I really don't feel like my husband appreciates me like he did when we first got married and I just don't feel attracted to him any more.
2007-05-31 12:10:03 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should talk to your husband. Even try couple counseling. If you want to leave the marriage, then leave! Don't use another man as a reason.
2007-05-31 12:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact remains, you're "married." And you made a vow/promise to your husband. This isn't a job where you can leave if your boss doesn't appreciate you, it's more like paying $60,000 a year to go to college - you've invested time and money (and a relationship) only to quit? Instead of dropping out, try talking to a counselor/mediator. Life's tough, I understand, but people seriously get divorced for horrible things such as abuse. Consider yourself lucky, stop with this sleazebag who's showing interest, and work on the person you've dedicated your life to. How would you feel if the tables were turned and your husband was bored of you and was considering purusuing another woman without finding a way to fix things with you instead? Wouldn't you be hurt? Perhaps I have this all wrong and you two work that way, but I'm of the belief that a marriage is more than just a ring around a finger, it's a promise to maintain a relationship and helping each other become the best people they can be. Please consider this, he deserves to at least hear what your concerns are. Good luck!
2007-05-31 12:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason you aren't attracted to him anymore, is you're recieving negative energy from him...Like him not showing you appreciation. DO NOT step out on your husband.
You guys are lacking communication....Start talking about things. Tell him you feel like he doesn't appreciate you. Do NOT let infidelity get the best of you two. Let him know that you need to hear "Honey, the house looks great today" or " This meal is great", or "You look beautiful today"...My husband is naturally complimentory, so I don't have this problem.
Start chatting with him about things that are bothering you, but don't come off as the nagging or whining wife. Let him know it hurts your feelings & let that guy at work know you are married & tell him to go elsewhere...Don't fall for that crap...You are better than that & you married your husband for a reason...Find out what that reason is & keep that in your mind. Don't fall for satan's work. Keep your marriage pure.
Good luck to you & God bless.
We will keep your marriage in our prayers....
2007-05-31 12:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by lilzoo411@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from personal experience.....ive been with my boyfreind for 7 years(were not legally married) but we live together and have a babygirl. I also had a guy at work that i have worked with for a while, start showing interest in me, and what did i do? I went to lunch with him, I gave him my number, we talk, he tells me all these great things that i dont get at home etc.... but i feel just like you.....my husband is always working, not providing, no attention, no sex, all those things will lead to something!!!! my opinion is to take it a day at a time and hey if you end up likeing the guy at work and one thing leads to another, than hey!!!! it was meant to happen!!!! im a strict believer on things happen for a reason,,,,so take it a a day at a time and see what happens maybe you end up seeing that this guy from work isnt what you had expected or maybe his what youve always wanted. BUT do it only if your really unhappy and sure b/c if not it will lead to regret
2007-06-01 01:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by BACONBITZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are looking for an excuse to cheat and somethng to blame it on when or if you get caught. Marriage is for better or for worse and when it gets worse, communication is the key. Talk talk talk and talk some more to figure out each other problems and issues. Tell your husband what you are lacking. Trust me, been cheated on and it hurts like hell. How would you feel if your husband was on here and asking a question like this? Treat others the way you would want to be treated, especially your husband.
2007-05-31 12:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't happy in your marriage it would be a good idea to get professional help. Maybe talk to your husband and explain how you feel. Tell him how he use to make you feel and that he doesn't do the same things anymore. Give him a chance to make things better. Don't give in to temptation. If you love your husband even a little bit give him the respect he deserves and a chance to make you happy again. Otherwise, is a one night stand worth throwing your life away?
2007-05-31 12:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Double standard!
If this question was a guy talking about a chick at work I doubt that these answers would be there! Especially after the reading the other question posted about the woman who doesnt want to have frequent sex with her spouse. Most said to give it or he will cheat. How nice.
So if she cheats she is an adulterous whore but if the guy cheats its because the woman is not giving it up. NICE
Do what you want, but just be able to live with the consequences. Marriage is not one of convenience, it is work. Don't give up on it so quickly unless you really want to.
2007-05-31 12:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by senubenu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO don't pursue it, it will only cause PROBLEMS in your life , so many people give up on their marriage(s) now a days & don't take the time to
find out the problems in the marriage , you
take vows so unless you are abused KEEP THEM, go to a marriage councelor & get help, forget the guy @ the office, your married & if he tries to date you what makes you think he does not try to date other married ladies ? !
2007-06-02 03:48:34 · answer #8 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does not give you an excuse to cheat on your husband. You only like the attention that you are getting from your co worker. If you don't want to be with your husband anymore, then split. But don't have an affair just because you are seeking for attention. You are only bring trouble into your life.
2007-05-31 12:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by 0000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Work on your marriage first! Yes it is nice to be noticed by someone who is not your husband, even if your husband does appreciate you it is still nice BUT, you took a vow, you are married!
2007-05-31 12:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by bestadviceever 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋