My friend got really PO'd at me because I quit the job that she helped me get. She works there and she thinks that I gave her a bad rep. She called me two days ago and pretty much let me have it... I felt really bad so yesterday I made an apology card, walked to her house and put it in her mailbox. Was this a good step to take? So far I haven't gotten a response from her.... Please help.
2007-05-31 13:56:27 · 21 answers · asked by Chris H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It was a great step to take. What she does with it is out of your hands. I personally don't believe you needed to apologize but often when we know someone is upset by something we do and don't agree with, we tend to take ownership of "their" issues ... and this is okay within reason. It shows you still care and respect the friendship. But sometimes, the recipient of the apology never quite gets it and things can get a little weird. I hope she is wise enough to cool down and discuss the situation with you face to face, hear what you have to say and understand that maybe her reaction to your quitting was more than it needed to be. A true friend is willing to understand more than an acquaintance. Let's see what happens.
2007-05-31 14:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by OP 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know you know this as well as all of us, but I often have to remind myself that you can't control other people; all you can do is make an effort and hope that they respond in kind.
It sounds like you are admitting that you may have made a mistake. Just because someone gets you a job doesn't mean you are obligated to indentured servitude or anything but you do owe your employer at least an adequate notice, something that you probably should have discussed with your friend first just to avoid having her find out after the fact. I've quit jobs that were the result of knowing someone in the company and I usually deal with it by talking to the friend that got me that job; that way whether they support your decision or not; at least they won't be surprised to learn that you are leaving the company.
It sounds to me like you're doing the right thing; but like I said you have no control over the other person; do what you can and hope for the best; if she/he's a good friend they'll come around sooner or later.
2007-05-31 21:04:52 · answer #2 · answered by al0ne_in_a_cr0wd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on why you quit the job as to how mad I would be. Did you atleast give a notice or did you just walk out? As long as you left on good terms with the employer then I wouldn't worry about it too much. Either way, you have made an effort to apologize properly. Ask your friend what you can do to help make it right.
2007-05-31 21:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by J C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only really helpful thing you could have done was quit appropriately, by giving a good about of notice so the company could find a replacement and train them. Just quitting wouldn't give her a bad rep, but the way you quit and the kind of employee you were while there might. If you did do something wrong, just give her time to see that your boss and supervisors will not hold it against her.
2007-05-31 21:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the only thing you could do, it's up to her now to decide if she will accept your appology.
However, if you had a good reason to quit you didn't need to appologize and if she is indeed your friend she should understand that.
I'm thinking maybe she either feels that you didn't give the job a chance or that her work offers an incentive bonus for bringing in new employees if they last a specific time.
At my work they have to last 6 months to get the bonus, if that's the case she may be upset because she didn't get the bonus.
2007-05-31 21:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why you quit.
If you quit because you didn't like the job, then that would be insulting her and the company, because it shows that you dislike the company and may not appreciate her efforts.
If you quit for a different reason, explain to her why.
Think about how you would feel if you were her, then decide if you would want an apology.
If so, be persistant and keep apologizing.
; )
2007-05-31 21:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot depends on how you quit (just didn't show up, gave notice, whatever).
The reality is that some jobs just don't fit people and it's unfortunate it didn't fit you. Don't expect her to help you again, but I think the apology card was a good way to at least salvage the friendship.
2007-05-31 21:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by TotalRecipeHound 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your weren't happy at that job, too bad you had to quit, yeah I would be mad if I worked really hard to get u that job but not pist off and yes you did the right thing by giving her that card, give her time to cool off.
She most really gotten in trouble or something or maybe her boss wont trust her anymore, but just give her time is not like you didn't on purpose.
2007-05-31 21:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by TXgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think giving her the card is good enough. Nice that she helped you get the job, but it is still your choice to work there or not. You have made your amends with the card. That is what is important, doesn't matter if she forgives you or not. If she doesn't she will be the one who has a resentment and she will make herself really unhappy holding on to it. If that is what she chooses to do that isn't your fault.
2007-05-31 21:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is OK to quit a job you do not like even tho someone helped you get it. This is her problem not yours. It was gracious of you to give an apology card. That is all you need to do. You showed that you have class. Don't change.
2007-05-31 21:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by judy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋