Any advice for a young wife preparing for a divorce?

Answer 1

I actually just got divorced, it was finalized 3 weeks ago. My ex and I filed for divorce by default because we neither of us could afford an attorney, which worked out well for us because we still get along. We had to agree on everything that would be in the divorce decree. Now if you can't afford an attorney and you don't get along with your soon to be ex- enough to do what my ex and I did ( because it does take quite a bit of communication for the both of you to file default) then mediation is a cheaper and just as effective, you both will still have to agree on everything, but meditators can explain you rights to you and if they feel that either of you isn't getting a fair deal, they will let you know. I would definately try to go the two ways that I have just given you...attorneys will just try and milk the process out, and convince you to screw each other over. Although depending on what you can afford, you will probably get more out of the divorce with an attorney. It really just depends on what you want the end result to be. If you want it be quick and less painful ( a divorce is hard, no matter how you approach it) it would be easier if you both could figure out what would be best for you and your family ( if you have kids) together...it doesn't have to be about hurting one another. I'm not sure who wants the divorce, but if your husband is the one who wants this be prepared for a rollercoaster of emotions. Statistically divorce is the second worst thing that a person can through in life, first is losing a loved one, the stages in fact are described as exactly the same. They do offer classes and support groups for people going through a divorce, if you have the time, I would utilize them...they can be very helpful. A good place to start as far as finding programs would be a visit to your local courthouse, or if your county court has a website they would offer all kinds of information including how to find a good divorce attorney if that's what you decide.
I don't know your situation, but if you could try and reconcile and maybe do counseling, I would advise that first and foremost...divorce is draining mentally, emotionally, and financially, it is a life altering decision like marriage, and not any easier, it's alot of work too. Whatever you and your spouse decide to do...I wish you both the best, it is a difficult process, and something that I wouldn't wish for anyone to have to go through.

Answer 2

Get a lawyer!!! Don't try to do the divorce paperwork alone, you will need some legal guidance. Otherwise you may end up with all the joint bills from the marriage if you don't actively protect yourself and your financial status.

If you are unsure of how finances will be split, ALWAYS have these details in the divorce paperwork, don't leave any of it to chance. Even for small things, like a credit card with a low balance, make sure that you detail who is responsible to pay off the balance. The follow up and make sure it is done and your name if off the account.

If you have vehicles and/or housing in both names, try to refinance so that a single person is responsible for the debt.

Don't trust your partner's "word" to take care of things. Your partner may be amicable now, but the financial support may be lost once he is out of the relationship with you and in a relationship with someone else.

Also...just some personal advice, make sure you have access to your joint bank account during this trying time. I suggest withdrawing what you feel entitled to now, the sooner the better!

Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

Well from a male perspective try to break up as best as possible especially if kids are involved. Do not use the kids as an excuse to get back at the person. Try to get a hobby to get your mind busy, do not go on the rebound. Make friends enjoy life.

Answer 4

he isn't interested and informed you so. transfer on. and except you do not desire a few divorced dude with all his luggage. you can have got to post along with his youngsters. you can have got to manage his x calling and displaying up 'reason of the youngsters. and you can turn out to be helping the 2 of you 'reason the majority of his paycheck will move to his x in little one help. discover a in no way married dude that may supply himself to you entirely.

Answer 5

Get a lawyer first and foremost.

Try and stay civil, it makes things much easier.

Make sure you don't screw yourself over to hurry the process along, get whatever you deserve in the split. Thinking it'll be easier to not fight over things works sometimes, but also you can leave yourself stranded.

Answer 6

Surround yourself with friends and family for support. Get a lawyer and make plans for where you are going to live/money/care etc.

Answer 7

Nicole,

Take every thing you can't bare to part with (pictures, family stuff) to a safe place, open a new ban account, get a lawyer.

Be Safe.

Answer 8

Dont leave any of your possesions when u leave because the courts dont care about them if u do u can kiss them good bye.

Answer 9

Devise your plan to be self supporting, and stick with it.
That will create enough busy for you to not be concerned about all the other stuff.

Answer 10

Have you and your husband done EVERYTHING possible to save your marriage.EVERYTHING possible needs to be done first to save your marriage.If everything possible has been done then see a lawyer.If EVERYTHING POSSIBLE has not been done you need to seek counseling with your minister or marriage counselor.