When have you ever felt stuck in your life???& and how did you become unstuck?

Question

What age? in what....marriage, career, education etc....

Answer 1

As a songwriter, I'm always getting stuck. I get stuck in the middle of writing a song. I get a new book to write in and can't quite put the pen to that first page. I get stuck in an idea and write it over and over again, telling myself I'll get it right next time. When I was living on the streets I swore I was going to die there, and get found on somebody's sidewalk leaning against their door, trying to suck the heat out of the cracks. When I was in the Army I swore I was going to be a specialist all my life, because I couldn't possibly sell out to the nonsense I had to spew to get promoted to sergeant. As a musician I get to certain plateaus and swear I am never going to get any better. What I eventually learned however, at great personal cost, was that all I had to do was change directions for awhile. The secret is to do something, anything, different until that difference broke me out of my mold and allowed me to see something different that was flirting with me out of the corner of my eye. The irony is that I have to keep learning this same thing all over again. You think I would make myself a huge poster and put it up over my computer screen (you can't see anything for all the white out on it anyway. gotta stop making so many typos) If I can't get any better on an instrument, I just start playing some other instrument until I see a parallel. If I can't write a song, I write slogans, or limericks, or anything else that will keep my brain moving in another direction until I catch the next on ramp.

Answer 2

Six years ago I gave up a college teaching career and moved back home to take care of my mother, who has Alzheimer's, so right now I'm in a holding pattern. For the past year, although I hold a secondary teacher's certificate, I have worked as a substitute teacher in the local ISD--apparently, Ph. D's need to prove they have the moxie to teach in the public schools.

Usually, I'm not so much discouraged as frustrated because it's difficult seeing a once vibrant and accomplished woman slide deeper into senility; and so far at least, I haven't had any down time [apart from substitute teaching in inner-city schools]. I take comfort in hearing about how other acquaintances have handled similar circumstances as well as realizing that this too must pass.

Answer 3

Everyone feels that way at least sometimes or all the time. I am 26, and I feel that being in your 20s is really hard. (Look up 27 club on wikipedia, the amount of famous artists/musicians who kill themselves around that age despite having success is amazing.) In your mid twenties, the pressure is on to make up your mind, your not a teenager anymore, you'll be thirty soon, etc.
But feeling stuck usually that means you need to do something with your time or make a change.
If you go to the bookstore, the new age or postive living section has lots of books about finding your purpose. I like one called Ask and It is Given. Check it out. Also check out books on Edgar Cayce.

Answer 4

Right now!
If I knew how to become unstuck, I would.
It is the not knowing that has kept me stuck.
Then again, I think people mean different things when they use the word stuck. One person's feeling of stuck is another's paradise and vice versa. Perception can play a big part.

Answer 5

I'm stuck now with my career. I think that my marriage, finishing college, and having two kids in two years came so fast that I ended up in a sucky job that may make good money, but doesn't fulfill me. I'm looking into leaving now...I'm 25 now, so hopefully I won't be 26 before I'm unstuck : )

Answer 6

I can't tell if anyone else has answered ck1's first clue, so my guess is White Fang. After rereading the clue, I think I'm definitely wrong. Thanks for the hint, anyway. Oh good, at least I was close! I haven't read Call of the Wild yet. Clue: I don't know why these people keep flocking to me. They keep saying, "Only you understand." I think one of them is insane. My hands bother me. I wish I could see my friend; only he understands me. Hint: the character whose viewpoint I am speaking from kills himself near the end. Hmm... I wonder if anyone here has read it... it is a classic, but not a very well known one. It's Southern Gothic, if that helps. TW K, is #5 The Necklace, by Guy de Maupassant? Ck1, for your #4, this is a wild guess, since I know little about it, but one of my mom's favorite plays is The Importance of Being Earnest. Is that it? TW K, if it weren't for the oak tree, I'd think #6 was The Tempest. Oh! I wonder how I forgot that detail.

Answer 7

I think I get stuck most when worrying too much about what
others think about me. If I make this mistake then I tend
to spend time trying to repair an image that was never
damaged to start with. Essentially, the effort is a waste
of time which would have been better placed in establishing
forward momentum for real progress.

Answer 8

At age 39, with two kids and shift work I don't like, went back to university... I made a decision to stop talking about it and do it. Simple but very hard to do.

At 43, with few friends or social life, I started asking people out for coffee, movies, bbqs. Again, simple decision to make, hard thing to do when you aren't used to it.

Far from finished, but for me, I have to make the decision and then FOLLOW THROUGH, which is the hard part.

Economics... when the pain of being stuck outweighs the benefits of being stuck, it's in your best self-interest to do something to change.

Peace

Answer 9

I would feel stuck every day if I weren't to look for new challenges. Although the feeling of being stuck normally comes when you are not satisfied with the general outcome of something...It basically is a situation where the bad outweighs the good, but you are not able of (or you are afraid) of doing anything to redress it.

Answer 10

Technically we are all stuck in life. There is only one way out -but I prefer the challenges of life to the alternative.