He's 2 years older than her and know for a fact he has hit her on the cheek because she had a huge bruise on her face and instead tod everyone it was a sports injury. There's rumors that if she leaves him, he will hurt her! I've never met him and I don;t knwo why but even though I'm one of her close friends she doesn't tell me anything! I've been hearing all abotu thsi from someone she hardly knows on her sports team, and shes also has told her cousins and theyve told me also! I knwo I shoudl tell someone but should I wait until I have solid proof?
2007-05-31 14:13:59 · 17 answers · asked by Juls 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well if that was my friend,I make her feel comfortable and then slowly follow thru with "How are you doing"? Because sometimes when a person is getting abused the abuser is saying things to her or him.To make them believe no one is going to help them or even worse.So,yeah I think you should tell someone who will listen and help get her out of that situation.But,before you tell anyone,you need to be able to back your story up.Or things will back fire.Be cautious and please get your friend help and for safety sake have her open up to someone she trusts. Which is you!
2007-05-31 14:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell someone but I doubt it will do her any good. Unfortunately when a woman is in an abusive relationship it's because somehow or other it is comfortable to her. She probably feels responsible for what he is doing to her and she also probably feels like this is the first time she's ever really been loved by anyone. Sounds crazy doesn't it? Well the dynamics of these relationships are exactly that and about the only thing you can really do to help her is to be her friend and be there for her when she feels like coming to you.
And don't feel badly that she hasn't come to you yet. 1- she's probably embarassed and ashamed 2- she's probably afraid of being judged by you.
2007-05-31 21:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be told that no matter what, she should never put up with being hit, or abused in any way, including psychologically.
Get her to report him to the police and get a protection order against him, she needs to have something on record with the police. It is especially important if she has more bruises, she will need to be able to provide proof to the police of the abuse. Then she needs to do what ever she needs to do to protect herself.
Most importantly she needs to leave him immediately.
2007-05-31 23:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by meg3f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't go to the cops bc your not the one getting abused. she is.. she has to report it. All you can do is sit down and talk to her about it. Tell her that your scared that he is really going to hurt her one day. Actually b4 you talk to her look up abuse stories on the internet & print them off & bring them when you talk to her. Let her read them so she can see how much worse things will get if she doesn't get out of the relationship now & report him to the cops. Be sure to let her know u love her & ur always gonna be there for her & that she'll always have a place to stay with you if she needs it. Good luck!
2007-05-31 21:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that to do in this situation, but the best bet would be to try to get a chance to sit down and talk to your friend for a while, and devide a course of action together. If she days that she doesn't want to talk to you just try to be friendly and let her know that if she changes her mind, you'll always be there to help.
2007-05-31 21:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by Caleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her about it, but if she refuses to listen to you, then you should DEFINITELY tell someone (like her parents) that you suspect that she's in an abusive relationship. It would be useless to wait for "proof," because you might never actually get any.
2007-05-31 21:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by Fanatic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you need to tell someone now. i think the best thing to do would be to tell her parents and let them know whats going on, or just go straight to the police. the police will need solid evidence, but the parents will actulally do something
2007-05-31 21:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to really find out from her what is going on. I dont want to say..force her to tell you but in this situation it sounds like you really need to find out in order to help her. You need to tell an elder about this..maybe a councelor or if it really gets out of hand then you need to tell her to please go to the police and make a report on him so he gets arrested and she can get a restraint order on him. My friend went to the same situation with her boyfriend..she is no longer with him..he got arrested..bailed himself out..looked for her..she filed a restraint order and he finally left her alone.
2007-05-31 21:20:36 · answer #8 · answered by mimi66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take that person also yourself to this girls parents tell them whats going on...she may hate you for doing this but she will appreciate it in the long run....if this bastard is as crazy as you make him out to be no telling what he would do to her he may hit her too hard one day and really hurt her and freak out and kill her......get the cops involved
he gets mad she get mad so what you are saving a friend's life
2007-05-31 21:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, confront her now! You want her to continue to be abused. If she still doesnt say anything, talk to her parents or someone close to her.
2007-05-31 21:18:59 · answer #10 · answered by I still Like kids 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋