she's married. We talk more than once per day and found that we have lots in common. We talk are also very attracted to each other and think the other's hot. We seriously want to act on our feelings and desires but feel we shouln't. Her husband does know about me and also allows her to see me but really isn't ok with as it as you would expect . I feel like a horrible person for possibly hurting a couple's marriage. Any comments and/or questions? Please be honest.
2007-05-31 11:06:45 · 23 answers · asked by Bones00 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am glad you said to be honest. I am one of the most honest people you would ever meet.
You need to stop talking to her period. Do not get in the way of a marriage that is in trouble.
Would you like it if you were her husband? Honestly? If they have problems, they need to work it out or end the relationship without you being in the way or trying to cause them to divorce.
Why would you want someone who would cheat on her Own husband? If she is cheating on him with you, then she probably has already done it before and would do it with you too.
Get out now. Don't let the devil keep putting those lustful thoughts into your head. Follow Gods advice. Stay away from married women. You obviously have more than just friends feelings and you need to stop talking to her. Don't answer the phone if she calls you. Do not call her.
People tend to get attracted to those kind of things because of a sense of adventure and excitement. What happens when the excitement wears off after she leaves him? She will find someone else to be excited over.
Find someone who is single and can devote all her time to you. I wouldn't want someone who has cheated on someone else, especially their spouse!
Go and volunteer somewhere and do good for other people. Take the time you spend with her and devote it to doing good for other people.
2007-05-31 11:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to wake up one morning and find this guy standing over you with a gun or a knife, then by all mean, go ahead with your desires. He already believes that you are attracted to his wife and her to you. But he dosn't have any real reasion to forbid it. Take a step back and leave there relationship alone, if it's truly ment to be then it will happen it it's own time, but don't do anything to rush it along. It will only cause hurt in the end.
2007-05-31 11:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by honest guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, she is a married women. Even though you are attracted to her. Remember the vows that are taken when two people are married. If I were you I would leave here alone until she makes a decision about her marriage. Think about it. Also you could be setting your self up to get hurt.
2007-05-31 11:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just don't like guys like you .You know shes married but yet you hang around with your tongs hanging out like a dog . You should feel like a terrible person because your acting like won . Stop sniffing her crotch and go fined a single woman to help you bury your bone. There all over the place . Come on I'm 51 years old and can walk down the road and fined a dozen of them whats your problem.
2007-05-31 11:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll give you a tip someone gave me years ago. I think it will help you.
Let's look at your post. It starts by saying: "I really like this woman I've met BUT she's married."
My friend said to me: IGNORE EVERYTHING BEFORE THE BUT.
Let's check your post again: "I really like this woman BUT SHE'S MARRIED".
If you ignore the first part, the second part gives you the answer: SHE'S MARRIED. As in committed, as in having a husband.
So I hope you do the right thing and use your head ...not your pants to deal with this. Remember..If you play with fire, sooner or later you will get burned!
2007-05-31 11:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get out of this relationship as fast as possible. If she would cheat on her husband, she would cheat on you. You say the husband knows of your friendship, but I bet he doesn't know how you two feel. You will save a lot of trouble in the future by staying out of this. There is someone better suited to you out there somewhere. GO
2007-05-31 11:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by Houston 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my morals I would say what you are both doing is wrong for the husband, especially if he cares for his wife. You should be the bigger man and break off the relationship. Nothing ever comes from dating someone who is cheating on their husband. It just might happen again and you may be the one in the husbands shoes. There are plenty of single women out there, trust me its not worth the trouble.
2007-05-31 11:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if she wants to be with you then why not?.. She obviously isn't completely happy with her husband or she wouldn't have these overwhelming feelings for you. I don't think that you should feel guilty for a possibility of ruining a marriage. I think you would feel worse letting go of this woman ... -- Chels<3
2007-05-31 11:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, you got the biggest step down...you realize what you are doing is wrong. She is a married woman! she is commeted to another man....since she is being unfair to her man there there is a chance that if you two ever get together she is going to be unfair to you too! Ok? she is a player...stay away. plus look at it this way....what would you think if you were in her husbands shoes???
2007-05-31 11:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone! It will come back to you. Obviously her husband isn't satisfying her, wait till she gets a divorce. Remember she will do the same to you.
2007-05-31 11:10:07 · answer #10 · answered by rebekalicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋