It sounds horrible, I know. And I'm not planning on having an abortion or anything like that-- of course I'll have the baby, which is what I'd planned all along. But I guess I'm just scared and kind of like... what was I thinking? I'm not ready to have a kid!
2007-05-31 10:43:36 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Its very normal to feel that way, its life changing, It would be weird if you didnt think about it! But you will be fine, trust me.
2007-05-31 10:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by SueWithTwo 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm 27 wks pg with my 4th child. I had the same feelings with all my children. It is life altering. The idea of a baby is wonderful and idealistic, but when it happens, reality just slaps you in the face. "What the hell was I thinking, am I really ready for a baby, birth and giving up my freedom????" Well the truth of the matter is, yep it's life altering and it is soooooo much more than you can ever imagine. No one expects you to stop worrying, it is completely normal, and it never stops. This is just the beginning of you doubting your abilities as a human and as a mother, but you will do just fine, you will make mistakes and you will probably break down and cry several thousand times, but it is all worth it. It's everything you never imagined and more. Your never going to be ready, I don't think anybody ever is, but you do your best and you love your child and it just works out, you'll see. Good luck to you!
2007-05-31 18:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by lisaar77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that way too, especially when it seems like things might not be going my way. I have been married for 6 years and have 2 beautiful daughters, but when I first found out I was pregnant again I was completely devastated. We were not trying or planning another child just yet, but we also were not doing anything to prevent. I can remember telling my husband that I just did not have the strength or energy to carry another baby, but here I am at 39 weeks and I am starting to feel like this is almost over. So everyone goes through some phase of self doubt when it comes to bringing another life into this world.
2007-05-31 17:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by momof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way, too. Of course I did not mean to get pregnant in the first place, it was quite a shock to find out that I was. I was terrified that I would be a horrible mother. However, once the baby is born, all of my second guessing went away.
2007-05-31 18:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me your moods and thoughts will change overnight. At first you will say why?! Than you will be happy and everything else in between. Did you hear the heartbeat yet? Are you afraid of not getting help with the baby. More people will help if you just ask.
I am having my second tomorrow and am turning 25 in a week. The thoughts have crossed my mind. But once you have the baby you feel like you can't live without them!
2007-05-31 17:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by eley6112 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its pretty normal to feel that way. i do not believe in abortion and would never have one.
but there are times where i think to myself, what am i doing? sure im 26, married, have a stable job and so much love to give, and this is a Very planned baby, but i do have doubts. i think what if im not a good mom, what if my kid hates me?, do i really know how to take care of a baby? who in their right mind would let me be responsible for another life?
and then i think, i am so ready for this. ive waited all my life to be a mom. im good with kids. he or she will grow up with 2 loving married parents. it is definitly the right time.
i think everyone goes through doubts and has panick attacks about being a parent, but in the end it will be so worth it.
good luck
2007-05-31 17:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went through that too, especially towards the end of my pregnancy, I started to panic a little. It's perfectly natural. But I'm sure you'll be fine. No one is completely ready for a baby. You have the baby and you learn from each day.
2007-05-31 17:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal to feel that way...I felt that way with my kids. It is just your hormones changing your system, trust me there will come a time when You will be extremely happy... We all get scared..It is a big change to have a child, someone that depends on you 24/7. I have two wonderful children...they are a wonderful blessing from God and I would not trade them for the world...
Good Luck and God Bless,
2007-05-31 18:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by Amber G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust Me!!! No one is ever 100% sure once they have what they have always wanted.
But the parent manual wont come in years to come either, so take it as a challenge and a fantastic life opportunity and enjoy it. Unfortunatley there is too many woman that cant experience it so consider yourself lucky. Your parent instincts will happen naturally as soon as your precious bundle arrives.
Good luck and best wishes!! I am sure you will be fine. Those feelings are normal.
2007-05-31 17:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All kinds of crazy things went through my mind when I was pregnant, it's probably just anxiety, I kept saying what if i don't like my baby, what if I'm an awful mother, but, needless to say, my little boy is fantastic, I love him soooo much!
2007-05-31 17:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Felt exactly the same way as you. Until I saw the sonogram pictures of my baby sucking his./ her in utero. Then I thought..."I can't thing of one other thing in whole world I'd rather be doing than this" Your thoughts are normal. Our hormones all whacked out too. you have to take that into consideration. Congrats!
2007-05-31 18:14:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋