I'm 20, he's 18. By the way, be're both guys. It's been just a month since we've been boyfriends and it's been heaven...nothing seem to be wrong. I'm so so in luv with my guy and yesterday he asked me to have dinner in his house, his family we're not home. He baked a cake and there was a silver ring in the middle, he was kneeling and asked me if I would marry him..
Well my problem is that we're in an asian country that doesn't support gay marriage. He said someday we'll go to euprope and marry... I'm worried many things would happen along the way that might cause us to break up, well, it would break my heart too. I haven't answered yet... I said I would think about it and he said he understands
2007-05-31 08:53:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am more concerned that your talking marriage after a MONTH? Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.
Marriage is a serious commitment. You are promising in front of your friends, the state and even your God if you have one to live with this person - forever. Until you die. I would spend more then a month looking for a new car - I certainly would want to get to know the other person a little better.
Here are two choices for you.
Either say yes - but agree to a very long engagement - at least a year. Or, say - Not right now, but ask me again in six months.
You are both so young. People are always not quite themselves for the first year of life. I'd hate you to find yourselves stuck untangling yourselves from a stranger you thought you knew.
2007-05-31 09:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy H 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. You've only known each other for a month.
While "love at first sight" has been known to happen it is somewhat uncommon. You might just have a youthful infatuation (even at 18 and 20 the hormones are raging).
Why not just continue to "Go steady" as we say in the U.S. and after a more reasonable time period (maybe 1 year) see how things go. You may be right that something will happen to cause you to break up.
I guess it is safe to assume that the asian country you live in is not in favor of gay relationships. That just makes it more difficult for the 2 of you. What if his parents find out? What if your parents find out? Who knows if the conditions will ever be right for the 2 of you to get to a European country so you can marry (there aren't that many that allow that).
Whatever you decide to do, you have my sincerest wish for good luck.
2007-05-31 16:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a hard road traveled by many who get lost and loose their way. If you have fears, then they are justified. You have to ask yourself if that is something you are ready for, and then ask if he is ready for it. No more dating other people and being totally devoted to one another. Sure it sounds easy, but what happens five or ten years down the road when you wonder where time went, and why you never got the chance to meet other guys. It is, of course a decision only you can make, but think about your future and if this is truly and wholeheartedly the person you want to be with...you are still in the honeymoon stage of your relationship, things are great and you still have no idea of each others "skeletons in the closet"
2007-05-31 16:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by sunshinebear01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me the main issue isnt the fact that ur gay its really the fact that you said youve been together for a month. Really a month isnt long enough to make a life long commitment. I can reacal boyfriends i had for years and ended up turning out horribly. Let some time pass so you guys can get to know each other better and enjoy just being together.
2007-05-31 16:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by ssuscello22 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh.........I don't think anyone should marry after only a month! Maybe you two should wait and see how your relationship blossoms before taking such a big step. I don't think Europe is going anywhere! Just enjoy being a boyfriend for a while before you become a husband. Take care ;)
2007-05-31 16:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by sydney77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so worried and anxious over the future or other things you can't control. Enjoy the moment(s). Enjoy the "now". Look into his eyes and say "I love you". Have the time of your life NOW.
2007-05-31 16:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
belligerency ,is well enough for solving this problem.How it could be a solution when one masculinity urged for same gender to marry him!Marriage is the frame of sexual relationship with the photograph of mental synchronized tunes.Play your music according to your whims, but when your whims whipped your music ,you would become hearing-impaired.
2007-06-01 02:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by Biswanath B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing you need to ask yourself is do you love him and do you want be with him for the rest of your life. If you love him do accept his proposal because he loves you too.
2007-05-31 17:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by A Journey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he look nice in frilly panties? Does he prance around like a cute little pixie? Does he look inviting when he is on all fours? All this stuff needs to be considered. A decision like this is not easy to make. Relax, take a deep breath, and take it one day at a time.
2007-05-31 16:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell him u love him more than anything and u will answer this question in a years time. believe me, patience is a virtue and it sounds like u guys will be in love forever. do not rush, young grasshoper
2007-05-31 16:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋