2007-05-31 07:57:13 · 39 answers · asked by wowcanusayit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my opinion, based on experience - it's a bad thing. Might 'sound' like an adventerous thing to do - but going outside of your marriage for sexual activity usually results in problems you have not considered prior to the engaging in this behavior. Introducing a third party - especially another female - is going to result in your husband paying alot of attention to said female. It's only natural - he's never touch, tasted, or been with her. You he has. Even if he means well - it's going to happen.
Here's a couple of scenarios that I want you to seriously think about:
You and your husband are kissing, and he turns and starts kissing this other woman - he rolls towards her, you are at his back and starts touching her.
She is astride him, and he is totally and completely focused on her. You are watching.
Those two scenarios would send me into the stratosphere with jealousy. When you get married - it's 'i'm his, he's mine' til death do us part.
Go buy a love swing - go buy the body bouncer - go get a vibrator or some other sexual toy (non-human) to spice up your sex life.
Good luck
2007-05-31 08:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a nice Idea but I wouldn't surprise him with it. these things often end an otherwise good relationship due to jealousy. I would be up front with what you want to give him and then discuss rules and boundaries you both want to follow (like no penetration with the other female, stuff like that) the better prepared you, your husband, and the other partner are, the less likely it will disrupt your relationship. It would also be good to have all three of you get tested for STDs before anything happens...you never know, right?
2007-05-31 08:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by violet1656 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's women like you that make the world go round. More women should be as open minded as you.
There is a couple points that should be braught up though. After 13 years I'm sure that you two are more then comfortable with your relationship and as long as you think your marrige can handle this then there should be nothing to stop you. You should also make it clear that this is a birthday presant and it's not going to happen all the time (unless you want it to). And that if it does ever happen again, that you will pick the 3rd party and not him.
2007-05-31 08:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by honest guy 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Have you two discussed this type of situation in the past? It can be great or it can wreck a relationship. Be SURE of what you are doing before you bring a playmate into your bedroom...there can be no jealousy or insecurity in your relationship (on your part of his).
Will you choose someone you know to be the 3rd, or a stranger? If it's someone you know, how will you handle associating with them later? Will there be any rules? Is penetration okay? Oral? Will he be required to wear a condom with her? Will you and she play or he and she or all 3? If you and she play, how will you protect yourself from STDs?
Make sure you've got it all lined out and are sure of your decision before you move forward...it may sound like a simple and fun adventure for a few hours, but you can end up with more than you bargained for.
2007-05-31 08:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like fun, I'll be right over! Just kidding about the coming over part. Just be careful,as these things sometimes lead to the husband sleeping with the third party while the wife isn't around. If you can trust him not to do that, you'll have a BLAST!
2007-05-31 08:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
first of all a threesome is not the end of a relationship nor does it mean you automatically are not enough for him anymore. just be sure you are totally comfortable with the idea. i know folks who have done it and are still together. i aslo know folks who done it and the wife divorced him & hooked up with the other chick. enjoy
2007-05-31 08:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by big D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds good and it probably is but there could be issues that could come up in the future. Will you also get your threesome for your birthday?
2007-05-31 08:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by davey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is your choice, but can you sit there and say you are only going to feel aroused seeing and watching him do another woman? What about after wards are you 100% sure this one time is going to be enough or is it going to open up a lot more issues. Think long and hard on this before you decide. Me personally, no way, I dont share-guess my parents didnt raise me right.
2007-05-31 08:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
A K above me is a stupid idiot...."obviously the women don't like sharing but the men don't mind"...what a retard! Men only want MFF not MMF! Yeah right, try inviting ANOTHER MAN into the bedroom! See how well that will fly!
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2007-05-31 08:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not if divorce is what is on your mind. Why mess with a good thing? I've known people who thought they "could handle this." They couldn't.
2007-05-31 13:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋