Well, I decided to give it a shot. I just found out yesterday we are having a baby boy... so, for this baby I'll do my best. Now, he wants to get himself a break... a F@@#@ Month Break. I don't know what to think... he's saying he loves me and he wants us to be very happy for the rest of our lives... but, a break??? He is renting an apartment, I guess. As soon as we fix our differences, we move back together, he says. How can he see I'm changing? How can I be sure he is not living the Vida Loca? How? If we are not together... and I don't even think we are going to even talk to each other during that F@#@ Break. I'm exhausted. Is this going to work, I ask? He seems to be happy about this thinking it'll work fine. He says he would do stuff with me over the weekends (he works his *** off anyway suring the week). Today, I came home and he already took one of our things... I guess everyday coming from work I'm going to find one thing missing from the house. Is this a man thing or what? HELP
2007-05-31 10:16:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whatever problems you guys have. Either he honestly thinks they are going to automatically fix themselves or he's trying slowly ween himself from you. I had a situation like this actually it worked out to our advantage. Honestly we were in more pain apart then together so eventually we decided that we both were being foolish. But we vowed to never do it again because in a marriage you are not supposed to run away from your problems you are supposed to face them together.
2007-05-31 10:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by ...huh... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off change the locks on your house. And if he says why then tell him that we are on a break and this is my house.
Its sounds to me like he wants to lead a double life. From personal experience and from what i have seen in others, a break never works. Either you are together trying to work out your problems or you are seperated (sounds like a serparation to me).. get him into marriage counselling, if he wants to save the marriage he will go.
I know its hard cause your pregnant but if he doens't want to move back into the family home and try to save your marriage he isn't worth your time.
2007-05-31 17:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is trying to inch his way out and already has plans.
I would tell him that if he wants a break he can consider it permanent. Really this is not normal and I highly suspect he has a replacement lined up.
Sorry but not doing you any favors to pull punches or be in denial.
Either he stays and has counseling, or I would boot him and forget about him. Baby or no baby you don't deserve to be treated like this.
Say goodbye and put your life back together. Be Strong!
2007-05-31 17:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No sweety this is not a man thing...Something is going on inside of your relationship that you have no clue about...And you cant fix differences if you two are seperated...The reason why people are supposed to get married is that they can stand together when times get rough...If one leaves than that leaves the other standing by themselves...You should sit and talk to your husband and try to work it out dont wait until he leaves.
2007-05-31 17:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by Lady_6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bonita, this guy is a jerk. You need to lose him. You just discovered you are pregnant and he wants to take off for an entire month? And do what? Chr+st! I wish I could tell you to get a gun and finish this jerk off, but I can't. Get your stuff. Move to a relatives. File for divorce. This guy is a wacko and a marriage with someone like that will never work. Get out while you can!
2007-05-31 17:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to leave stuff alone. Don't take nothing without asking first. ask if you need to change the lock for this break. Did he ask if this break is supose to prove something and if so what. seems to me that good time together will prove more. Like if you can stand to be around each other anymore.
2007-05-31 17:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that would be a great thing!
I never ever would take a break in my marriage because it would seem like he wants tp see other girls that is so weird!
Good luck!!
2007-05-31 17:26:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe that is fair. You should go visit him at the hotel everyday just to annoy him. How dare he leave you pregnant? Even with it being this early.
2007-05-31 17:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your joking, right???
You mean to tell me, your pregnant, and this moron is allowed to go get his own apartment????
He wants some on the side....and not from you....why are you putting up with this????? Why?!!
NO! Its not a man thing! Its a COWARD thing!!!!!
2007-05-31 17:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why would you need a break?? what for? try marriage counseling etc.
2007-05-31 17:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋