I don't understand how he can bold face lie about stuff and when he gets caught, he acts like I should just forget it and move on... It stays with me. I don't know what to do. Sometimes I don't even know why he stays with me if he feels like he has to lie about porn, where he is, etc... Why does he stay with me?
2007-05-31 16:00:03 · 25 answers · asked by sugar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The real question is why do you stay with him? Leave him or go get some help. He doesn't respect your marriage. If you don't have trust in a marriage, you don't have anything. If you stick with him, he is going to keep lying. He has proved that over and over again.
2007-05-31 16:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ash Kat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question should be: Why do you stay with him and put up with it. He stays because you let him, he gets over on you because you put up with it. He is cheating on you and you should be livid and should not put up with it a minute longer. He doesn't respect you, you have to do that and don't put up with it. Find the door or show him where it is. Today. There are some pretty nasty and deadly diseases out there.
If you want more info go on line to "adultery" there's a lot of info there. You have the right as his wife to ask him where he is at all times, who he is talking to and what he is doing. Porn is really bad, it increases lust and leads to infidelity. He should only be looking at you and being intoxicated by you only.
People lie because they know what they are doing is wrong and they want to hide it.
2007-05-31 16:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're white lies, then I suppose he just wants to avoid being questioned. But i don't understand why he would lie about where he is, unless he's going to get you a surprise birthday cake? And you can't really answer the question, "how do i trust him?" I mean, it's either you do or you don't. and in your case, i don't blame you if you don't. You deserve way better than that. Remember, he's lost YOUR trust, he's the one that should be worried, not you. Push comes to shove, if he really isn't being honest with you, the question shouldn't be "why does he stay with me?" but rather, why are you still with him?
2007-05-31 16:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He keeps lying because you keep forgiving him.
He stays with you because the words were: "till death do us part", just as your words were: "for better or worse".
If you asked him to give up porn, then it's your fault he lied. Probably true about most of what he has lied to you about...it's your fault. You seem to be asking him to not be himself. He is what you married, and you want him to change. Men don't change and you are foolish to have married him thinking he would.
Either accept him the way he is or find a new husband. Anything else will just cause you heartache.
Any other questions?
2007-05-31 16:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and move on. There is no point of punishing yourself for something he has done to you. Life and the world is full of better people that will respect you and treat you how you and them deserve to be treated. We are only human and we are only on this earth once in a life time. Have fun and be happy but remembering that everyone is here for a reason and what you do with it is up to you. Is it not?
2007-05-31 16:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by katsangel66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why your husband continues to lie to you but if things don't change it will only continue. I am speaking from experience.
Maybe try counseling if you want to stay in the marriage.
Have you tried talking to him????
If these things don't work then I would walk. Because it will only continue and the anger in you will continue to grow as well.
2007-05-31 16:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Chipmunk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He stays with you because he probably loves you. All men fantacize and most cheat. If you can except it ,great , if not you probably won't be together long. Sex is powerful and i have seen men do really stupid things to get it. Maybe you should ask him what it is he would like for you to do in bed and see if that helps the relationship. If he blows you off it might be the secrets that really excite him
2007-05-31 16:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by tnt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lies and deceives you because you continue to let him get away with it. He probably thinks you or he can't do any better so he doesn't make an effort to change. The real question is why do you continue to put up with his lies. If he's lying about this then what else may he lying about that you really don't know about. Be careful........and good luck.
2007-05-31 16:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He thinks lying is OK because you do not put your foot down about it. You need to do something about it now or he will never change. You need to tell him how you feel . It is hard to trust a man who has lied to you so many times. Whats to say he has not cheated on you and lied about it. Once a partner lies to you it is very hard to regain their trust. And you may never trust him.
2007-05-31 16:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by colorcreative3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 words "child support" and "Alimony",
you are there for what he needs.
Now the answer, you need to get the communication going, even if it takes professional help. its not going to get better without it.
And anyone else reading this, Communication will solve 98% of all problems in a relationship (it would also put me out of a job) Start talking people !
2007-05-31 17:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋