Is my husband still cheating ?

Question

My husband cheated on my with one of his friends he has known for about 9 years (we have been married 7 1/2 years) 3 weeks ago. He told me the day after it happened but i always had a thought in the back of my mind he was always cheating i just couldn't prove it. Anyways he told me that he did sleep with her 1 time that was the only time But i have a feeling hes still messing around with her they work together so he talks to her every day He saids its only business I have been keeping track of his phone records but it only shows is outgoing calls the incoming just say his name before he was all definitive if i asked him if he talked to her because i didnt want him to because she & i had had a fallen out so i didnt want him talking to her ether out of respect for me he didnt do it he basically chose her over me, anyways hes acting the same as he did before he told me am i baing crazy & just seeing things or do i need to spy on him or just leave him i just dont want to through away 8 yea

I asked my husband to talk to his boss about Tami, the girl he was with, being fired .... & he did it & he wants to have his phone # changed also is that a good sight?

Answer 1

Wow.....that was one heck of a run-on sentence........oh, yeah....forget to answer......YES he is....

Answer 2

This is probably going to be one of the hardest things that you are going to have to do but listen to me.. The moment that he cheated on you he threw away all the respect he had for you. A person would not hurt another in that manner unless if the he didnt respect. obviously he didnt take your feelings into consideration. You need to leave him cheating is not one time thing no matter what. That will always be on your mind and that hurt will not go away. Every time you lay in his arms you are going to be thinking how could he of done that to you.
The way that I take on my relationships now is
I always tell them look at this as temporary never look for forever.. Forever is longer than any of us can imagine take one day at a time an you have one chance.. No matter the situation the feelings or the trust that was built if it was broken once there is no repairing it.. just ignoring it.. You can put me on your contact list I will be happy to talk to you when ever you need it but just ALWAYS Remember who you are and what you stand for, And what you deserve!!

Answer 3

Unhealthy is what this is...... For you and for your kids if you have any together!!!! He should be happy that you did not leave him before.... He needs to hear from you and make sure that he knows that you are serious!!! Ask him if the rollswere changed and if you had cheated on him with a coworker how would he like it.. Maybe he is just trying to make sure that you are the one that ends the relationship.... I would first spy on him (Dondt spend the money on a PI) and if you confirm it, then you just need to confront him with it!! People need to understand that life is a one shot deal, you have already wasted 8 wonderful years and if he doesnt appreciate you, someone else will!!!!

Answer 4

Probably. You have every reason legally and biblically to leave. Why are you staying? Do you want a disease or him coming to you telling you he got someone else pregnant? Your intuition is probably right. However, I will say, he did not have to tell you. Maybe he was just being honest or maybe he wants you to leave. 8 years thrown away is better than a lifetime. He seems to have no concern for your feelings or respect for you. You may not think so but you can do better. If you decide to stay with him. Keep in mind you can't legally hold this against him for years to come.

Answer 5

I would whip HER A**S & leave HIM.

Cheating is just totally UNACCEPTABLE. There's absolutely NO justification or excuse for cheating. That's the ultimate betrayal. How DARE he cheat on you???

That is so LOW a thing to do, especially in a MARRIAGE. He violated ALL of the rules, codes, promises, vows, the home, your marriage/relationship with him, EVERYTHING. He just totally disrespected the marriage AND you.

You'll always wonder whether he's cheating. Who wants to go thru that b.s.

LEAVE. You arent throwing away 8 yrs. - at this point that's all yall HAVE: ~~~> 8 years. But 8 years of WHAT????

Answer 6

so he cheated on you three weeks ago? anyways since i have been accused of the topic and will say this may take a little while to truely find out but chances are that if he continues or begins to distance himself from you more as days pass then yeah he probably is and you'll be better off cuting your losses, 8 years is along time to be with someone i know but you need to see what happens then make a decision hope this helps

Answer 7

ur not throwing away 8 yrs, he is and he needs a reality check. tell him u r feeling really low and cant go on if this woman is continually in ur lives. if that means he finds another job so b it. hes being very uncaring how the hell r u being crazy? hes told u he had sex with another woman who he prob sees more in a day than he sees u. put ur foot down. if he still doesnt get it clear off for a few days, tell him u need 2 get away to decide if u have a future 2gether. stay with relatives or watever and turn ur phone of. if he doesnt come crawling run for ur life. if he loved u he wouldnt put u through this crap. good luck

Answer 8

One thing I failed to do was change the cell phone bill to show the numbers that placed incoming calls to him. I had the calls he made. I didn't know that this was also available it would have answered a lot of questions for me. I was too trusting and later found out women after women. Presents that he bought with money needed for our home repairs not just repainting but major repairs. Expensive gifts!!! He flaunted his fun smearing our family name all over.

Answer 9

If you know in your gut that he is cheating and you want to try to save the marriage, you should sit down and talk to him honestly and with open communication.

Tell him you have the right to check up on him as he cheated on you. Tell him you knew in your gut before he told you and you still have a gut feeling that he is doing it. He should quit the job and find another place to work if he wants to work it out with you. He needs to know you will have questions and demand answers that are truthful. He needs to agree to counseling with you. You should also go by yourself.

I am sorry this has happened. I have boyfriends cheat on me and one that would just avoid all my attempts to bluntly ask him. He would just change the subject. It is far worse to find out another way and also embarrassing that others knew before you.

You deserve more respect than he is giving you. I admire you for wanting to try to save the marriage. I don't know that I could do that with the trust broken like that.

Hugs to you and best wishes to you. May God grant you the peace and strength to continue his will.

Answer 10

Show up at work, unannounced a couple of times. Bring him lunch or tell him he was on your mind and you just HAD to see him. If he is not cheating, he will glad to see you. If he is still messing around, he will be as nervous as a cat crapping razor blades.
Don't be afraid to do what you have to do .
P.S. He is right in the middle of the "7 year itch".

Answer 11

If you want the truth, be prepared for it. Quit asking your husband, he will lie! Go to the other woman. You will find out what you need to know. Stand up for yourself, and quit letting him walk over you. Snap out of this fairy tale life. Fix what is broken if it can be fixed, if not waste no more time and move on. Do you want to be happy? If yes, then show yourself the love, don't count on any man to give it to you. If that should happen, then there is your cake and eating it too! :)