Since I was a child I wanted to be a pro chef. I loved cooking since I can remember. I just don't want to impose it on my wife. She hasn't said anything and seems to like it but I do wonder if it makes her feel any less "womanly" (not trying to be sexist).
Should I give up the pans sometime? She does seem to smile a lot at what I cook.....
I just need some anonymous female advice.
2007-05-31 10:32:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, that would be great, especially if he cleans up the kitchen and does the dishes afterwards.
2007-05-31 10:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like cooking and planning dinner, but its nice when he does it too. But every night? I might just feel a bit displaced, for almost thirty years the kitchen has been my bailiwick and I'm known as an excellent plain cook. That's me though and this is you and if your wife wasn't known for her cooking before and shes smiling, shes probably happier to have you cooking. Radical thought here: Ask her.
The only time I would feel less womanly around a man is if he were pregnant. Guess that means I'm safe.
2007-05-31 10:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband does all the cooking, except when there is something I make that he really likes and then i'll cook. He loves cooking and he's great at it...trust me I feel no less "womanly" because I don't do the cooking...all the laundry, grocery shopping, dishes, mopping, dusting, scrubbing and cleaning remind me all the time how "womanly" i am...besides I think it's really sexy watching my husband cook!
2007-05-31 10:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by juda75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess it all depends if she enjoys cooking as well. I enjoy cooking and enjoy preparing meals for my family. I do wish however my husband would pitch in more. He prepares nice meals when he does cook but it has become less seldom that he takes over the pan. I am sure you do a nice job and she probably appreciates and enjoys your efforts. I would ask her and see if she would like to prepare some of the meals. She may just like things as they are.
2007-05-31 10:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by Penny D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't I mean I like it when my hubby cooks on the grille.But I am Italian and by nature a cook.So I prefer to do the cooking.But I bet your wife would love it if you offered to cook at least half the time.But make sure she knows it is because you like to cook.Not that she misunderstands your love for cooking for a dislike of her cooking.And no I don't know of any woman whom would feel like less of a woman.Because her hubby was willing to cook her a meal.You know you are married and you need to have good communication with your spouse.If you hope to have a long marriage.Why don't you share your dream of cooking with her.
2007-05-31 10:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my husband could cook (he can't) I wouldn't mind sharing the cooking, but don't think I'd like to give it up completely. I do like to cook too, so sharing would be better for me. But you're asking the wrong people.
Does your missus LIKE to cook, or is it a chore that she doesn't care for? You should know that. If she likes to cook occasionly, then share it with her, if not, it wouldn't make her feel "less womanly" not to do a chore she doesn't like.
2007-05-31 10:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love it when my man cooks for me. I enjoy cooking for him too. Best bet is to ask her. Communication is key to any relationship. Let her know how you love cooking for her all the time and if it bothers her. If she says you can do it all the time then great!. If she would like to cook for you too at times, let her. You guys can split it. Come up with a plan for who cooks when. My man basically cooks for me when I work late. I cook on dmy days off and when I am home at a decent hour.
Good luck!
2007-05-31 10:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by moo shell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is a chef. I never cook and I'm fine with it. I hate spending all day to cook a meal & clean it up, when you spend 10 minutes actually eating it.
Maybe try making dinner together. If she wants to be involved, that'll give her the opportunity. Studies have also shown that couples who cook together, stay together.
2007-05-31 10:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lol, can she cook. Honestly, I don't mind I love it when my man cooks for me. If she offers to cook then by all means let her. My husbands brothers wife is a BAD cook so he doesn't let her cook unless he's there to remind her not to burn or over salt the food.
2007-05-31 10:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by ...huh... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that would be great! If you are worried about imposing on her as a woman, then ask her if it bothers her. I'm sure she will appreciate the sensitivity to her feelings as much as she appreciates you cooking for her. Good for you!!
2007-05-31 10:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by Amy27 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't mind it so much if he did it because he really really wanted to, not because I was too busy working to cook for my family. I would also want to cook on occasion, at least once a week.
2007-05-31 10:48:31 · answer #11 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋