I pay 50% of my paycheck in childsupport. I barely have enough left to live off of much less get a lawyer. My boss has cut my hours, so now it's worse. If it wasn't for a very dear friend and family i wouldn't make it. I can't afford a lawyer and I'm ready to just give up on ever seeing my children again.
2007-05-31 07:01:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-05-31 07:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Life Rocks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you'll check the statistics, you will see that after a divorce, the man is most often financially better off while the woman/mother is left to raise the kids on a shoestring. If you have no money, why not? Of course you'll have to pay child support but if your job has less hours now, get a second job.
2007-05-31 07:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't just give up. If you have been ordered by the court to pay child support, you have to until they are 18 whether you see them or not. If not, you go to jail. Try looking for a second job. I know you feel you are working your fingers to the bone, but there's nothing you can do. Plus, since you have less hours at this job, it will be easier for you to work another part-time job.
2007-05-31 07:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....then get a 2nd job...if hours were cute then that means u have more time to go get job number 2 and that can support u and job number 1 can support your kids. life is not ideal my dear ...you should already know that.i know it must be rough but that is how life is. it has its challanges. i am a divorced and married again mom that lives in a very expensive area and i too had to go back to work and i work 50+ hours a week so i can help my new husband and our children with bills and living expenses...so ....that is life....
2007-05-31 07:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by NEWPORT BEACH GIRL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could file for joint custody and then you wouldn't have to pay child support. You would get your children more often then you already do and you would have to make sure that they get to school on time and all that for it to work out but if you could do it I think hiring a lawyer might save you money in the long run.
2007-05-31 07:06:12 · answer #5 · answered by **Angel** 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2007-05-31 07:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dont give up on your kids...they really need you more than you could ever know....do anything to spend as much time with them as you can....get a second job nights and save the money until you can fight for your kids. BE A MAN
2007-05-31 07:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a copy of your visitation order, you won't need a lawyer. Just take a copy to your local police and have them enforce the order.
Never give up on seeing your kids. You fight for your rights until the day you die.
2007-05-31 07:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all men do lose, my ex-husband has custody of our son because i was considered to be an unfit mother. i went through a very hard time in my life losing my dad, as he died in my arms and I blamed myself and attempted suicide and my ex-husband got custody and I am glad so that my son was in a better place so he didn't see me going through all of the depressing emotions that I was going through. My son has lived with my ex-husband for 11 years and it hasn't been that bad for him and me and my ex have actually become friends again and his girlfriend and I are friends to so it is good for my son. My son knows all about why things worked out the way they did as I don't lie to him and I never will, it makes him understand life and makes him prepared for the real world. Don't give up and realize your kids will know how much you love them and see it through how you fight for them and the time you spend with them. Good Luck and just love them as much as possible when you have them!
2007-05-31 07:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look for a job with better pay. i would also take my divorce papers and if I have a right to custody, I would have the law or the courts to enforce it. Don't give up on seeing your kids!
2007-05-31 07:09:47 · answer #10 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋