It used to be 3 of us, always together everywhere we went. Then I started dating a guy neither one of them thought was good for me. (BTW, this was 5 years ago and I am still with him) They both alienated me and I ended up cutting them both out my life. One of the girls I have known since I was 12 and the other I just met in college. I could care less about the college friend because the things she has done but my best friend, I miss. I introduced them and they didn’t even like each other at the beginning, I had to practically beg them to hang together. I think maybe the college friend did some brain washing and turned my best friend against me. I have heard tons of rumors on things they’ve said about what actually went down and I’m over it. I really want to know if there is a way I could mend my friendship with my best friend. The only problem is that she is now best friends with the college friend. How do I mend one friendship and not the other?
2007-05-31 10:22:54 · 7 answers · asked by SexyMommy2B 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Everytime you get serious about anyone it usually causes friction with friends usually due to time constraints. If you really want to reconnect with your friend talk to her. You may want to hang out just the two of you (ie. no boyfriend). Eventually she'll realize that your boyfriend is a big part of your life. And if she doesn't... well you tried. As far as your college friend is concerned - who cares what she says or does. Who cares if she's friends with your other friend or not. Don't say anything negative about your college firend to your other friend. Don't get involved in drama.
2007-05-31 10:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your on Yahoo! Answers asking this question about your once best friend she must really mean something to you ( I have faith you will get her back if your truthful), but do YOU mean something to her...Be bold bring up the good times that occured in the past and explain to her the truth. If she doesn't like your bf as of right now ask her what it really has to do deep down between what once was your friendship? The other girl seems catty, keep your enemies closer than your friends...mend the relationship with the catty college girl win your friend back..and dont be fake be Real and honest. Talk to them face to face no emails or letters......
;-) honestly conqueors
2007-05-31 17:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for missing your relationship with your best friend. However if she has been trash talking you and if she can be brain washed against you that easily, then she wasn't the friend you thought she was.
What you are missing was a fun relationship you had. It is not there any longer. Move on and make other friends.
It probably really grinds on your former friends that you are still with the same man. I am happy for you that you found the right one.
2007-05-31 17:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option. Maybe find time to have a chat with your old friend. You don't owe the college friend anything. Go out for a cup of coffee, and don't mention your boyfriend or the college friend. Talk about the things you use to do together, and make plans to do things with her and no one else. Your boyfriend should understand that you need your friends. since he doesn't like her it shouldn't be hard to convince him that he can't come. You don't need to find any reason why she should have to be around him, he is your man not hers. Let her know that you will always be there for her, but she needs to be there for you too. Good Luck
2007-05-31 17:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly ..i think you might have to just let her go...i mean regardless of who you are dating if she was a true friend she would have stuck with you..maybe you should just find a new friend...the best you could do is apologize..the rest is up to her..
2007-05-31 17:28:20 · answer #5 · answered by Nestle Dip!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let them know you miss them.. the past is the past and you cant fix it... but the future is always there to make up for any bad memories... if they are comprehensive they will be your friends again but if they argue about them just let it go... its not worth having them in your life anymore.. good luck
2007-05-31 17:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by cupids_victim11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her..
2007-05-31 17:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by my_comp_sucks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋