Well...my fiance loves video games, as do I. But he's always not wanting to go places or leaving places early because he wants to come home and play his video games. I feel like I'm taking second place to these damn games. And it doesn't help that my roommate keeps having video gameing friends come over and that's all they do! From 6pm until 11pm or later they play video games. What am I supposed to do? He doesn't seem to realize that he's hurting me either...how do I let him know? I'm so confused right now...
2007-05-31 12:28:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Playing video games can evolve into an addiction. Actually it IS already a recognized addiction. Your Fiance seems to qualify as a victim. Talk to him and try to get him into treatment. If he doesn't respond well, treat him as any other addict -don't get sucked in together with him!
2007-05-31 12:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by docspec 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen sweetie - you need to nip this in the bud. He's become OBSESSED with the games and probably thinks it's no big deal. If he's your fiance, then I'm assuming you have a good r'ship and he'd want you to talk to him about these feelings. TALK TO HIM - tell him that you feel like he's putting those video games 1st and you 2nd. That's not right at all. You should feel so loved by him - you should feel like he would always put your needs above his own. If he's not doing that, then perhaps you need to re-evaluate your r'ship. Now, it's video games....in a few years, it might be his job. You need to establish now whether or not he's willing to put you FIRST.
The thing is - he probably doesn't realize what a problem he has. Have him do an experiment. Ask him to go ONE WEEK without playing ANY video games and make it a challenge. Bet something - like money or dinner. WHEN he can't make it (and I'm guessing he won't be able to), maybe it'll show him what a big addiction he has to the video games.
2007-05-31 12:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boys, they never grow up lol.. My partner is the same he is busy with uni 24/7 but when we can actually be together it feels like he wants to get lost in his video games and I feel a little hurt.. But It’s a way they can escape and have nothing on there mind except there fantasy games.. He could be stressed about the wedding.. But when he is playing it snuggle up to him and tell him how you are feeling say you feel like you are coming second and he will turn his game off after a while if he knows you are upset, I have told my partner how I feel and he trys to play it before I get home or if he plays it its only for an hour or so and he has it out of his system.. He is really hooked on a game at the moment.. Maybe you could hire out a game you would both enjoy together on weekend he would really like that.. Hes just a guy.. There all big kids…
2007-05-31 12:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by hello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The altitude truly does influence human beings whilst they are up on their extreme horse, eh? My guy loves the PS3 so i attempt to make valuable that he in straight forward terms performs after dinner - i do no longer likely care if he performs whilst i attempt to get Isabella to sleep, that's my typical job besides. i bought little huge planet so we are in a position to play mutually - i'm unwell of it now so he performs his conflict video games and that i watch and tell him what a large participant he's. it may somewhat be exciting to visual reveal unit - and you're doing something mutually and only ask him to describe what this implies, and clarify what which skill. he will experience like he knows each and every thing for a whilst. Is that undesirable? It particularly exciting although. OH call of duty.. yeah it is the single lol
2016-10-09 05:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the fact the if you're stoners then theres nothing you can do.. If not thenI'd tell him that he better figure out what most important.. If you dont like him playing so much then...why not make him like a really great meal.. something really liquified like soup... and make alot for everyone.. and accidentally drop it on his game while bringing it out. If he gets extremely irrate then you know that the game means more to him then you do.. Or how about this.. go and buy a second console for you and you both play together online or something...
2007-05-31 12:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Robby R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby does the same gosh darn thing except with us I don't even care anymore that he is ignoring me, but it really hurts my feeling that he ignores our daughter to play video games. I'm glad that he enjoy's them, but he needs to realize that he is missing a ton of things that he is never going to get back.
I would say talk to him about it and let him know that it really bothers you. If he respects you at all he will try to change as long as you understand that he is still going to want to play his games even when you may not want him to play.
Video games just seem to be a part of guys sometimes. I don't play them myself so i guess that I don't understand.
2007-05-31 12:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by zoe1594 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put all his video games in a box or bag or drawer, wherever they are usually kept. Then put a note on top saying "Your girlfriend misses you." If you want, also include a picture of yourself in a sexy outfit or pose, to give him the hint that there are better things he could be doing with his hands. ;)
If he asks you about the note, you've opened up a great opportunity to talk to him about the situation. Stay positive, but let him know how and why it bothers you. Remind him that you love the games... but you love him more, and he needs to reserve time to focus on you. Agree on compromises - like Friday nights he can game all he wants, but Saturday nights he has to dedicate to you or social activities.
2007-05-31 12:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him aside and let him know this is something you are taking personally. Let him know that you are hurt. Unfortunately guys aren't mind readers. Once you approach him with your feelings see how things go. If he still chooses video games over you maybe it's time to choose an attentive guy over him
Good luck in this tough situation
2007-05-31 12:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by rahtenrobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys just like to play video games, that's what they do. Sometimes I have the same problem with my bf. Guys dont like going out and shopping or doing something fun like we do. They rather sleep, have sex, and play video games at their house. It comes natural to them. Just tell him that you want to go out and have fun instead of just being stuck in the house watching him play games. Talk to him in a calm way. Dont yell unless you have to.
2007-05-31 12:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness been there done that!!!
Well what I did
I started getting all dressed up put a bit of lippy on and taking off to my friends house even for a coffee and dont tell him what you are getting up to and leaving him out of all the actions you are doing. I was doing this and he started feeling left out and then started bending over backwards to be with me!!
My suggestion is TURN IT AROUND!!!
good luck!!
Boys and toys eh dam!!
2007-05-31 12:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋