I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago. I loved him a lot but he betrayed me, cheated on me and lied the whole time we were together. Pretty nice eh?
This morning, I got a SMS asking how I was doing and that he thought of me.
My girlfriends tell me NOT to reply. I'm tempted to reply, to show him that I'm doing great and show him what he missed.
What should I do? Reply saying that I'm doing great? telling him that I missed him or just leave it?
Thank you!!
2007-05-31 16:29:52 · 18 answers · asked by Lilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is trying to get back, he will not give up. No. Do not reply.
If he is sincere he will find a way to see you, in person and discuss any issues that may be in the way of your friendship..
Otherwise, do not allow him to play with your emotions or to hold you hostage to a relationship that is over. If you really are doing great and no longer have any feelings for him, you could reply with a short answer, but do not make it easy for him to reenter your life. Once a cheater, he must prove to you that he is really a CHANGED person, which never happens over night. No. Do not tell him you missed him
because all you missed was his cheating behavior and that was a positive thing.
2007-05-31 16:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok I'm gonna b the first to tell u i think errone normally tends to call this cut and dry and as many have stated NO, don't answer him. I, on the other hand believe there is allot we don't know here...ie how long did u 2 go out? was the relationship understood by both that u were exclusive? was the love and the breakup mutual? many things to consider here but first and foremost is YOUR FEELINGS 4 him. do u still love him? if so ask urself why?
and important also is do u believe that people can change? if ur the kind who says a zebra doesn't change his stripes then don't go down that road regardless of ur feelings, cause u may end up hurting worse. but if u believe people who want to for love can change...then u may want to consider if u wanna give it a go again.
lastly there is nuthing that says u cant b friends or say hi once ina while...unless ur heart skips with every contact from him (which clearly means ur still in love)
far as the BS of lieing about bein happy ...another man...etc... ditch that idea cause that lowers u to the level his was when u were together....A LIER!
b honest and true to urself and don't let ur friends/family run ur life. its ur life...live it as YOU want.
good luck~~
2007-06-01 00:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by lanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it sad that you are asking this question. He does not deserve to ever see you or hear from you again. Do not play head games - I have to ask this question.... How can you say you love him a lot even after he betrayed you and lied to you the whole relationship?... You do not love him - you love the perfect man (boy) you made him out to be. You will probably still respond to him as you have naive blinders on - best of luck to you
2007-05-31 23:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to do what you feel is right for you~ I wouldn't be anxiously replying back , but you could eventually a while later answer him back and let him know you're doing Great* - I wouldn't be hooking up with him to meet for coffee/movie or dinner .....He did you wrong..knew the consenquences...too bad soo sad sorry bout his luck..time that you moved on* Doesn't mean you cant ever talk to him again but i wouldn't be giving him any of your quality time..continue on without him*~ Best Wishes*
2007-05-31 23:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont reply to him and if u guyz even see each other again dont give him a chance to get back tya even if he cried and do some romantic thing cuz honestly that kind of guy will never learn no matter what hes jst using you for booty call and i know u deserve better than him cuz if u dont hes jst gonna cheat and lie tya over and over again.
2007-05-31 23:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by DarkSinX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriends gave you good advice on this one. When he had a chance to show you respect, he didn't. Being ignored by you is a natural consequence for his actions. If you get in touch, he will learn nothing.
If you don't reply, the ball is in your court and stays in your court where it belongs. You are not the one who skanked around and lied to him.
Don't let his history repeat itself.
2007-05-31 23:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by reeksofhoney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it will be hard for you to leave it up in the air, but if you respond to him he will think he can get back with you. Obviously only you can decide what to do, but really think about if you want him to think that he can get back together with you.
I completely understand wanting to shove you doing well in his face...lol...been there, but I have a little black envelope I write nasty letters in and then put them away so I feel like I have had some type of closure on the situation.
good luck with whatever you decide!
2007-05-31 23:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by snowy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat him as he did you when he cheated on you with someone else.Treat him like he treated you when he lied to you Like he does not exsist Move on with life like you have been doing and don t look back Think about it do you look for old garbage no
2007-05-31 23:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by chameleon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's looking for a open door. Don't open the door unless you want him to comeback in. I would just leave it. don't reply his messages. That's the best thing to do. The best thing is don't tell him anything.
2007-05-31 23:38:59 · answer #9 · answered by Mackie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly would you accomplish by replying? Once you figure that out, you will be able to determine if you really want to go down that path or not.
2007-05-31 23:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by nbsunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋