well,i'm an egyptian guy,i met my american wife when she was in egypt,we stayed together there for a while she used to yell at me all the time about stupid stuff(real stupid stuff),and when i got disppointed becuz of that she told me she is just unhappy becuz she is far from her country and family,we moved her and the first day again she yelled at me for something stupid,and then after a while she told me she wanna (lose weight and get another boyfriend),beside she keeps accusing me for using her to move to the states,i dont know what to do,i just feel so helpless and i really hate being controlled by her,and i was just wondering if that was just a bad decision of me or that's how all the american women r!!!
2007-05-31 07:39:37 · 28 answers · asked by neo n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i talked to her many times before,at first she was ok about talking but now actually everytime i try to open my mouth about anything even to ask about something she rolls her eyes on me so i just stop talking and tells her "ok,i will stop" and she smiles becuz she knows she had it her way,so talking to her is useless,she is the only one who can say what she wants when she wants otherwise i'll get kicked out becuz she know i have nobody else here in the country
2007-05-31 08:01:34 · update #1
it is very imoprtant ,I am egyptian and my wife is american too . I hope you could email me we can talk more about that
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2007-06-03 09:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by Ed J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say I am sorry you are in this situation. It's a tough place to be. To answer your question, No, all American women are not this way. I am very kind and nurturing and fair, and I know many others like me. I wonder though, just from the way you speak of her, are you in love with her, or were you before you started having problems? That may be a big issue. I think it's possible that she may have some mental health issues that may need professional attention. First, you have to decide if you really love her and want the relationship to work. Then you have to decide if she loves you as well. Then talk with her openly about the problem, see if she can tell you some ideas in areas where you can help her too. You have to work on things together, as a team or else nothing will change. If she is not willing to work on things with you and doesnt see a problem with her behavior and disregards your feelings then you may just be better off with someone else. I hope this helped you. Best Wishes that you may find happiness and love.
2007-05-31 14:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wives behavior is not how all American woman are! You just picked the wrong woman, American or not! It sounds like your life is miserable and you made a mistake. If you really want to work on the marriage then get counseling but it has to be something you BOTH want to work on. If she has told you she wants to lose weight and get a different boyfriend then it sounds like she's ready to move on with another, so let her go! Don't let this woman color your perception of American women because are not all the same! Get out of this unhappy relationship, get some back-bone and stand up to her and give her the divorce she seems to be wanting! Don't let her controlling ways stop you from doing what needs to be done! Good luck!
2007-05-31 14:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by smackthat27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women are like that. Sometimes women have problems and men don't understand. I yell alot, but I understand why and my man does too. I have bipolar disorder and it causes me to have severe mood swings. I can go off about anything. Take her to a therapist if she seems to have symptoms of ANY mental illness or if you want to try to save your marriage.
She may be just insecure and maybe unhappy. Try being more romantic, gently explain that you do not understand why she is yelling at you and that you feel attacked when she does this.
Take away her excuses. If she says you used her to get to the States, the offer to move back to Egypt. If she says it is because you didn't take out the trash, walk it out to the curb. If things don't change, seek a therapist. It can't hurt, but it could save your marriage.
2007-05-31 15:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by † Seeker of Truth † 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No thats not how all american women are. First of all your wife was living an another country with no family or friends.
She felt lost, but if you have relocated back to the US, and she still treating you bad, sit down and have a good heart-to-heart talk with your wife. Maybe her weight makes her feel unattractive. Get counceling if need be, but dont right off a marriage until your both sure thats what you want. For heaven sake dont blame all apples if you got one. Hate is a very strong word -- when you hate you hate yourself within.
2007-05-31 14:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all American women are like that. Sounds like you found a tough one that needs some counseling or something. Although without hearing her side of the story it is hard to really say. Just keep trying to talk to her about it and maintain open communication. I hope it works out for you.
2007-05-31 14:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by upnorthguy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can kind of understand how she feels. I'm from England and my husband is American. We decided to live in the states because he has a young son. I'm terribly homesick--even after 9 years. It doesn't get any easier for me and I sometime feel like it's all my husband's fault and yes, I do yell at him because he's pretty much all I have (my real family's still in England). She was probably lonely being in a foreign country, and because you're closest to her she "blames" you. Good for you for moving to the U.S. to try to help her. I'm working on trying to get my husband to move to England but no luck so far. Be patient with her. Hope everything works out!
2007-05-31 14:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by pixilatedpenguin75 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a Divorce and Move on with your Life.
- Not all American Women are like your Wife Everyone from Any where are different.
2007-05-31 14:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, sounds like a bad decision to me. She sounds like a controlling, manipulative b*tch to me. I recommend getting out of the marriage - investigate an anullment and how that would affect your ability to stay in the US. She is not a representative of all American women!! I am a compassionate, supportive and caring wife. There are times when my hormones freak out and I become bossy and moody, but that's only once in a while. Good luck!
2007-05-31 15:10:52 · answer #9 · answered by ckgusto 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you two thought about going to Marriage counseling?
Ask yourself this, why did you get married in the first place?
I think that people don't really take the time to think about this seriously, they just jump in to fast. Marriage is very special and needs to be thought out thoroughly. Also , you need to disuse all the importance issues before you say I do.
2007-05-31 14:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by pink rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not all american women are like that, it sounds like your wife is unhappy and no matter what you try to do you won't make her happy the only person that can make her happy is herself. Leave her and move on find someone that will appreciate you.
2007-05-31 14:47:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋