what is a friend?

Question

anyways ive been friends with this chick since middle school and well i thought she was one of my best buddies

so today we r hanging out and we r getting ready to go somewhere and her other friends come on over

and this really conceited girl tells my friend to go to her house,
practically grabs her from me so I tell her "We already have plans"

she goes "no were going to my house bye you cant come bye leave already"
im pissed off cause then my friend does nothing about it
she just stares and so i leave...extremely hurt

Im very hurt right now and angry at the same time

I thought she would say AT LEAST something to that chick but no she didnt do anything
if anyone badmouthed her I would defend her...she wont i guess

i dont feel like talking to her right now but Im gonna see her tomorrow and I know she wont stop bothring me if i ignore her
and its also immature

i dont know what im going to tell her
but ive been with her for so long
im confused

Answer 1

tell her what you have just wrote. she might not realise how much she has hurt you and unless you talk to her she wont understand why your upset. and if you do nothing and carry on as normal she might keep doin it to you
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Answer 2

Sounds like this other girl is a bit of a control freak, and is using her influence over your friend to make herself feel good, at the same time making you feel bad (cow!)
It's not a quick fix I know but you 2 go back a long way and have real bonds, I doubt this other girl will still be around in a few months or so. If you see her or them, just rise above it and smile at them.

Answer 3

I'd say you're both confused right now. She'd like a chance to hang out with the totally conceited girl, you'd like a bit of loyalty.

Here's what I think: if this other one is as conceited and vapid as you seem to think, then your friend will find it out soon enough and come back to you. If she doesn't, well, I'd say you have outgrown each other and it's time to move on.

But it wouldn't hurt to make a few other friends anyway.

Answer 4

I guess you have to get it into your skull that she is not your possession and has her own life to live. She can do as she pleases and there is nothing you can do about it!!!!
What you can do...as a true friend...is always be there for her whatever happens....be someone she can depend on whatever happens...that is what a friend is! Stop feeling sorry for yourself and be a friend to her! You will be a person of value in her life then......
Best wishes, Mike.