Do you believe in spanking ?

Question

I dont have children, but I do deal with them daily. why is it that people think if you spank a child it solves the problem ? I am not against a simple spanking when needed, but when you and your wife/husband have a problem you dont go around hitting each other, Why ? Cause it's wrong. So if the right thing to do is talk it out and try to fix it why dont we believe that when it comes to kids ?

Answer 1

Spanking is not always the best punishment. However, reasoning with children is not always an option. I have two very energetic boys. I can talk until I am blue in the face, take aways toys, TV, cartoons, snack, have time outs, whatever it is you choose. But when they still don't listen/hear what I am trying to say, a swat on the tush shows them that I am serious.

Think back when you were a kid. Was it the thought of doing something bad or the fear of the punishment that kept you from doing something wrong. For me, it was the later. Unfortunately, apples don't fall far from the tree. Spanking may not be necessary for all children, but to say that it point blank wrong.....have kids and get back to me.

Answer 2

People spank their children for the same reason men used to hit their wives. It is just the way that they were brought up.

The research shows very clearly that spanking harms children. The statistics show very clearly that children who are spanked commit more crimes and have more psychological problems than kids who are not. But people don't want to look at the evidence before forming thier beliefs - they can't be bothered.

Every single national pediatric, psychological and psychiatric organization in the entire western world condemns spanking, with a single exception. People just ignore them. When they get a fever, they will listen to medical science, but suddenly when the topic turns to spanking they think the medical establishment is populated by idiots who don't know what they are talking about.

People will even just pretend that spanking isn't sexual. All it would take them is investing a minute to typing the word "spank" into Google and seeing how many sex sites they pull up. Heck, they could even type the word "spank" into Yahoo Answers and see all the perverted questions they find. But they would rather shut their eyes and ignore the fact that the thing they are doing with their child is exactly what a huge proportion of American adults do for sexual fun.

Also, the Bible does NOT say "spare the rod and spoil the child". Check for yourself if you have a Bible - it isn't in there. Before quoting the Bible, please read it.

Answer 3

Well, I am a firm believer in the Biblical saying, "Spare the rod, spoil the child." Now, don't get me wrong, I do not agree that it is good to hit children, but when they do wrong, most times they know it. If this be the case (adults can tell most of the time), then spanking is justified. My children are all grown now, and they have faults. They are however, not doing drugs, stealing cars or are in jail. They are good adults, because they were taught well, and disciplined as kids. I know I will probably get some thumbs down on my answer, but I can live with it. I would not have been able to live with my kids turning out to be rotten adults, just because, I was against spanking them. My wife was into the counting thing, when they did wrong. This worked until she got to 10, then the kids, would do whatever they were doing in the first place. When I told them twice to stop their acting up, then spanked them when they didn't, the kids stopped acting up and behaved themselves. I have no bad feelings or feel any remorse for what I did. I feel it was right and I stand by my decision. By the way, it works on grandkids, too.

Answer 4

NO! I was never spanked when I was a child and turned out just fine. My parnets believed in sitting us down and talking to us about what we had done wrong, or if we broke any rules.

When I sometimes see parents hit there children, some of them go overboard and I get tears to my eyes. You never now, some of these parents may be stressed out, and when they decide they need to spank there children, you never know they just might accidentally take their frustration out on kids. Like I said before...sitting down and teaching your child about boundaries, rules and respect is the best thing I have found. I guess some parents feel spanking is alot easier and less time consuming and would rather raise there hands.

Answer 5

Spanking should not be the first response but it should not be ruled out. Unfortunately not all children are the paragon of selflessness and virtue we would like them all to be. Instead they are self absorbed individuals who generally want to do what they want when they want without any thought to the repercussions. In my home we first attempt to try to discuss any issue looking at how all parties are affected. If that does not work then we proceed to restriction and chores. If those fail to work then we resort to the threat of physical punishment and finally when all other tactics fail physical punishment is delivered. The child is made to understand exactly why they are being punished and are reminded as too how many alternatives were presented. This technique has resulted in me having to discipline my children very few times. The key I believe that the punishment is obvious, and deliberate by this I mean the child understands exactly what they did to create the undesirable situation. If the threat of violence is hollow and not followed through the children quickly understand that the parent will not follow up the threat and therefore have no need to comply.

Answer 6

im only 18, i dont have kids, but i understand what you are saying. i have actually thought about that. there was even an article in the daily news after the death of nixmary brown about how there are laws against hitting an adult, but there are ones protecting parents if they spank their kids. personally, i dont think it should ever be needed unless the child is hurting someone, because you know, its obvious. i dont need to go into detail. lol i think some parents do it because they dont know how to solve problems efficiently and they dont want to try. some people should never have kids.

Answer 7

We were raised that spanking is the way to teach children right fro wrong. Many studies have shown that spanking is actually very ineffective as a means to change behavior. All that it accomplishes is to teach the child that hitting is OK, as long as you are bigger. Being positive and setting limits is much more effective.

Answer 8

Not, not, not!!!! I will never believed in spanking such a loving creatures, though I will spank any so call grow-up, trying to do so, and yes is wrong, I can't not add more, about that to say I believed in Jesus Words, HIM many times directed to Children's, "treat then like you will treat me" or else!!!, I which peoples begin to understand, that If God can do something for his own Son, he will treat children's like God's, and so we can too. Just to follow, revered, and obey, Jesus Desires, Children's are our Future, we need to care, protect, love and guide then, in the right direction.

Answer 9

Spanking a child teaches that pain follows a mis-demeanor, the child can connect the pain instantly to wrong-doing, and can appreciate that they have been punished.
There is little point in entering a philosophical discussion with a 5 year old, because by the time that you have made your point, they will have forgotten why you are stealing their toys.

Answer 10

The kid has to be at least a certain age before you can reason with them. Before about 6-8, they simply don't have that capability. They may hear you, but it's like the Farside cartoon where the dog hears "blah blah blah REX blah blah".

But you don't need to hit them. Time outs work well, as well as just using basic parental authority. Tell them "NO", and take away a favorite toy for a day or two, for example. That worked well for my son.