I have waited for my guy faithfully for two years whilst in prison, I have written to him everyday, visited in various prisons around the country every week. Our relationship has grown but always had problems, i.e. will he change and stop doing things he was doing and the ' is there another woman visiting you arguments etc' but we've seen it through and we decided to get engaged. we were engaged for 1 month and after hearing he was going to use money from his sister when he got out we got into a discussion where I stated if we were to marry I would not want to live out of someone elses pocket. He opposed this and also told me if I made him choose between his family and me I would loose, ended up where he stormed off out the visiting room shouting I'll stick with my family, you stick with yours. I decided to break off the engagement and did not visit the following week, told him it was over. He has rang and asked me to visit this week but I didn't. Am I right or am I wrong?????
2007-05-31 11:19:45 · 21 answers · asked by mymanomer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Overlooking his personal circumstance... I would say he wants his cake and to eat it too! He's in a great place where despite him being in prison, you've rallied around him and so his family have too if they are giving him money. You sound like a caring person and it seems you think you don't deserve someone better than someone who's been locked up. You do! Get out!
2007-05-31 11:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by noodle_pip 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're right. I believe everyone deserves a second chance. However, this guy is in prison and treating you (his loved one) like you don't matter. Arguing with you,etc. The conversation you describe does not sound like you were telling him, his family or you. It sounds more like you wanted him to be responsible and independent. I don't know how you met or anything. However, it's usually a good sign to stay away when they are in prison/jail. He needs to get his priorities/life straight. Some people actually do change. However, it's rare. Especially if they know they can "get away with it". I'd go on with my life. If he knows where you live. You may want to move.
2007-05-31 11:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ann S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems to me that you have wasted two years of your life waiting for him. I can understand yo unot wanting to live off of someone else. My ex was the same way. I hated it when he did stuff like that behind my back. You should run like the wind away from him because it sounds like he won't change.
You deserve better and once he is completely out of your life then you can find someone better. Someone you can put your whole heart into a relationship with and build something together that can last a life time.
2007-05-31 11:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know yourself that a guy will cling to you when he is in prison and given that is sentence is nearing its end then you want to ask why his he being so arsey all of a sudden. Do you think in your heart that this guy is worth the heartache? Dont let him call the shots with you. Why his he in prison and how long were you together before he got his sentence. let us no on additional details then you may get better responses than mine if people have more information. God luck
2007-05-31 11:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you were dropped on your head as a baby or you have a severe issue with self-esteem, NO ONE in their right minds would be waiting to have a relationship with a jailed criminal...!
Please think this over before you REALLY ruin your life! You have already lost a couple of years of your life, so don't continue down this path! Ask God to help you out and to cut all strings you have with this guy. He is not a good person and I hope you have the guts to get your act together and FREE yourself from him....Good luck!!!
2007-05-31 11:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am having a hard time following your story. It sounds like your saying he wants to live off of his sister. Which means hes a loser... i guess i could have figured that out when you said he was in prison... Get as far away from this guy as you can he will never change!!!!
2007-05-31 11:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
if this guy thinks more of his family than he does of you then the relationship is a no goer. there are millions of good guys out there, why waste time and energy on a complete waste of space who his happy to live off other peoples hard earned cash!!
2007-05-31 13:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to let you know when he is ready to form a new family with you. At least a unit with you. You would be better off letting him go.
2007-05-31 11:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are sooo right. you need to be in a healthy relationship and it seems that this guy has no motivation to want the both of you to work financially without the help of others. you need to move on...good job.
2007-05-31 11:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Carmen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him and move on with your life. You are not his number one priority. And why are you dating someone in jail? Not the best place to find a good man, try church next time.
2007-05-31 11:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋