or he could have a more defined problem of sex addiction. Or he could just be a disrespectful *** that is divorce material. Check you annulment expiration, you may need to utilize it

Answer 10

I would be pissed off , and check all the sites he was surfing on , if it was only once it could be worked out but if it was alot of time's you need to have a serious talk with him and tell him that if he doesnt stop then he needs to go.... why would he need to look at other women when he has you....?